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[Paul Mihalek]

Well your not really dating her so , can't get mad , but i still would 'nt like it either.

[Lord Thing]

I can't say I've had any experience in this area, so I can't say for sure, but I doubt my opinion would change much. I would probably be a little disappointed at first, but I'd get over it pretty quickly.

Of course that all depends on who they slept with, lol.

Personally, I'm a save it for marriage kind of guy, but I'm not naive enough to assume that any girl I'm interested in will have the same values, and I'm ok with that, ultimately it's their choice.

[Kalithera]

I'm waiting until marriage, and I dunno if I could have respect for my partner if he didn't do so as well.

[Archdemon Cthulhu]

The whole concept of the "pure" virgin is a little absurd to me. Sex sucks the first time you do it. It's awkward and for the woman it can even be painful (even if done correctly). Sex takes practice and experience to make it really good, so I don't understand "saving" oneself and I especially don't understand desiring a virgin, they're clueless. It's like a chore trying to tell them what to do. I would only date a virgin if it was someone I fell in love with accidentally, too much work.



People make a big deal about sex, and they shouldn't. Don't get me wrong, if you're n a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be sleeping around, but the idea of calling a woman a **** because she is experienced boggles my damn mind. Sex is just sex. It's no big deal on its own. It's only what you make of it.

[chiliztri]

IMO, it's a natural reaction to be upset when the person you like is with someone else. Whether it be sex, relationship, kissing, etc.

Thinking less of that person is a coping mechanism, a way to make yourself feel better after a perceived rejection. I think both reactions are completely natural. Just my take on things.

I don't get the whole virginity craze either. I don't understand why there is so much obsession with it? Especially for girls...I mean, why is an intact hymen so desirable and such a fixation for men? Not to mention as a girl if you aren't a virgin you're automatically labeled as impure and a sl*t.

Modifié par chiliztri, 01 mai 2010 - 04:27 .

[Godak]

If the most important thing in a relationship is how much sex the other person has/hasn't had, then you're doing it wrong.

[chiliztri]

Godak wrote...

If the most important thing in a relationship is how much sex the other person has/hasn't had, then you're doing it wrong.

As expected of my e-brother. That was insightful.

[the_one_54321]

Captain Cornhole wrote...
Cause this recently happend to me (not trying to wallow is self pitty) , I like a girl. She has sex with another guy.  And my opinon of that person went south.  And I was like

If my memory serves, you're in high school. Try not to dwell on it so much. It becomes far less a big deal as time goes on. I know it's giong to bother you a lot now, just try and tell yourself that better girls will come along. Eventually everything will be just fine, even this girl that's disappointed you.

Kalithera wrote...
I'm waiting until marriage, and I dunno if I
could have respect for my partner if he didn't do so as well.

I have a great deal of respect for people that stick it through wtih this kind of thing. But, my pragmatic side would like to say that you're probably waiting for a ship that will never come, or else cutting yourself off from a lot of really great guys that didnt' wait.

Two times in my life I was in a serious relationship with girls who said "we're waiting until we get married." I said "I love you, so ok." I never got any. They didn't end up waiting once they ran into a guy that said "I love you but I won't wait." I then vowed never to date another girl that wanted to "wait until marriage." 

Modifié par the_one_54321, 01 mai 2010 - 04:40 .

[Gecon]

Of course they are all ****s and pimps !

Seriously, most of the time I wouldnt even know. How did YOU find out about it, anyway ?

And I usually expect people to have sex, yes. I dont know too many monks and nuns, after all. And it usually doesnt bother me at all.

The exception is of course if I'm interested in a girl. Then I would mind if she has sex with somebody else.


P.s.: Oh, and about the virgin thing, I'm with the "no sex before marriage" crowd. I'm christian and a romantic, after all.

Modifié par Gecon, 01 mai 2010 - 05:47 .

[kraidy1117]

Ask if we can roll our oats.

[Highdragonslayer]

a girl/guy who has sex with someone couldn't survive the zerg swarm

[chiliztri]

Stop spamming you aren't amusing or clever.

[Dark Lilith]

Archdemon Cthulhu wrote...

The whole concept of the "pure" virgin is a little absurd to me. Sex sucks the first time you do it. It's awkward and for the woman it can even be painful (even if done correctly). Sex takes practice and experience to make it really good, so I don't understand "saving" oneself and I especially don't understand desiring a virgin, they're clueless. It's like a chore trying to tell them what to do. I would only date a virgin if it was someone I fell in love with accidentally, too much work.

