SirOccam wrote...
How about the fact that everyone has to ask your permission to take care of their personal business? "Hey, if it's not too much trouble, and if we have time, do you think we could...?"
I always felt that was more along the lines of a buddy asking if you didn't mind coming over to help you move. I did not feel any particular deference to authority.
No one else ever makes a call for you to go along with. You decide everything your group does. Some of that is empty game mechanics, like choosing which location on the map to travel to in what order, but it IS dealt with at times in-game. Such as Morrigan asking Alistair why he allows you to make all the decisions. Alistair even says "I prefer to follow."
Right, I never denied Alistair wanted to follow your lead as a Warden. But Alistair not being able to make decisions for himself does not make you a leader in any meaningful sense of the world.
Or when Sten questions your actions in Haven, in which you can specifically say "Well, there’s nothing you can do about it. I’m in charge." And your dialogue with Wynne, where you can confide in her about everyone "expecting so much from me." That is the burden I was referring to. You make the hard decisions, and take the flak for them.
I just absolutely didn't see it for feel it in the game. I saw the Sten dialogue as just being a variant of "who are you to talk to me this way," and with Wynne, with everyone as referencing everyone in the world who would benefit from stopping the Blight.
As a person, I'm the type of guy who says "I'm doing [x]. You guys are welcome to come along or screw off." And I felt that was what the Warden did, and everyone just willingly went alone with it, as opposed to defered in some way.
Now, thinking on it, I agree that the intention was for Bioware to make you a leader in more than just a social sense. I just absolutely did not feel that way in-game. It was something they failed to portray, in the same way Bioware seemed to wanted to make you care about the mission and identity of the Grey Wardens but failed with that.
If the Warden isn't in charge, then who is? You certainly don't make decisions democratically.
No one. To me, it was always, the Warden does things, and people either willing come along or do not. But it was a "I'm going to the movies and whoever wants is welcome to come along," vein of social following. That some uncompromising person sets the agenda does not feel like leadership to me.
Just gonna let the Riordan bit go. I think it was a reasonable risk, you don't. Neither of us can prove our side correct. Agree to disagree.
That's fair.