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Weiser_Cain wrote...

errant_knight wrote...

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So, although Alistair is many things, he is not a douchebag.

Ashton Kutcher is a douchebag. Ashton Kutcher would do a good job playing Alistair in a DA movie. Thus Allistair is a ____?


Do you completely lack the ability to make a coherent argument for your point of view?

That's up for you to decide, it makes sense to me.


That says a lot more about you than it says about either Alistair or Ashton Kucher.

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Oh now we love Aston Kutcher?

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Weiser_Cain wrote...

Oh now we love Aston Kutcher?


What does he have to do with anything?

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This troll is getting far more attention than he deserves.

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Weiser_Cain wrote...

Gemaphrodite wrote...
So, although Alistair is many things, he is not a douchebag.

Ashton Kutcher is a douchebag. Ashton Kutcher would do a good job playing Alistair in a DA movie. Thus Allistair is a ____?


As much as I hate to encourage it, I ended up with coffee on the keyboard.  The trolls in the Zevran thread aren't nearly this funny.

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Weiser_Cain wrote...

Oh now we love Aston Kutcher?


/shakes fist!

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What the hell? Ashton Kutcher is a terrible actor and should never get a job.



He's just trying to goad you all on and at the moment you're taking the bait. Ignore him. Get back to the Alistair luuuuurve.

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Asdara wrote...

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Asdara wrote...

I'm just saying that, politically speaking, one Royal line is as good as another. There's no such thing as divinely appointed Kings the Maker smiles on for some mysterious reasons (since he's left us anyway). It's about getting someone, anyone, up there that will be followed by the nobles and not plunge the country back into barbarism. That was the point, and the duty, and all the practical reason behind it.


That's true in life, but not necessarily in a fantasy game/book/movie. And in this game, a Guardian of the ashes can live for thousands of years, the ashes can heal, the dead rise, and we can see the Black City. Real life arguments can't be taken as fact here.


Fair point.  Of course, that means 'life' based arguments against the idea become equally suspect.  

Like I said though, t'was just a thought.  We all know what Alistair does / doesn't do in every permutation I assume so the whole thing is moot.  Fun to think about, but ultimately moot.  

I just think it is interesting that Alistair's honor isn't as ironclad as people tend to want to believe.  He does, after all, abandon the Warden if they spare Loghain.  He also, despite his promises, puts aside his relationship with a non-Human Warden to fulfill the obligations of a role he neither wanted nor made any formal commitment to (the coronation not having taken place yet) - and he shirks that role to die to the Archdemon if given the opportunity.  

So Alistair doesn't always do what we think his duty and honor should have him do - or he arranges his priorities of what that duty and honor is in a particular way given the situation and mediated by what he wants and doesn't want if given a chance to do so unnoticed.  Rather more complex than it seems at first glance.


You raise fair points, as well. It is all very interesting, and is indeed more complex than it seems. I tend to put the leaving thing down to everyone having a line they can't cross, no matter how much a refusal to do so might get in their way, or even harm them. At the same time, aren't all of our choices and priorities based on what we can and can't accept?

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Gemaphrodite wrote...

What the hell? Ashton Kutcher is a terrible actor and should never get a job.

He's just trying to goad you all on and at the moment you're taking the bait. Ignore him. Get back to the Alistair luuuuurve.

I prefer to think of it as mockery. ;)

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I am not going to win any friends with this reply but in a nut shell, women have no clue what they want, which is why it is thier perogative to change thier minds at a moments notice. The reason they all like Allistair is because he is something YOU as a flesh and blood male will never be, and that is what ever they want when they want it because as a fictional character he is infinatly more flexible in who he is because it is fantasy.

Perfect example is i work at a hospital so the primary sex of the work force is female. I have been here for almost 20 years and for the first 10 i could not get a date out of here. So i went and looked someplace else found a girl from outside the workplace, and got married. From the moment i slipped that 100 dollar piece of gold on my finger i was like Tom Jones at a Vegas show trying to work and having to duck slingshot panties from across the nurses stations. I would come home from work reach into my lab coat pocket and occasionaly there would be a name and a number on a slip of paper in there, and as i do have a sense of humor about it sometimes the names were not all female.

