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[Loerwyn]

Tirigon wrote...
Then where are the gay / lesbian romance options?

On Holiday in Brighton, Gay capital of the United Kingdom.

[Tirigon]

Rubbish Hero wrote...

Wikipedia says it's natural and that some woman think about getting ravashed by sexy spanish men.
Why would they lie?

And japanese people made tentacle porn already hundreds of years ago

http://upload.wikime...ife_hokusai.jpg
EXTREMELY NSFW

As found on wikipedia.



Doesn´t mean it´s not perverted; not that I´d care......

Modifié par Tirigon, 25 mai 2010 - 11:43 .

[Tirigon]

OnlyShallow89 wrote...

Tirigon wrote...
Then where are the gay / lesbian romance options?

On Holiday in Brighton, Gay capital of the United Kingdom.

Or in Berlin during the Love Parade..... Or in a gay bar in every city............


I meant in Mass Effect......

[Loerwyn]

Tirigon wrote...
I meant in Mass Effect......

I'm not that stupid, funnily enough.

[Tirigon]

OnlyShallow89 wrote...

Tirigon wrote...
I meant in Mass Effect......

I'm not that stupid, funnily enough.

You´re a good actor, then:P:P:P:P:P

[Ziggy]

It's all relative: you think you're pretty good, so you go up until you get somewhere where you're average relative to the people around you and then you get to feel inadequate too.

It's a way of thinking that will inevitably lead to disappointment so don't do it (easier said then done i know).

[Rubbish Hero]

Tirigon wrote...

Rubbish Hero wrote...

Wikipedia says it's natural and that some woman think about getting ravashed by sexy spanish men.
Why would they lie?

And japanese people made tentacle porn already hundreds of years ago

http://upload.wikime...ife_hokusai.jpg
EXTREMELY NSFW

As found on wikipedia.



Doesn´t mean it´s not perverted; not that I´d care......

This thread has nothing to do with squids.

[Tirigon]

Rubbish Hero wrote...


This thread has nothing to do with squids.

But you said:

Rubbish Hero wrote...

I read masturbating to simulated
rape can make you feel less inadequate much more so than Mass Effect.
Would it be ok to do that or very bad even though it's make believe?
Wikipedia says it's sort of ok.

So it sort of has.

[Rubbish Hero]

I never said squids, that's weird.

[mousestalker]

Here's a tip.



If you want to feel better about yourself, do something good. Don't tell anyone about it. Volunteer at a crisis centre, give blood, donate money to someone who needs it, help an elderly person with chores, the list is endless. Do it without any expectation of thanks or reward and you will be a better person, guaranteed. The better you feel as a result, the more attractive you will be and the more attractive you will be towards a better class of person. It's a very nice cycle. Jump in and take advantage of it. Donating cash to the Heart Fund or helping with a petition drive are nice, but for the big self esteem raise, do something directly. A few hours vacuuming and picking up for someone who can't can be a major rush.

[FutureBoy81]

Tirigon wrote...

Rubbish Hero wrote...

Wikipedia says it's natural and that some woman think about getting ravashed by sexy spanish men.
Why would they lie?

And japanese people made tentacle porn already hundreds of years ago

http://upload.wikime...ife_hokusai.jpg
EXTREMELY NSFW

As found on wikipedia.



Doesn´t mean it´s not perverted; not that I´d care......

Just cause its hundreds of years old it does not mean its not perverted  ........

[Veange]

mousestalker wrote...

Here's a tip.

If you want to feel better about yourself, do something good. Don't tell anyone about it. Volunteer at a crisis centre, give blood, donate money to someone who needs it, help an elderly person with chores, the list is endless. Do it without any expectation of thanks or reward and you will be a better person, guaranteed. The better you feel as a result, the more attractive you will be and the more attractive you will be towards a better class of person. It's a very nice cycle. Jump in and take advantage of it. Donating cash to the Heart Fund or helping with a petition drive are nice, but for the big self esteem raise, do something directly. A few hours vacuuming and picking up for someone who can't can be a major rush.

if not integrity itself, you describe a quality very attractive and yet overlooked / understated about the feminine mystique. girls like you are too rare.

[Nhadalie]

Veange wrote...

mousestalker wrote...

Here's a tip.

