Schratty wrote...
@ Sandtigress: But, HNFs still have the option of marrying him, whereas dwarves and elves do not. To say it's merely a matter of providing an heir is suspect
Oh, and I'm not suggesting Alistair is prejudiced, btw. I'm just saying that I imagine he'd feel like a tool if he broke it off with the Warden for the sake of duty and honor and whatnots (because the people of Ferelden would likely not accept an elven queen), only to find out that he -himself- is part elf.
Like I said, he makes it very clear he's breaking up because he needs to marry someone he can have children with. It had nothing to do with the fact that she is an elf, except that the Landsmeet would not accept her ruling beside him. That, I think, he'd at least try to fight or be naive about, like his father. It's the infertility of two Grey Wardens that really concerns him.
Remember, Alistair won't ask a HNF to rule with him - she has to do it. If she doesn't force the issue at the Landsmeet, he treats her exactly the same as if she were an elf or a dwarf - he breaks up with her on account of their inability to have children. Once you've announced the engagement, he won't go against the will of the Landsmeet, especially not if he's in love with the Warden as it is - he's very happy to get the marry the woman he loves. On the other hand, their inability to have children is still a major concern for him.
So I don't think he'd feel any worse about breaking up with an elven Warden than he already does just for breaking up with her in the first place. It had nothing to do with her being an elf. He loved that fact about her.
Now, the fact that his mother was a Grey Warden might make more of an impact, but even so, his father was not and that's what allowed the conception. Alistair and a Grey Warden could never have children by natural means.