Collider wrote...
I noticed though, that his romance was rather sensitive - that is, I got into Alistair's romance accidentally. I had my Female Warden tell him that it was sweet of him to say that she was the only bright spot in all that's happened - and then afterwards he thinks they're in a relationship. I was actually meaning to romance Alistair in that playthrough anyway, but I had wanted to choose when specifically.
This happened to me on my first time through DA:O. I got ninjamanced by both Alistair and Leliana...when I was actually intending to romance Zev. With Alistair, some of the early romance starters aren't exactly obvious, and you have to be careful, because he does take some of what the Warden says and run away with it without notifying you. Next thing I knew, I accidentally clicked on him while traipsing through the Circle Tower, and he was offering me his rose. I was like "wait, wut? when did this happen?"
With Leliana, the problem is similar to the ME1 romance traps: you say something that sounds rather anodyne, and the next thing you know, you have a set of responses that all look identical. This is for her second romance trigger: you can ask her if she's feeling better about what happened with Marjolaine, but god forbid you go so far as to ask her whether Marjolaine was special to her. Because the next set of responses is basically all telling her either "don't worry, I'm not like Marjolaine" or "I'll never change, I hope you know that", or "I only wish I were as special to you as she was". And all I wanted to do was show friendly concern over something that quite obviously hurt her. But noooo...On she goes about how she loves me.
The gift system also makes it really easy to inadvertently step into a romance. I think that might actually have been my problem with Alistair the first time around: I spammed him with gifts to free up some inventory space, and it may have bypassed one of the more obvious romance-starter convos or something. I should really download the toolset and take a peek at what triggers what.
I like that in the Garrus, Tali, and Thane romances in ME2, the romance & flirting triggers are very obvious. It's an improvement over ME1 where I've heard of (and personally experienced) "ninja romances."
Yeah, that's true, those three were really obvious. I thought Miranda's one was pretty clear as well. By contrast, Jack's one is extremely deceptive. You can outright tell her that you're not interested in a romance OR casual sex, and yet she'll STILL behave as if you're trying to romance her. MaleShep literally has no way out except to not talk to her at all. At least with Liara, you can turn her down and not have to stop talking to her (even though it seems like it glitches out every once in a while). With Jack...it seems like you simply can't.
And with Jacob, every damn line that comes out of Shep's mouth sounds like a romance starter