David Gaider wrote...
Oh, I get it. Trust me. Straight privilege can be just as frustrating as white privilege-- it's very easy for someone to say that it's not an issue when they're not on the receiving end of discrimination. And it's very frustrating to be thoughtlessly exluded when, all things being equal, you could be included. All I was suggesting is that, from a game development standpoint, things aren't generally equal. It's very easy for me to include gay characters in a book I write, for instance, because words are relatively cheap-- it's the same reason I can throw in horses and cloaks and not blink twice. It would be nice, too, if wearing the Developer Hat didn't interfere with the Gaming Enthusiast Hat or any one of the other hats I wear... but a developer simply doesn't have that luxury.
That doesn't mean, of course, that we couldn't always do better. Just because we're a game doesn't mean we're devoid of social responsibility-- but there's only so much we can do. As I've said many times before, games aren't really a good platform for social change. Discussion doesn't hurt, however-- unlike what the OP insinuated, my experience with fellow developers is that we're a pretty educated, open-minded bunch. We're not out to get you (beyond clubbing you over the head and taking your money, that is-- but hey, it's a capitalist world). 
Personally, I understand what you've been trying to say and accept the reality of what you have to work with as a developer. However, I always thought a good compromise would be allowing the player (through the character) to state their preference. There doesn't have to be a full-blown, same-sex romance but it still allows the player to define a part of the character.
I mean just because the character has same-sex inclinations it doesn't follow that her/his companions do as well. They are their own people right?
It wouldn't even have to be something prolific either, I'd settle for being able to shot down the "star" romances (Alistair/Morrigan, Jacob/Miranda) by revealing the characters orientation.
I don't know, it's just something I'd appreciate without expecting elaborate romance plots laid at my feet.