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[syllogi]

E3 is about a week away now, I'm sure Bioware is planning plenty of ME3 coverage once it's started.

I want to know as much as possible, but 2012 is so far away. I do think they'll have space out the info blasts.

[Shanya]

Thank you for the wellcomes! And for a chair!

Now comes a loooong Horizon thoughts of mine...

As Horizon goes, I go all top options even if it sounds... well, not how I would want it or how my Shepy thinks. It is more to do with... trying to be realy kind to him instead of neutrual (she loves the guy, she cant ignore that) or well going rude (same as neutrual).

The words she has suck big time but well, for the rest of the space she was dead for 2 years even if for her it wasnt so long. She cant know how Kaidan feels about her now, he could cast the love aside or find a new one as Joker did say that the old gang did drift appart and I would guess that doctor Chakwas (hope I got her name right...) would say something in those lines to Shepy also, as she does mention Kaidan and Jenkins. I am guessing that she would probably say more... the drink the whole bottle after all. Anderson stonewalls Shepy also refusing to tell her anything about Kaidan, realy. Considering that Shepy and Anderson are friends (remeber what Shepy tells Anderson if you go back to him after the Horizon and ask about Kaidan) she could easily understand his unwillingnes to tell her more from his worry as how that would affect her, as how maybe Anderson knows about the relationship they had (would make sense after the ME1 final battle and Shepys "funeral") and maybe even knows that Kaidan found someone new (he could be the friend who convinced Kaidan to go for a drinks with doctor)... Then you do hawe Illusive Man who points out that her old crew did move on.

So as far as I can see, Shepy has all that in her mind but since she still loves good old Kaidan she tries to be nice and she also tries to hide her emotions since she doesnt wants to make it hard on Kaidan and she just tries to evaluate where they stand.

Kaidans reactions there seem resonable enaugh. Relief to see her alive, hurt at the fact she didnt contact him, disgust at the fact that she is with Cerberus. It is perfect. My Shepy understands all that and she doesnt lash out on him as she would feel exactly the same if tables would be switched. She is hurt because of treason thing but she understands it also as in a way she is feeling like she is commiting one with working for Cerberus...it is just, that she can justify it to herself. What matters is, that she does also see in Kaidans responses that he does still care for her. She invites him to join her ONLY when she is absolutely sure that he will refuse. She would never seriously consider to allow him to join her on a mission wich will most probably en in all of them dead. She wants him alive. (And well, she sounds awfull mostly because it is hard for her not to... ahem... right there, right then etc...)

At same time she would not tell him there at that spot that she still loves him and how much he means to her. She does see how her 1st death affected him and well... if she would convince him right there that she loves him and that she didnt betray him or/and Alliance... how would he deal with her second possible dying? It would completely destroy him as it is obvious that the first death of hers almost did. If she survives the mission... well, then she would try to fix things between them...

As far as Illusive Man and his setting up all the Horizon things goes... he did actualy help her there. She could see Kaidan, she could see how Collectors almost got him... and that last thing got her blood pumping up and she is in rage. At that point my Shepy comes to her resolve wich is not resolving relationship but making a mush out of Collectors because in her mind she screams: " NOBODY WILL MAKE A MUSH FROM MY KAIDAN!!!"
Secondly she prefers that Kaidan thinks that she betrayed them all and so on... at least she knows that if she would not surrvive the suiccide mission he would have something to cling on, he could go on thinking that she did do exactly that and if that would be what Kaidan would need to continue with his life, she would allowe him that.
In any case, Horizon scene makes perfect sense to me... besides... a whole colony was abducted... that realy realy realy isnt good place for romancing.

And I most definetly love the fact that Kaidan didnt leave all behinded and forgot about Cerberus and all that and joined Shepy in a heartbeat. It shows integrity, he has a spine, he stands up to her. It is not about the feelings it is about what is right and wrong, and for him "joining Cerberus" just because of her would be very wrong. A strong minded woman like Shepard needs equaly strong minded man and not somebody who would run behind her as a doggy just because she is The Shepard. So whole Horizon-Kaidan situation makes Kaidan perfect for Shepard. He would question her and force her to think about what she is doing.

As such, it also makes him a voice of reason in ME2 for her also even if he is not around, as she does knows his views and it does make her more alert to Cerberus.

