M-Sinistrari wrote...
MICHELLE7 wrote...
I admit the setting appeals to me more but I think Kaidan himself was written in such a way that they hit it out of the ballpark with his character. His personality is perfect but then they had to go a make him eye-candy as well.
Most other characters in the Bioware universes have had some good points but they've had things that detracted as well (like Alistair's whining moodiness over losing Duncan...hey, my family died) or they are physically unappealing (forgive me for being shallow). Kaidan seems perfect...just hope they don't change him too much in ME3.
Having skimmed through the Boring/Forgettable/Worthless character thread, I find it interesting that some act like being normal/stable is some sort of horrific thing. Granted that's the part of me that's taken too many psych classes, but since we all do put parts of ourselves into the game for perspective and such, I wonder why normalcy's concidered such a bad thing.
The way Kaidan and even Jacob are written, if they were real they'd be exactly the sort I would be interested in if I were single. But then I did go through my phases for the Bad Boy types, the Moody Angsty types and all and once that initial 'oooh fascinating' glamour wears off, they do end up with some pretty intensive issues that are detrimental. Even going with the rationale of 'I can change them!', it never works.
I wonder how much of the 'he's boooring/too normal' argument is some form of projection from those who concider themselves 'nice guys' and they somehow have thier mindset threatened with a character written truly normal that has a great amount of appeal to women yet they themselves don't have that appeal?
I probably could get a hell of a psych paper out of this, pity I've got all mine done for the term.
Ok, this was the first cute Kaidan image I found that hadn't been posted here in the last few pages. So... forgive me?
I found his ME1 hair adorable, actually. It was part of his awkward charm. I always pictured Kaidan as sort of a smoking hot nerd.
Man, I don't like Kaidan because he's normal. I like him because he's got a messed up past, but is still a functional human being. He has a lot of stuff to deal with, and he's dealing with it pretty damn well, most of the time. That's far more impressive than just being normal.
I think Kaidan worries that he's a little bit of a monster, even now. Imagine how it feels to accidentally kill someone when you're seventeen, and to have the person you care about most become terrified of you. Now imagine how that feels if you killed that dude with your brain, using powers you're expected to use every day now. He talks about holding back, with his biotics, his feelings, with everything. He always leaves a way out, like he said. That's not normal. It is an extremely effective coping mechanism, however. The fact that Kaidan is a nice, sane guy who seems to genuinely care about people after that is nothing short of miraculous. The fact that he didn't turn out vengeful, or racist against Turians, or too outwardly angsty is what I found so unique and attractive. I think all that stuff is still roiling inside of him, but what makes it even more interesting is that he actually finds my affection for him comforting and reassuring. He's not thinking "But how can she love me? I'm a monster?" rather, he's thinking "Hey, this amazing woman loves me, so maybe I'm OK after all."
And, that, I think, is why I started relying on him too much. I expected too much of him... he'd been holding his emotions back for so long, I thought he had control. So when he lost it on Horizon, it stung more than it would have coming from someone I knew to be unreliable, or angry.
Also, as for the other ME dudes... I don't like Garrus because he's the bad boy. I like him because he's my best friend, and kind of awkward. The awkwardness was my downfall, actually - if he'd been all cool like Jacob, or passionate like Thane, I would have been able to resist, but few sheepish looks and inadvertently horrible comments will turn a girl's head. I will admit to some desire to keep Garrus from going "to the bad" as we used to say, but I don't think that's because he's a stereotypical "bad boy" - it's more because he's a guy who doesn't have any real friends or support. Growing up in a vacuum of black and white morality, never being given a real chance to learn how to use your gifts... there's a difference between going for the bad boy and throwing away someone perfectly good just because they're kind of an idiot sometimes. OK, a lot of the time.
Ironically, Kaidan's outburst on Horizon and the subsequent email raised some "bad boy" flags for me. I've seen too many female friends of mine wrecked by the "I don't know who we are anymore, we'll see" email, or strung along by the "I loved you, once" email. While I knew Kaidan probably didn't mean it that way, it still struck some really bad chords for me. My current theory is that he's probably kicking himself over that email, too. Because for me it's true - if he had said "I love you," or even "I'm going to try to trust you for now," there's no way I would have strayed. But hey, pretty much everybody has that one email they've written that they wish they could unsend. If you don't, you've lived a charmed life, my friend.
Modifié par CulturalGeekGirl, 13 avril 2011 - 11:07 .
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I was only joking there was a lot of Fen digging so I thought I would in a lighthearted way point out that it is better to leave criticism behind on these threads. Because we all love Kaidan doesn't mean we all love Fen or Anders and so on, so just better to stay OT and talk Kaidan here really..... 
