Admittedly, I'd have liked some mention if my HoF Cousland was his queen, but really, the cameo doesn't really call for frivolity or personal discussion about his family life. And it's one reason I never bothered with an import with that feature.
Very true, I would have liked the mention also but without the 'investigate' option or infact a conversation at all it would have seemed strange if he just threw it out there! And as a grey warden he's more of a friend/ally and I suppose more likely to offer an insight as opposed to being all business.
I totally agree. When Alistair shows as king, he is not in the mood to have a light chat with the Inquisitor. He feels betrayed by those who has sheltered, and probably he feels he has screwed up allowing them to take refuge there so to keep his credibility as a ruler, he must show his strength kicking them out. In fact in the operation shadows over denerim at the war table he appologies to her (in my case a female inquisitor) for their cold meeting, so I don't think it's the best moment to talk about his private life, it wouldn't make any sense in that moment. This is a very different situation that when he shows up as a grey warden where he has the chance to work with the Inquisitor.
If he is a king surely he's been forced to change ....but.... who doesn't change in ten years? In DA:O he was very young and generally it's no the same to be in the earlys 20's than being in the earlys 30's, people changes, and that without the responsability of ruling a country, so.... I think in essence he is the same -I have to reference again the operation "Shadows in Denerim", a very funny letter, you totally can imagine it's been Alistair who has dictated it!-. -Furthermore, all this giving protection to the mages shows he is still idealistic and against conditions he considers unfair like he was in DA:O...
About his relation with a 'queen HOF', I think he would say the same as warden Alistair if he had the chance because at the end, they're the same person, For example there is a codex entry named 'Ferelden After the Blight" where the writer says she doesn't understand why he's giving asylum to mages, and wonders about his mind suffering because the queen's absence.
I must admit it's a pity we don't get more of king Alistair.... just to make us happy, they could have developed a simple mission, just like the king Alistair's mission on DA:2, with him on Skyhold and with a reference for the HOF, instead giving us two operations of the war table... but well at least they gave more importance to warden Alistair...