I am now getting a divorce, and the panties have stopped flying around, gone are the names on paper, so the only conclusion i can draw is that women what what they can not have more than anything else and since Allistair is fantasy there you have it.

Asai


If Morrigan's popularity is any indication, I'd say that men are very similar to women in that respect then.


AMEN! Perhaps both sexes suffer from "the grass is always greener in the other person's pasture..." syndrome.

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Xandurpein wrote...

Sometimes people fall in love. This can happen very quickly. They see something in the other and fall for that, but maybe without knowing each other completely. They see some fragments of the other ones personality and fill in the blanks with their hopes and dreams and then they get disappointed, as they get to know each other better and discover that the truth was not what they imagined.

Other times, people can go beyond the "fall in love" stage, really get to know each other and truly love and care for each other, but still disappoint each other. Maybe things happens that forces an issue they could (and did) skirt around in the name of love, to the point where it can no longer be avoided.

It can be a career opportunity in another part of the country or it can be the fate of Loghain. It's tragic when it happens, but a couple only breaks up if neither of them is willing to give in for the sake of their relationship. You might feel that Alistair didn't love you enough to give in for your sake, but neither did you. It doesn't matter that you think your reasons are rational and his reasons are irrational, you didn't love him enough to have this moment he needed.

In my experience, if you think that love is not real love unless it's a total commitment where every other need is made inconsequential, then you are simply dooming yourself to an endless cycle of "falling in love" and getting disappointed. Because it's only in that fleeting moment of being "in love", when you don't really know the object of your desire, that love can be that intense.

Real love means knowing there are things about your partner that you find irritating and annoying, and maybe even totally irrational, but it's part of the package and you can't change that. Sharing your life with a person is a package deal, you don't get to pick and choose among his/her traits.

I'm not going to tell anyone whether they where only "in love" with Alistair, or if it was real love, but it broke apart anyway, because neither Ali nor the PC could give in on a crucial issue. Maybe it's a different story for different people.

When love is broken over something it's sad, but it doesn't mean that it was a lie.

End rant.


Excellent Rant.  Could not have said it better....

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errant_knight wrote...

Asdara wrote...

errant_knight wrote...

Asdara wrote...

I'm just saying that, politically speaking, one Royal line is as good as another. There's no such thing as divinely appointed Kings the Maker smiles on for some mysterious reasons (since he's left us anyway). It's about getting someone, anyone, up there that will be followed by the nobles and not plunge the country back into barbarism. That was the point, and the duty, and all the practical reason behind it.


That's true in life, but not necessarily in a fantasy game/book/movie. And in this game, a Guardian of the ashes can live for thousands of years, the ashes can heal, the dead rise, and we can see the Black City. Real life arguments can't be taken as fact here.


Fair point.  Of course, that means 'life' based arguments against the idea become equally suspect.  

Like I said though, t'was just a thought.  We all know what Alistair does / doesn't do in every permutation I assume so the whole thing is moot.  Fun to think about, but ultimately moot.  

I just think it is interesting that Alistair's honor isn't as ironclad as people tend to want to believe.  He does, after all, abandon the Warden if they spare Loghain.  He also, despite his promises, puts aside his relationship with a non-Human Warden to fulfill the obligations of a role he neither wanted nor made any formal commitment to (the coronation not having taken place yet) - and he shirks that role to die to the Archdemon if given the opportunity.  

So Alistair doesn't always do what we think his duty and honor should have him do - or he arranges his priorities of what that duty and honor is in a particular way given the situation and mediated by what he wants and doesn't want if given a chance to do so unnoticed.  Rather more complex than it seems at first glance.


