Faerunner wrote...
@aldien Oh, I see! Sorry, I tend to take things seriously. Never mind then! XD
Ah! I know I'm going to make myself extensively hated around here (if I haven't already) but I honestly don't have a problem with Fenris and Isabela. [/is shot dead] As far as I know, they only get together in Act 3 and only if Hawke hasn't romanced either one of them, so they've known each other for years and Hawke is just a mutual platonic friend that has completed most of their personal quests and helped them become calmer, happier people. (Depending on how you play. Though if Isabela is still around after Act 2, odds are Hawke still has that darned influence on her!)
I believe that every relationship is, at its core, a contract. Two people with needs coming together and fulfilling each other's needs; be they legal, financial, emotional or sexual. I personally don't see Fenris and Isabela's relationship as one taking advantage of the other (since they both seem to get something out of it, and Fenris seems to consider her desires too. "Last night... I can't stop thinking about it!" "All right, I'll see you tonight.") or one emotionally dragging the other down (since Fenris is supposedly aready receiving emotional counseling--I mean healing from Hawke) but two single, healthy adults that come together and fulfill each other's needs in a surprsingly mature, healthy fashion.
Also, when you think about it, Fenris is introduced as an emotionally and physically damaged fugitive with trust and intimacy issues. If not romanced, you can think of it as a platonic friend Hawke helping him work through his emotional and trust issues, while his time with Isabela helps him work through his aversion to touching and sex, which just helps him be an over-all more healthy person for when he does find the love of his life. (Preferably a nice elf, but that's just me! XD)
I just think it doesn't necessarily have to be Romantic Partner Hawke that fixes everything for him. I think it's possible for him to receive different kinds of help or fulfillment from different people, and just because his relationship with Isabela is casual/sexual doesn't mean it's unhealthy or destructive. For what it does, it seems to do nothing but benefit for both parties.
You are not hated! We throw dirty socks at people we hate. No dirty socks your way? Then you are good

The Fenris thread can get patronizing and female doggish at times, but usually it bounces back and becomes fluffy, full of glowy goodness until emotions run high. The thread has its own time of the month. Honestly, it does.
Here's something to think about: why does Isabela = healthy. We spend a lot of time on this thread discussing Fenris's mental health issues, but what I have rarely seen, is the mention of her issues within the context of the Isabela and Fenris relationship. Is everyone really that jealous on here?

She has as many issues as him when it comes to trust, fulfillment, denial and general dysfunction. It always seems to fall on Fenris because he is seen as the victim, therefore, the other person, including Hawke, will always be in the wrong. I've seen many comments concerning Hawke and how her/his actions were detrimental to Fenris's recovery. But, if you think about it, Hawke is as dysfunctional as the rest of them. I can state why if you like.
There is nothing wrong with a purely physical consensual relationship, but I would say when it comes to this particular set of people that they should look outside of their group. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the Hawke and Fenris relationship, but in reality, I think it would be better for Fenris to look elsewhere when it comes to intimacy. There is simply too much baggage in Hawke's group of companions for any relationship, whether serious or not, to end up being healthy. That's idealistic, I know, but the game is so linear in many respects. It's very stringent and reminds me too much of rules. I prefer drunken computer programmers who like to write people loving up the local merchant in their spare time rather than the saucy pirate wench that can slay dragons in her knickers without losing a limb
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uest think it doesn't necessarily have to be Romantic Partner Hawke that fixes everything for him.That really summarizes Fenris and Hawke in many ways. We don't get to hear Hawke's rants to Fenris. We only hear the companions discuss
their problems. I want to know how much Hawke is charging an hour.

Preferably a nice elf, but that's just me! XD)I have been thinking that more and more everyday! I don't think Fenris is too good for Hawke or anything like that. But... he is so out of touch when it comes to being an elf (I think he is) that I would enjoy watching him fumble through a relationship with an elf. Hawke is a wonderful character and I love the romance between Hawke and Fenris, but I also like considering different options for our favorite elf. If I had been able, I would have played an elf in DA2. I guess I am still hooked on Tolkien's elves from the Silmarillion so... okay, perhaps I am about elven superiority.

I don't consider it a bad thing.
Modifié par aldien, 10 juin 2012 - 03:39 .