tl;dr Sorry, you're gonna have to take time on this one, there ain't no short version.

Ottemis wrote...
Aside from the Sialater argument we've seen aproductive (sic) negative remarks there towards other femshep players (and/or their characters) too. It leaves a bitter taste in one's mouth knowing that the people there that donot (sic) frequent this thread will just spew their unconstructive negative opinion of one's creation at you with 0 consideration of one's feelings. ( Or dig up character shots and insult their creators while they're not even IN that thread)
Well there we disagree. If one puts one's femShep/s 'out there' so to speak, one better have a thick enough skin to handle any comments. Any comments. That goes for any thread where one wishes to post one's creations. Sure, if the comments are just blatant baiting or unconstructive criticism it does sting, but one should be able to take it in stride or not put one's creations out in the public domain in the first place.
Also yes, as you already mentioned the overactive fanboy/girling of sheploo in responce to femshep postings kinda leaves a bitter taste aswell.
Again, why? Surely you would agree that there as many rabidly militant femShep supporters as there are any others. If you allow how others enjoy the game to sour how you enjoy it, the fault lies with you (I'm not referring to you, Ottemis personally here, mind you, but the general 'you').
I know i'm not keen on visiting that other thread because I know I'll want to step in as soon as I see any femshep player/fan known to me from here either directly or indirectly insulted, and having to consider that possibility just makes me not want to altogether.
Yet again, why? I get that this thread has been going for more than a year now, and that a lot of posters here are kinda regulars in a Cheers (the TV show) fashion. I get that a lot are very (some would think overly) attached to their femShep/s. I also get that a lot are female and/or have a vested interest in seeing that all things femShep related are propagated and furthered. An admirable goal, make no mistake. That does not warrant calling a mob together (even if it's a mob of one) to defend fellow regulars. Are you saying that we femShep supporters are to weak to stand up for ourselves (here I refer to the singular, not collective)? Or are you saying that regular posters to this specific thread are to weak to stand up for themselves? Or is this thread just home to a clique of "one for a select few, a select few for one" muskateers?
I don't think the answers to those three questions are 'Yes'. It therefore baffles me that we should "OMG teh ph34r" any other thread where posting of femShep is encouraged, or if not encouraged at least within the bounds of the OP.
Perhaps those posting here have become so softly tip-toeing around each other's femShep/s that our skins have grown too soft to handle even the mildest of constructive criticism. Or perhaps it is only those "any femshep player/fan known to me from here" as you put it, and that those ones are no longer welcoming of any opinions about femShep in general (or their own creations of femShep), or of 'newbies' and/or 'non-regulars'.
Anyway, I may very well be wrong on all counts above.

Just posting the feelings of a reasonably new ME/ME2 player, an even newer femShep player, and a male player to boot.