cmessaz wrote...
Brings me to this: Anora is not an option. This says something about her. My point I guess is that the mistress ending, while he says sweet things, is not appealing to me. I know that I would not be able to be at court with queen nearby knowing that I'm bonin her husband. Akward! And I just would rather end the relationship than be his side dish. That is just the way I think. In the movie, Elizabeth, she says this to that one dude (my memory issues again): "You love me so much you'd have me be your ****?" That is what I think.
I can understand this, but this is how I see it: She's screwing my PC's husband. At least, she's doing that in the limtied time frame where they are trying to have an heir.
In everything but the formal,
my PC
is his wife, and it's only racism and the political reality that forces them to bow to the formality. The queen is the figurehead. She gets to have power, my PC gets to have the man. That is why I see Anora serving this role as preferable to Bimbo Bannorn- with Anora, you know she is a) experienced in how it works, and

power-hungry enough that this is actually giving her what she most wants. In this society, everyone knows how this game is played.
As for it being degrading, yes it is, but as an elf, you live degradation in Ferelden one way or another. As chancellor-mistress, you get the last laugh.