If you want to feel better about yourself, do something good. Don't tell anyone about it. Volunteer at a crisis centre, give blood, donate money to someone who needs it, help an elderly person with chores, the list is endless. Do it without any expectation of thanks or reward and you will be a better person, guaranteed. The better you feel as a result, the more attractive you will be and the more attractive you will be towards a better class of person. It's a very nice cycle. Jump in and take advantage of it. Donating cash to the Heart Fund or helping with a petition drive are nice, but for the big self esteem raise, do something directly. A few hours vacuuming and picking up for someone who can't can be a major rush.

if not integrity itself, you describe a quality very attractive and yet overlooked / understated about the feminine mystique. girls like you are too rare.

I fail to see how genuine kindness is a quality inherent to females.

A rare quality in modern society, yes. But it's not specific to women. Though I can't say I know any guys who would help others simply for the joy of helping them. Likewise, I can't say I know many women who would either.

[Veange]

Nhadalie wrote...

Veange wrote...

mousestalker wrote...

Here's a tip.

If you want to feel better about yourself, do something good. Don't tell anyone about it. Volunteer at a crisis centre, give blood, donate money to someone who needs it, help an elderly person with chores, the list is endless. Do it without any expectation of thanks or reward and you will be a better person, guaranteed. The better you feel as a result, the more attractive you will be and the more attractive you will be towards a better class of person. It's a very nice cycle. Jump in and take advantage of it. Donating cash to the Heart Fund or helping with a petition drive are nice, but for the big self esteem raise, do something directly. A few hours vacuuming and picking up for someone who can't can be a major rush.

if not integrity itself, you describe a quality very attractive and yet overlooked / understated about the feminine mystique. girls like you are too rare.

I fail to see how genuine kindness is a quality inherent to females.

A rare quality in modern society, yes. But it's not specific to women. Though I can't say I know any guys who would help others simply for the joy of helping them. Likewise, I can't say I know many women who would either.

compassion and emphathy aren't specific to women, no; but they manifest differently in each sex and are perceived differently. To forego a long and unnecessary detour into social ideals on masculinity vs femininity, I'll simply say that from a guy's point of view that it's an often overlooked virtue which is also possibly the most appealing thing about a girl.

[Nhadalie]

Veange wrote...

compassion and emphathy aren't specific to women, no; but they manifest differently in each sex and are perceived differently. To forego a long and unnecessary detour into social ideals on masculinity vs femininity, I'll simply say that from a guy's point of view that it's an often overlooked virtue which is also possibly the most appealing thing about a girl.

True. And how they choose to act on those qualities is different with each gender, and what is "socially acceptable".

But I've never seen a guy call kindness an appealing thing in a woman. But then, these days most guys seem to care more what a woman looks like. And less who she is, what she cares about, and how she thinks/feels.

[mousestalker]

Kindness is an appealing quality in both sexes. So is emotional strength. Sex is fun and all, but would you rather spend fifty years with someone who is sexy for ten of them or with someone who is kind for all fifty?

[SuperMedbh]

mousestalker wrote...
If you want to feel better about yourself, do something good. Don't tell anyone about it. Volunteer at a crisis centre, give blood, donate money to someone who needs it, help an elderly person with chores, the list is endless. Do it without any expectation of thanks or reward and you will be a better person, guaranteed. The better you feel as a result, the more attractive you will be and the more attractive you will be towards a better class of person. It's a very nice cycle. Jump in and take advantage of it. Donating cash to the Heart Fund or helping with a petition drive are nice, but for the big self esteem raise, do something directly. A few hours vacuuming and picking up for someone who can't can be a major rush.

This deserves to be framed.  Great advice, Mousestalker.  And for what it's worth, some of the most compassionate people I know are men.  They might not express themselves as much as we'd sometime like, but in the end, it's in what someone does, not what they say.

[Veange]

Nhadalie wrote...

Veange wrote...

compassion and emphathy aren't specific to women, no; but they manifest differently in each sex and are perceived differently. To forego a long and unnecessary detour into social ideals on masculinity vs femininity, I'll simply say that from a guy's point of view that it's an often overlooked virtue which is also possibly the most appealing thing about a girl.

True. And how they choose to act on those qualities is different with each gender, and what is "socially acceptable".

