KoP, you were part of the original Gush thread since way back when I was just a shy lurker. You have been involved in some of the most fascinating discussions here. I hope you will change your mind and not leave, because you really are a part of this thread. But ...
You always post from logic and not emotion. From where I sit, it seems like you see things in black or white. And you are a part of a thread that is inhabited by some people who see things more from their hearts. There's nothing wrong with the way you look at things in ordinary life. But this is a fictional world that we debate about. It's all a matter of opinion. There is no true black or white. Unless you live inside Gaider's mind, you do not know for a fact that Cailan would have ended up being a bad king. Sure, he might have been a stupid king, but he could have gotten lucky and ended up getting good results. Not one of us knows for sure because it never happened.
When you get deep into a debate, you sometimes have a way of expressing yourself that makes your opinion sound like fact, and makes it sound like those with opposing opinions are ridiculous. I think part of it might be a cultural difference in the way some of us express ourselves. Sometimes you remind me of Spock arguing with Kirk. There's no real right or wrong here. But reading over your later posts last night, it sounded like you were becoming very condescending with LadyD. I've seen you get into these debates before, and I'm pretty sure that you were not meaning to be insulting. But it was coming across that way. To LadyD and to a lesser extent to the subject matter of this thread.
You know Tori. You've actually been through a lot with her after the outlash that happened after that first Cousland contest. She's a sweet, good person. And she's very loyal to LadyD. I can't speak for her, but I think she might have been reacting emotionally to what she perceived as you being rude to a friend.
So, KoP, I hope you do not permanently leave this thread. It wouldn't be the same without you. But I also hope you'll be able to see that sometimes logical words can sound hurtful and condescending, even when you don't mean them that way. You are such a smart guy. I hope you can see that many of us here like you and would miss you if you didn't come back and that what happened last night might have been a misunderstanding based on emotions.
edit - recycled sad face
edited to correct a sentence that wasn't saying what I had intended.
Modifié par tuppence95, 30 janvier 2011 - 03:44 .
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