Hello beautiful Ali gushers! So a quick update on my run through that you all were gracious to help me with: First, all the mods I installed have worked perfectly (haven't downloaded IRS file, since I think I have to do some finagling with my ZDF mod to make it work...) including the viewable Alistair kiss from Dahlia. YAY! Second, it turns out that I HADN'T already used up the "why you no tell me 'bout yur bloodline, snookums?" (that's how it's worded, right??

). I didn't have to do the "you know your handsome" dialogue to start the romance.....yippee!
As it stands, he's fully romanced (he initiated the smexy scene) and we are off to Orzammar. After the Deep Roads, is where I will grab a bottle of Merlot (screw the wine glass.....it's mason jar time!), and prepare for the sad puppy eyes. I will be taking @Merisell's advice for the breakup - thanks again for the info, and that goes for tsm and tklivory....(and I think there was someone else to thank, but I am forgetting avatar names....my apologies!) I am RPing the breakup then, based on some of the dialogue options you can have that cause Zev to interject (Harrowmont vs. Bhelen, and Ruck). I just see my elf gal having a like mindset to some of Zev's, and this is where she starts to see potential odds with a human lover versus an elf lover. Remember, she isn't well schooled in love, and was already at odds as to the whole arranged marriage thing. So being a bit of a flip-flopper is in her personality...
I may have to start up my HN that is meant only for Alistair, and my DE meant only for Zev right around the same time as all of this......just to make myself feel better. Gack! Such a winp!