CrimsonZephyr wrote...
Keep in mind that she willingly joined the Circle because it likely saved her mother and Hawke from a death sentence. In Kirkwall, those who shelter apostates hang. Might as well make the best of it while she's there. Anders is an ass because he's lecturing her on how to think. Bethany, last time I checked, went into an unpleasant place, found her niche in teaching apprentices, and tried to make the best of a bad situation, only to rebel when it was forced, while Anders bombed a church. He never really had the moral high ground to begin with. He never had to live with family who would be negatively impacted by his magic, so he really doesn't really have the right to harangue her for it.
I think for Anders (certianly for me) the issue is that she's trying to claim it's
not a bad situation. She's trying to say that it's a good one, the right one.
I mean, it's reasonably likely that's perfectly bog-standard cognative dissonance in action; if she acknowledges it as a bad situation, if she wakes up every morning thinking to herself "I'm in a psychotic prison and any one of the wardens could choose to violate my body or steal my very soul at any time and there's not a damn thing I can do about it,"
and that it's her own choice that put her there, that's... not going to help her live with that choice, to say the least.
Now, that negative view could potentially drive her to positive action (my aforementioned concept of her working with the Mage Underground for instance), but equally, it could drive her to negative action (see also: Grace). So, if that's what she needs to believe in order to live with herself and her choices, I can understand that.
It's still bloody horrible to hear, though. And that's for me, someone who's actually fairly fluent in the vagaries of human psychology and psychological response to abusive environments. Someone like Anders, who knows only how
he would respond to something, doesn't have that level of sympathy available to him; all he
can see is someone actively invalidating his own experience. To him the Circle was a torment. For Bethany to tell him it isn't, to say that it was Right and Good, is to tell him he's a liar, he's making it up, his own suffering is invalid. He's actually pretty restrained, considering.