But I've never seen a guy call kindness an appealing thing in a woman. But then, these days most guys seem to care more what a woman looks like. And less who she is, what she cares about, and how she thinks/feels.

that's what I mean! even catching glimpses of the whole attitude and concept from daily conversations and media frustrates me. What's more disheartening is how so many girls buy into the whole idea without giving it any thought. here's another thing that many girls (and guys) are too caught up in the mainstream ideas to realize: a smart girl is actually really sexy. what's sexy? the majority of it is in how your imaginations are tickled.

[Nhadalie]

Veange wrote...
that's what I mean! even catching glimpses of the whole attitude and concept from daily conversations and media frustrates me. What's more disheartening is how so many girls buy into the whole idea without giving it any thought. here's another thing that many girls (and guys) are too caught up in the mainstream ideas to realize: a smart girl is actually really sexy. what's sexy? the majority of it is in how your imaginations are tickled.

It's nice to see someone who thinks differently for once.


Growing up in mainstream culture makes it hard to believe that anyone could be attracted to anything more than physical things. I don't know about many other girls. But because I was shy and quiet when I was younger, I got picked on a lot. Particularly about appearances. Being called ugly by a bunch of other girls for 8 years, because they don't like themselves makes it hard for someone to believe that people can think differently.

And I agree about intelligence also being attractive. It's uncommon for me to find guys who can actually keep up with me.(Because I tend towards the sarcastic/witty type of flirting when I do. And most other shy guys can't seem to get out of their shells to react.) It's kind of a bummer.

mousestalker wrote...

Kindness is an appealing quality in
both sexes. So is emotional strength. Sex is fun and all, but would you
rather spend fifty years with someone who is sexy for ten of them or
with someone who is kind for all fifty?

QFT.

I agree completely. Personally, that's how I've always looked at relationships. I think if more people looked at them that way, more people would be happy with their relationships. Or at least know what to look for for relationships that would make them happy.

[Veange]

mousestalker wrote...

Kindness is an appealing quality in both sexes. So is emotional strength. Sex is fun and all, but would you rather spend fifty years with someone who is sexy for ten of them or with someone who is kind for all fifty?

agreed. I think marriage or life-long relationship is much more about love in the companionship / (soul)mate sense than love in the romantic / physical attraction sense.

I think too many young people head into marriage before they are ready because they think "love conquers all". it does not. sadly sometimes it takes a divorce to burst a bubble: that butterfly-in-your-stomach infatuation type of love / attraction only lasts 6 months to 2 years typically, and 7-8 years at most - as simple as to be reduced to body chemistry.

life commitments are a lot of faith and work, and finding someone you really get along with when you feel passionate, and also when you don't.

[Rednar64]

Marriage... I cannot wait for that glorious moment. Two people side to side to face life as it is. Love is in the air

[Tirigon]

FutureBoy81 wrote...


Just cause its hundreds of years old it does not mean its not perverted  ........

What is exactly what I said...:D

[Tirigon]

Nhadalie wrote...

But then, these days most guys seem to care more what a woman looks like. And less who she is, what she cares about, and how she thinks/feels.

The big problem is, that without looking in a way that it is appealing to the other, it´s rather hard to get to know each other. Once you know someone you can - and most people will - judge based on the character and not on the looks. But to do so requires knowledge of the character that is hard to get sometimes.

Be honest: How often do you flirt with someone you find incredibly ugly because he / she might have a nice character?
Edit: To prevent misunderstanding, I mean someone YOU find not attractive; it does not matter if this person is what the mainstream defines as good-looking, since tastes are different.

Modifié par Tirigon, 26 mai 2010 - 09:39 .

[Nhadalie]

Tirigon wrote...

The big problem is, that without looking in a way that it is appealing to the other, it´s rather hard to get to know each other. Once you know someone you can - and most people will - judge based on the character and not on the looks. But to do so requires knowledge of the character that is hard to get sometimes.

Be honest: How often do you flirt with someone you find incredibly ugly because he / she might have a nice character?
Edit: To prevent misunderstanding, I mean someone YOU find not attractive; it does not matter if this person is what the mainstream defines as good-looking, since tastes are different.

Personally, I don't flirt with anyone. Because 1) I have a boyfriend. 2) I'm too damn shy for it. And 3) I don't have any opportunities to meet many people right now.

The extent of any flirtation I could do would be flirting with either my boyfriend, or a cashier at a store that I went to with my parents.


And I have self esteem issues. If I found someone very attractive, I wouldn't be likely to talk to them. Why? Because they're most likely not interested in me. At all.