And taking into account that even in ME1 he did tell her what he thinks of stuff... well... he is staying true to his role.
As far as I see it... in ME3 she will need even "stronger" man at her side and this Horizon situation does show Kaidan is that man. He might be bleeding inside and all (so is Shepard) but he will stand strongly for what he belives in (again so will Shepard), it is just that at the point of ME2 there paths lead seperate ways.

Now to the letter that he sends...

Could the doctor he mentions be Dr. Chakwas?   He doesnt realy say that he tryed dating, he just says that ge went out for drinks and I dont know... she could be one considering her look at Shepy when you bring her that bottle and you drink with her... Probably I am wrong on that and there is who knows what doctor there. I hope that Lilith isnt that doctor tho...

But it also makes perfectly obvious that he is far from forgeting Shepy altrough doubting if she is still the same woman and at same time if he is still the same man. The fact is that he is right, she is not and he is not, at least on the outside, in their hearts they are the same.

With the sentence: "If you are still the same woman I remeber you will find a way to save colonies and defead Collectors jadijadija..." (not exact words) he just delivers her exactly what she needed from him in ME1. Do you rember after the Normandy gets grounded and before Jokers (annoying like hell) interuption of their almost-kiss... He goes on analyzing situation etc and Shepy does point out that a simple peptalk would be more needed at that point resoulting in his :"It will be all right. Shepy you will find a way." (or something like that). So the letter sentance and that 2 sentence go hand in hand.

As for his warning her of Cerberus... well, it is logical and he is correct.
And the last part with the maybe... well, that is totaly the good old Kaidan from ME1, you can almost hear him.

In any case it all fits perfectly in my opinion.

All that I would realy realy like to see in ME2 is that we could I dont know, come randomly to Anderson and he would say something like :"You just missed Kaidan for a mouse tail." Or that we would come to I-dont-know-who and we would just hear Kaidans "Talk to you later" as that other person would be on phone with him prior. Or that there would be some Emely Wong interwiev on Galactick New with him.
What outraged me  with Shadow Broker DLC is that Anderson and Hackett, even damned Aria was mentioned in those files, but there was no Kaidan file. And well, you see Aria, Udina,Anderson and I dont know who else... hell... even keeper 20 on those vids but there is no Kaidan there... He should be mentioned more in ME2 since if Shepy romanced him in ME1 and if she is staying loyal to him in ME2 he is very important character for her.

BTW. I went true Omega4 Relay again yesterday and I noticed something that I didnt before... As Shepy looks at His picture... then after she leaves the room and there is a close up to Kaidas pic I just noticed there are actual teardrops on the picture. Did anybody else noticed that?

...I wish we would have time machine... I would skip few months and just go for the day of ME3 release... I guess I will be replaying a lot this year... MEs and DAs...

Again sorry for a looong post...

Edited some for some serious mistakes... sorry for spelling tho...still, lol...

Modifié par Shanya, 30 mai 2011 - 01:34 .

[Kia Purity]

Need the usual distracting picture of Kaidan. One of my favorites:

[Shanya]

count me distracted completely

[KawaiiKatie]

Shanya wrote...

BTW. I went true Omega4 Relay again yesterday and I noticed something that I didnt before... As Shepy looks at His picture... then after she leaves the room and there is a close up to Kaidas pic I just noticed there are actual teardrops on the picture. Did anybody else noticed that?

What? No there's not! *finds screesnhot* .........oh, hey, maybe there is...?



That texture near the top of the frame... That could be tears, sure, I'll give you that. I always just thought it was just texture on the holo screen, not unlike uneven texture on computer monitors....? But yeah, it's vague enough that those could be tears. A lot of Shepard's actions are intentionally vague so that players can fill in the details with their  own headcanon, and I think this one, too, is loose enough that you can imagine that Shepard had a cry over his/her love interest.

BTW, the image I posted is huge. Copy the image location and see for yourself if you want a closer look at the "tears."

Modifié par KawaiiKatie, 30 mai 2011 - 02:11 .

[Shanya]

I went thrue it again and I would swear that when Shepy looks at picture there is no spots on it, after she leaves there are those.
I also looked very closely at the pic itself when you go to it and it lights up, and couldnt notice any of that but well, it is small pic so maybe my eyes just dont register it.
It took 2 hours before hiting the base so basicaly you could think as that Shepy did stare in the picture for a way longer time that we see in the movie... there is just fade to gray mising (not realy required since nothing steamy is going on).
Anyhow, to me they seem as tears, in the movie itself even more so than on that screenshot.
I agree on the vague actions... kindda logical since you could make her loyal to me1 love or go for someone else etc... but heck those still look like tears to me... considering the fact that at that point it is aperant that she stayed loyal...

edited for last 14 words...
and secondly for obvious typos...

