berelinde wrote...
So, after a lot of thinking, I think I'm going to have another go at romancing Fenris and *not* switching over to Anders in Act 2. I think the problem that I had on my last attempt was that I was trying to come up with a character that would never in a million years even remotely consider Anders attractive. As a result, I wound up with a character I loathed. Seriously. I hate that Hawke with a fiery passion. I was trying to go the friendship route with Fenris, since I've heard so many people say that if you have trouble appreciating the Fenris romance, friendship is much better than rivalry. The only problem was that I can't really do "mage-hater" and not despise that Hawke. At least that's what I found on my attempts to rivalmance Anders. And that's the reason I detest the Hawke I reserved for friendmanced Fenris. The mage thing was a big deal.
So, I'm thinking that if I do an aggressive/direct Mage!Hawke, I may not run up against the self-loathing that ruined previous attempts, but that the new Hawke may find Anders too emotional to want to get involved with. This would be a Fenris rivalmance, but it might work.
I know when you rival Anders, you pretty much have to destroy him in the process. Do you have to do that if you want to rivalmance Fenris?
My last Hawke was a mage because I thought it would finally free me up to romance Anders. Fenris hates mages I thought; thus he won't like my Hawke and I can *finally* see what all of the fuss was about with the Anders romance. Sure enough, when he meets my mage I get the -10.
However, I still wanted to have a freindship with him. So I meta-gamed a little (although would any Hawke take a companion they wanted to remain friends with on a mission they know they're going to hate?) and Fenris was soon friendly with my sarcastic (usually) mage. It was hard when I saw that little

pop up to start the romance with Fenris not to click it. (and he give's you a second shot...must not click heart).
As long as you hate slavers -and demons -(which all my Hawke's do) I don't think a friendmance would be difficult. For example, I still took Fenris on the Wayward son quest and I told Feynriel to go to the Dalish.
As a matter of fact, now that I've played a mage (I usually play rogue

) I'm planing on romancing Fenris with my mage.
I've never rivaled Fenris though so I can't really say it *isn't* better. (The only character I routinely rival is Merrill).
(as a side note: I actually did enjoy the Anders romance. It was difficult -especially because I knew how much fun romancing Fenris was - but it was worth it).