Just another idea to consider -- wasn't Calian having an affair with the Empress of Orlais? She was a ruler in her own right and was able to keep him around her finger. Being Alistair's mistress doesn't mean you're a kitchen servant waiting to be summoned to his private quarters. It just means you've got the attention of the most powerful man in Ferelden.
I find that theory highly unlikely. The biggest 'proof' of it is Loghain (hardly rational on the subject or Orlais as it is and already someone was going to try to remove Anora from power) looked at the casual note from Celene about a permanent alliance and the note from Eamon reminding Cailan that Anora still had no children and skydived to conclusions. Orlais and Ferelden are really too far away to be able to meet up in secret for an affair and if there were enough visiting of each others' land then people wouldn't have been so surprised they were brokering an alliance. And the 'familiar' note reads like a note between friends without all the courtly formalities that befits their station, not even remotely a lover thing.
And furthermore, did you ever look down on Gorim because he could never be accepted as your mate, much less as a husband? No. If Gorim is good enough for you as a lover, why not have the same concept apply towards being Alistair's mistress? I don't think Anora is ever going to have a child and Alistair isn't likely to have one either. I don't think either of them will have a heir. So I would assume you'd still have Alistair all to yourself with him as sole king.
I admit their are parallels but also some fundamental differences. She was hardly involved with anyone else or Queen so it was more like she had a secret boyfriend than a male mistress. Alistair was going to need to get married once he took the throne, whether to Anora or to someone else, because he needed to try for an heir. If the DN hadn't been exiled and had been chosen as Queen after Endrin died that relationship also would have had to end for similar reasons. I'd compare dating Gorim to be more like dating Alistair pre-Landsmeet, which is perfectly fine if both partners understand it's only going to end when Alistair becomes King (which Alistair insists on being in denial about and my DN is not willing to go through again so soon after the last doomed relationship). It's only demeaning once you become the other woman and he gets a legitimate wife. If it was an open secret and everyone knew that she was his mistress that would only make it worse. She was born a princess and is now a Paragon and she's supposed to settle for freaking concubine? As if. The very idea is insulting.
Indeed. But that's leaving dwarf society, and we wouldn't want that, would we?
I'm actually curious as to why more casteless don't leave. I mean, anyone from servants up, sure, but they're actually a
part of dwarven society. Is it just fear and misinformation about the Surface? That's what Zerlinda said about why she was planning on raising her baby in Dust Town instead of on the Surface.
Technically, even males can be noble hunters and if they produce a daughter with a noble woman, he and the daughter should be elevated. Not suire that exists though.
I highly doubt it would and not for sexist reasons, either, but classist. If a man gets a noble-hunter pregnant and she has a daughter she just wasted a year of her life and has another casteless child to look after but it's really not much of an inconvenience to the noble. Sure he might have been taking care of the potential mother of his son, but he's not obligated for his daughter and can either try again or ditch her. If a noblewoman has a casteless son then not only did SHE just waste a year of HER life but her child is (from her perspective) worthless and can't be a part of her House. And do we really want to know what would happen to the son? Would the father be willing to take him in? And disregarding that, males are highly unneccesary for the role. Casteless women = more noble babies. Casteless males...not so much. If a noblewoman decides to have children, she can simply marry a nobleman and assure that all of her children will be a part of her House.
It is worth considering that while Bhelen does what he does and get's king he also makes a lot of changes for the betterment of his people, for no gain of his own ( unless you can count assassination attempts a gain ).
It's not for personal gain? Not only does dissolving the Assembly give him more power but his reforms and strengthening of the dwarves as a whole benefit their leader greatly. Why would he want to rule over one little city when he can expand to the Deep Trenches or beyond? People who go out and make their nation bigger often do so for their own glory or power. And if the nobles or warriors attempt a coup, he now has his own personal fighting force that know he is their only hope as the coup is largely
about them and 'putting them back in their place.' Bhelen is good for the dwarves, I know, but it's hardly
selfless.