You raise fair points, as well. It is all very interesting, and is indeed more complex than it seems. I tend to put the leaving thing down to everyone having a line they can't cross, no matter how much a refusal to do so might get in their way, or even harm them. At the same time, aren't all of our choices and priorities based on what we can and can't accept?


I completely agree.  Even with the leaving part - which serves as at an indicator that there are things he won't do for duty and honor, and leaves us to speculate where that line is exactly (is it right AT that point, far over into the "no" territory, etc) and how it may move as he matures.  I say matures because I think even ardent supporters of Alistair will acknowledge that there is always room for a person to grow and to change as life continues.  Some day he may wake up and say "I really don't think this is working anymore."  Whatever 'it' may be.

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Asdara wrote...

errant_knight wrote...

Asdara wrote...

errant_knight wrote...

Asdara wrote...

I'm just saying that, politically speaking, one Royal line is as good as another. There's no such thing as divinely appointed Kings the Maker smiles on for some mysterious reasons (since he's left us anyway). It's about getting someone, anyone, up there that will be followed by the nobles and not plunge the country back into barbarism. That was the point, and the duty, and all the practical reason behind it.


That's true in life, but not necessarily in a fantasy game/book/movie. And in this game, a Guardian of the ashes can live for thousands of years, the ashes can heal, the dead rise, and we can see the Black City. Real life arguments can't be taken as fact here.


Fair point.  Of course, that means 'life' based arguments against the idea become equally suspect.  

Like I said though, t'was just a thought.  We all know what Alistair does / doesn't do in every permutation I assume so the whole thing is moot.  Fun to think about, but ultimately moot.  

I just think it is interesting that Alistair's honor isn't as ironclad as people tend to want to believe.  He does, after all, abandon the Warden if they spare Loghain.  He also, despite his promises, puts aside his relationship with a non-Human Warden to fulfill the obligations of a role he neither wanted nor made any formal commitment to (the coronation not having taken place yet) - and he shirks that role to die to the Archdemon if given the opportunity.  

So Alistair doesn't always do what we think his duty and honor should have him do - or he arranges his priorities of what that duty and honor is in a particular way given the situation and mediated by what he wants and doesn't want if given a chance to do so unnoticed.  Rather more complex than it seems at first glance.


You raise fair points, as well. It is all very interesting, and is indeed more complex than it seems. I tend to put the leaving thing down to everyone having a line they can't cross, no matter how much a refusal to do so might get in their way, or even harm them. At the same time, aren't all of our choices and priorities based on what we can and can't accept?


I completely agree.  Even with the leaving part - which serves as at an indicator that there are things he won't do for duty and honor, and leaves us to speculate where that line is exactly (is it right AT that point, far over into the "no" territory, etc) and how it may move as he matures.  I say matures because I think even ardent supporters of Alistair will acknowledge that there is always room for a person to grow and to change as life continues.  Some day he may wake up and say "I really don't think this is working anymore."  Whatever 'it' may be.


And we are in complete agreement again. :)

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Xandurpein wrote...

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I would rather ask Solid Snake for help with women, lol.

Alistair has no real manly qualities, and his relationship with a male warden is too freaking wierd. He got lucky he didn't get the sword in the landsmeet... I would think chicks would find that bad**** Loghain way more awesome than that wimp Alistair.


I don't want to repeat myself, but please read my post on page 6 of this thread for an explanation of the errors in your assumptions. Or read KoP's excellent post above.


I stand by my reasoning that Alistair is a whimp. If he was a real man, he would never have been such a baby in the landsmeet. A grown **** man wouldn't abandon everything he stands for just to get his way. Loghain is more of a man than Alistair could ever be. Alistair has no sense of commitment.

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Just recently installed Qwinn's Fixpatch version 2.0 and it changed some of Alistair's dialogue. My Dalish Mage had Alistair in Love and made an agreement to hand over the reigns of Ferelden to Anora.

