Aww, you're all too kind. Guess I'm one of those people who feels the more personal connection to FemShep I described before, huh? Gets me all eloquent about it.
I've played primarily dark- or red-haired FemSheps, but to be fair that is what I like so there's a little bit of 'service there for me at least. I'm willing to admit that, given I otherwise do the whole "detailed background and psych profile" thing for them; they're
people - who happened to be designed so I enjoy looking at them. Hairstyle is a much more personal thing with each of them, but for some reason the pulled-back styles appeal to me most often. Like she grows it out as a personal taste issue, but being a Marine and often in a helmet she keeps it tightly bound out of her way. Besides, I can't be the only person who noticed there's a lot of space at the back of the ME1 helmets.

FireEye wrote...
The problem with a lot of strong female characters is that they're written with too much emphasis on the female rather than the character. That is to say, "female" is passed off as a character quirk or tokenism. When female characters are written as people first, they come across much better.
The best example of this I know is Ellen Ripley, who was written as "Ripley" and happened to be cast as a woman.
So... female Shepard is Shepard first, rather than a female dilution of the male Shepard. And because of that, we have a truly stellar example of a strong female character. Or so how I see it. 
I am compelled to agree with you 120% on this. As a child of the Aliens generation, there's probably a bit of my subconscious wrapped around Ripley when it comes to female protagonists. Could be worse, huh?
Assorted NPCs spend more time on her gender than the story does, and kudos to Bioware (once again) for it.