Shanara Windwalker wrote...
Okay, so seriously, that "other" thread aside....is he really whiny? He's lost someone who he feels was the first person to ever care about what he thinks and he's feeling guilty. And, as a mother and daughter, I know how powerful guilt is. And even though he admits he would have been dead too if he had been on the battlefield, still there is always the what if.
Yes, as a HN you've seen the slaughter of your family. But, you've had a wonderful home life (at least that's the impression I get.... gah... I love the Couslands). Alistair has not.
This is how I have seen that as my (rare) time as a HNF, so I was never mad on him for that.
Honestly, he is the epitome of survivor guilt. He has sh*t load of it and explains much of his behavior in some situations (yes I'm too lazy too give examples/ elaborate it right now lol) but bottom line here is that I didn't find him whiny at all. And people calling him that, only because he express
actual emotions and is broken about a loss of an important person for him? Pfffff....
There is no weight for loss or what grief is more worth and justified. If this person was important to you than it's your fekkin right to grieve, no matter how long you were knowing him/her. Period.
I actually plan to handle this in my FF later on, where Alistair will give in that it might sound ridiculous to Lenya that he still is grieving for a person he only knew for six months, while she has lost people she had known all her life. This however will make my Dalish frown and she will tell him really kind the same things I have written above...but in her own words. I simply find the need to adress this within my story, while you cannot in the game *pity*
And since Lenya carries the same weight of (unreasonable) guilt on her shoulders, this scene will have an interesting dynamic...