But after defeating Loghain, Alistair automatically took the crown for himself and dumped my PC like an old sack. Yeah, yeah, I can't have your child because of the taint. But that's no reason we can't even "do it on the side". That option is not even available. Every time I try to talk to him, he turns me away saying it's too painful to even talk about it! I'm tempted to feed him to the AD!!

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Zy-El wrote...
Just recently installed Qwinn's Fixpatch version 2.0 and it changed some of Alistair's dialogue. My Dalish Mage had Alistair in Love and made an agreement to hand over the reigns of Ferelden to Anora.
But after defeating Loghain, Alistair automatically took the crown for himself and dumped my PC like an old sack. Yeah, yeah, I can't have your child because of the taint. But that's no reason we can't even "do it on the side". That option is not even available. Every time I try to talk to him, he turns me away saying it's too painful to even talk about it! I'm tempted to feed him to the AD!!

The dialogue option should be: Being King is not a punishment. It is part of the post-Landsmeet talk. If you pick the wrong option being mistress is impossible. Are you sure you didn't get this option?

If this is true then maybe you have two mods that are changing alistair_main.dlg.

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Zy-El wrote...

Just recently installed Qwinn's Fixpatch version 2.0 and it changed some of Alistair's dialogue. My Dalish Mage had Alistair in Love and made an agreement to hand over the reigns of Ferelden to Anora.
But after defeating Loghain, Alistair automatically took the crown for himself and dumped my PC like an old sack. Yeah, yeah, I can't have your child because of the taint. But that's no reason we can't even "do it on the side". That option is not even available. Every time I try to talk to him, he turns me away saying it's too painful to even talk about it! I'm tempted to feed him to the AD!!

I'm not familiar with the patch you're talking about.  However,  if Alistair duels Loghain, he'll take the throne and the PC gets no say in the matter unless you've arranged an Anora marriage prior or the PC is a human noble with a chance at consort.
 
If Alistair is unhardened and made king, the PC is going to get dumped after the Landsmeet.  If he's hardened, you have to choose certain dialogue options to convince him to keep you on.  Once he's convinced, he's quite determined about it.

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I had just noticed this thread..I posted a comment in the original site, but it got all broken up
so I would like to share here:

First
off, I couldn't agree with Freckles more.
For
one, there is the setting. The player experiences an alternate life,
and the goal is to save the world from the Blight. Now you are given
team members who join you on your quest, and relationships develop,
precision crafted by Bioware. They almost leave the fem PC no choice but
to romance Alistair. Gifts and dialogue options make it hard to resist
the temptation stemmed from curiosity.... and we are unknowingly sucked
in. The key here is -unknowingly-. That is exactly what real life is all
about. It is far too common to meet your future love in an annoying
package, where we think "no way I would like him" only to realize after
a time how much you feel for this man.So what do we get? A man
with good values, a charming innocence, humorous wit,(he knows it
which shows a hint of an attractive showoffiness), humility,
sensitivity, emotional openly insecure coupled with a strong warrior, a
man who is not afraid to speak is mind, and especially, a backbone to
offset his whiny demeanor (if he didn't he would have been simply a
wuss).

With all of his weaknesses, he still wouldn't stand for mockery,
which is probably the one major difference when compared with a real
life person with similar traits. He is not a weakling as he depicts
himself to be which makes him all the more attractive. He has an inner
strength that is humbled by insecurity. And--he is not afraid to speak
his mind which is another facet which somewhat conflicts with the "weak"
nature.These opposing traits are what make him so attractive.

As
the female, our nature is to want to bring out that strength and sooth
his wounds, but in order for us to want to do that, all of these
elements must exist harmoniously. If you take away the weak/strong
balance, I assure you the fem reaction would have not been the same.

That
said, as Freckles puts it, Steve Valentine's natural charm along with
careful writing and scenario builds for success at having no choice but
to adore this man.What keeps the adoration alive is the realistic
aspect that your reactions change the outcome of the future, as in real
life.