People make a big deal about sex, and they shouldn't. Don't get me wrong, if you're n a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be sleeping around, but the idea of calling a woman a **** because she is experienced boggles my damn mind. Sex is just sex. It's no big deal on its own. It's only what you make of it.

a gold star and move to the head of the class!

[Highdragonslayer]

chiliztri wrote...

Stop spamming you aren't amusing or clever.

You couldnt survive the zerg swarm

[Statulos]

Sex is sex, love is love; they both may be together or not. Thinking that you´re going to get someone´s intimate affection (to put it nice) just becuase you´re interested in that person is naïve to say the least. What makes her worse if she switches partner and among those it´s not you?

What you should care, really care about is honesty in any form of relationship: are both parts aware of the expectations involved? Do both agree? If so, go for it and do with a relation whatever you want it to be.

Kalithera wrote...

I'm waiting until marriage, and I dunno
if I could have respect for my partner if he didn't do so as
well.

Ever knew why that is such a big deal for many people? Religion? Gift? No, I´ll tell you where it comes from: legitimacy of the offspring.

With a virgin woman before marriage, the man makes sure that the children (at least the first one) are his. Of course saying it in this way souns horrible, so religious excuses are the ones that fit best.

Modifié par Statulos, 01 mai 2010 - 05:22 .

[DukeOfNukes]

most women have a hard time separating sex from feelings...particularly in a ongoing FWB situation.



Frankly, I feel that we, as a society, put too much emphasis on sex. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it, and when it's been a long time, then I really start to miss it...but it's not the end of the world if I'm not getting any. It's been over 6 months for me now, and I've gone over a year before. If I meet a girl I feel is worth the effort, either for FWB or relationship, then I'll go for it...but girls that are worth the effort are a rarity...as most that I meet flat out give me a headache. I don't go out and party, so the whole one night stand is pretty much out of the question.



What I'm saying is that while I eventually might get desperate enough to start hitting on everything that walks down the street, I'm not yet at that point...and not going to be simply because society tells us that we're losers if we're not having sex, and we're not waiting for marriage.



As to the OP, if you like a girl, and she's banging other guys, then she doesn't like you...and it should be fairly easy to move on. When you're younger, it's harder to do so, but eventually it gets pretty easy.

[Rubbish Hero]

The woman here are usually pregnant at 16 and on benefits.

I'm pretty sure my opinion can't go any lower.

[nikki191]

if they love the persn then i have no issue with it. if its a one night stand i do have an issue

[Tooneyman]

ho both sexes haha!

Modifié par Tooneyman, 01 mai 2010 - 05:44 .

[Tor_pedo]

Same thing happened to me, actually. I was in love with this guy and he went about and hooked up with someone else. Sure I was diseappointed, but he didnt know i liked him so who can blame him? Did i sit on my ass sobbing? No, I went after him full force and stole him back, turns out we're a perfect match ;p

We've been together for 5 yrs now

[Daewan]

My opinion of any girl who would refuse to have sex with the OP goes up.



My opinion of anyone who is mature enough to have a healthy sexual relationship with another person goes up. My opinion of anyone who can take well-meant criticism of an unhealthy relationship (sexual or otherwise) also goes up.



And for the love of the Maker and all that is good and holy, please look up the difference between "effect" and "affect."

[Statulos]

Tor_pedo wrote...

Same thing happened to me, actually. I was in love with this guy and he went about and hooked up with someone else. Sure I was diseappointed, but he didnt know i liked him so who can blame him? Did i sit on my ass sobbing? No, I went after him full force and stole him back, turns out we're a perfect match ;p
We've been together for 5 yrs now

When Spec. Ops. do not work, you send the B52´s.

[Tor_pedo]

Statulos wrote...

Tor_pedo wrote...

Same thing happened to me, actually. I was in love with this guy and he went about and hooked up with someone else. Sure I was diseappointed, but he didnt know i liked him so who can blame him? Did i sit on my ass sobbing? No, I went after him full force and stole him back, turns out we're a perfect match ;p
We've been together for 5 yrs now

When Spec. Ops. do not work, you send the B52´s.

I see what you did there:bandit: