Dave of Canada wrote...
Ostagar refugee?
Mm.. but this would make it that she was taken far too young to even remember or care about her family. If she was taken at an older age than the usual children, she'd still be in training and possibly wouldn't have been sent to Ostagar.
While I do think Bethany (and Mage!Hawke!) have always been apostates, I don't think it's inevitable that a Circle mage wouldn't remember or care about their family. The average age range that people are taken, according to the Wiki, is 6-12. People taken from the later part of that window probably
would have solid memories of their previous lives.