With this game, you may turn back time and explore the incredible
depth the characters have with each choice you make.In essence it
is a true fantasy deeper than the male Morrigan fascination as I would
assume is based shallowly on her sexiness, as I humbly believe men fall
for that, but don't need much more. Females tend to look for more depth,
as it is the personality that fuels our love overall. Bioware gave us a
real bonus with their pretty pixels, overall giving us a fantasy man
who satisfies all our desires in one package.And lastly, the
communities that have developed through the Alistair fascination keep us
wanting to talk more and more about our shared adoration, therefore
keeping him alive and well long after the game has ended.

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SOLID_EVEREST wrote...

Xandurpein wrote...

SOLID_EVEREST wrote...

I would rather ask Solid Snake for help with women, lol.

Alistair has no real manly qualities, and his relationship with a male warden is too freaking wierd. He got lucky he didn't get the sword in the landsmeet... I would think chicks would find that bad**** Loghain way more awesome than that wimp Alistair.


I don't want to repeat myself, but please read my post on page 6 of this thread for an explanation of the errors in your assumptions. Or read KoP's excellent post above.


I stand by my reasoning that Alistair is a whimp. If he was a real man, he would never have been such a baby in the landsmeet. A grown **** man wouldn't abandon everything he stands for just to get his way. Loghain is more of a man than Alistair could ever be. Alistair has no sense of commitment.


Alistair is very committed to Loghain's death. Just sayin...

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Weiser_Cain wrote...

Oh now we love Aston Kutcher?


Bioware, an ignore feature would be lovely. Perhaps at the end of the month?

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If what you've "seen way to often" is douchebags getting the girl then either a) your life experience is limited to a very limited social pocket that you should try to get out of or B) you are delusional and making excuses for your own failures with women.

Your experiences aren't the only ones in the world.  Other things happen outside the sphere of "you".  This is why I replied to your first troll and this is why several people piled on after.  Because you don't understand this.

To build up on this, there's this saying: "The only common link in all your failed relationships is you."

It's snark, but it does hold some inconvenient truth...

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Addai67 wrote...

Zy-El wrote...

Just recently installed Qwinn's Fixpatch version 2.0 and it changed some of Alistair's dialogue. My Dalish Mage had Alistair in Love and made an agreement to hand over the reigns of Ferelden to Anora.
But after defeating Loghain, Alistair automatically took the crown for himself and dumped my PC like an old sack. Yeah, yeah, I can't have your child because of the taint. But that's no reason we can't even "do it on the side". That option is not even available. Every time I try to talk to him, he turns me away saying it's too painful to even talk about it! I'm tempted to feed him to the AD!!

I'm not familiar with the patch you're talking about.  However,  if Alistair duels Loghain, he'll take the throne and the PC gets no say in the matter unless you've arranged an Anora marriage prior or the PC is a human noble with a chance at consort.
 
If Alistair is unhardened and made king, the PC is going to get dumped after the Landsmeet.  If he's hardened, you have to choose certain dialogue options to convince him to keep you on.  Once he's convinced, he's quite determined about it.

I can confirm that - I just did it last night and I have Qwinn 2.0 installed.  Hardened Alistair and Anora were to marry but Alistair dueled Loghain so Anora refused his hand.  Then back at Eamon's estate, Alistair mentioned breaking up with my warden (dwarf noble) because it's his duty to produce an heir, but I was able to talk him out of it.

Modifié par DWSmiley, 15 juin 2010 - 09:32 .


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This wasn't broken in the game though. If Alistair duels Loghain, he kills Loghain. He accepts being king without the player's consent if he's hardened unless he's in love with a human noble female (he has to be in love with her) or is engaged to Anora which will fall through because Anora won't marry her father's murderer. Then the warden has to choose between them as ruler (or to rule beside him if she's a HNF).

Whether you can talk him into keeping the warden on has to do with whether he's hardened or not.

Modifié par ejoslin, 15 juin 2010 - 09:58 .