Would you also appreciate Merrill being honest about being willful self-proclaimed messiah
She is.
or Anders being honest about being manipulative scheming hypocrite?
Manipulative and scheming, yes. Hypocrite, no. He fully recognizes his own misdeeds and expects to die for them.
Hell, Merrill wouldn't even admit that she's at least partly at fault after slaughtering her entire clan, if she's on friendship path. That's one of the main reasons I never friend her.Talk about honesty.
She's not. Even slightly. She never makes an aggressive move towards them. It's Hawke's honesty that makes them all launch an idiotic suicide run against her and Merrill.
Oh come on. Merrill is in way over her head. She betrays Hawke for a demon in Night Terrors despite being a mage and claiming to know how to deal with demons. The other companions without magical abilities had no way of preparing themselves for a demon's mind control and had little chance to resist, but she should have been stronger than that.
Demonic mind control. Dreamer realm. Mind control greatly enhanced. And Fenris is supposed to be highly magically resistant, yet falls for the same demon.
She has to ask Hawke to accompany her in Act 3 because she fears she might end up as an abomination. If that doesn't make it clear there is a reasonable chance she cannot control the demon, then I don't know what does. The demon has been using her and toying with her from the start. Either it would use the mirror to force possession on Merrill or it would somehow possess Merrill when she returned to it for advice. Or Marethari would release it from the statue and allow it in her. The demon was pretty much set to win no matter what, while Merrill would probably never have gotten the mirror to work, because she had to solely rely on the demon's aid and advice to do so. And yet Merrill keeps blathering that she knows exactly what she is doing and that it is her decisions to make anyway and that nobody understands, etc. etc.
Well, it is her decision to make. However, Merrill only brought Hawke along as a precaution (sensibly so, given how often things go horribly wrong in Kirkwall in general), not because she was going to unbind the demon; her only intent was to have a conversation. Additionally, she'd only spoken with the demon once before, before the game even started; it wasn't manipulating her at all (Marethari, on the other hand, who was actually on Sundermount the whole time...). The Eluvian doesn't even lead into the Fade, from what we know of Witch Hunt and The Masked Empire, so the Marethari abomination was clearly full of ****. Finally, Merrill had gotten the Eluvian working again, she just didn't have the activation phrase.
Also, not trusting a blood mage and abomination is hardly paranoid. DA2 literally throws hordes of them at us to slaughter. Blood magic has the reputation to corrupt and abominations have no or little control over their actions, especially when the spirit/demon takes over completely. The only reason you could accept those things and be nice to those persons anyway is because "they're so nice" and "they mean well" and Fenris is not going to settle for that.
They throw even larger hordes of warriors and rogues at us to slaughter.
And if Fenris can't make exceptions, that's his problem. I'm thankful that his urge to follow Hawke is sufficient for him to prevent Sebastian from turning anyone in, however.
As for being mean, Anders is plenty mean to Merrill, Fenris and Aveline, yet for him this is somehow okay and no reason to avoid him?
I didn't mention Anders initially because this isn't an Anders discussion thread. However, yes, I'm also annoyed at him for his attitude toward Merrill (Fenris, in my opinion, was the one who started their dispute).