Ps. Well, considering the Pic-screen seems to be sort of ldc-like... smal water drops would produce that kind of effect on it. Oh and for those who are angry on Kaidan because of Horizon stuff... Shepy could also spit on the picture if you prefer that over tears that is.

Modifié par Shanya, 30 mai 2011 - 02:54 .

[nranola]

Shanya wrote...

Now comes a loooong Horizon thoughts of mine...

That was a good read! There was some parts that stood out to me:

She invites him to join her ONLY when she is absolutely sure that he will refuse. She would never seriously consider to allow him to join her on a mission wich will most probably en in all of them dead. She wants him alive.

Our views on Horizon are very similar, but it's at this point that we diverge.

For my Shepard, when she asked Kaidan to join her, it was more an act of desperation. She finally gets to be with him again only to see him turn heel and leave. She wasn't thinking clearly at that time; you could say that was her one moment of vulnerability throughout the entire mission. She does realize later on that not having him on the crew was for the best.

At same time she would not tell him there at that spot that she still loves him and how much he means to her. She does see how her 1st death affected him and well... if she would convince him right there that she loves him and that she didnt betray him or/and Alliance... how would he deal with her second possible dying? It would completely destroy him as it is obvious that the first death of hers almost did. If she survives the mission... well, then she would try to fix things between them...

Agreed completely. This is how I justify Shepard not answering back to his letter. Just in case she dies, at least then the blow on Kaidan will be less severe.

A strong minded woman like Shepard needs equaly strong minded man and not somebody who would run behind her as a doggy just because she is The Shepard.

Well said! It's why I regard his romance route so highly. I'm sure I've said this a dozen times before, but I'll say it again anyway: Kaidan loves Shepard, but he's not a pushover. He is perfectly capable of standing on his own two feet. He knows how to separate his duty from his personal life. For me, that's the perfect kind of guy for Shepard.

Could the doctor he mentions be Dr. Chakwas?   He doesnt realy say that he tryed dating, he just says that ge went out for drinks and I dont know... she could be one considering her look at Shepy when you bring her that bottle and you drink with her... Probably I am wrong on that and there is who knows what doctor there. I hope that Lilith isnt that doctor tho...

I doubt it was Chakwas. It was probably some nice young lady he could date. In ME3 I have this nagging feeling that we'll meet this doctor, she'll ask to join the crew because Kaidan is there and she wants to make sure he's okay at all times, and DRAMA ENSUES. ...Yeah, I have an active imagination. xD

with Shadow Broker DLC is that Anderson and Hackett, even damned Aria was mentioned in those files, but there was no Kaidan file.

INORITE?? That was such a huge disappointment! I was looking forward to some insight on how Kaidan's been doing since most everyone has a file, but nooo. >__> I guess it's okay, though. It would constantly nip at my conscience if we had a chance to spy on him lol.

[Shanya]

Our views on Horizon are very similar, but it's at this point that we diverge.

For my Shepard, when she asked Kaidan to join her, it was more an act of desperation. She finally gets to be with him again only to see him turn heel and leave. She wasn't thinking clearly at that time; you could say that was her one moment of vulnerability throughout the entire mission. She does realize later on that not having him on the crew was for the best.

Yes, that would absolutely work also, I can see what you mean.

Agreed completely. This is how I justify Shepard not answering back to his letter. Just in case she dies, at least then the blow on Kaidan will be less severe.

I would say that she probably wrote hundred letters to him but at the moment she did so, she also erased them. I dont know but maybe she would actualy even have a letter ready for him, for the case that se dies again, that would even more suport his accusations?

Well said! It's why I regard his romance route so highly. I'm sure I've said this a dozen times before, but I'll say it again anyway: Kaidan loves Shepard, but he's not a pushover. He is perfectly capable of standing on his own two feet. He knows how to separate his duty from his personal life. For me, that's the perfect kind of guy for Shepard.

Exactly so.

I doubt it was Chakwas. It was probably some nice young lady he could date. In ME3 I have this nagging feeling that we'll meet this doctor, she'll ask to join the crew because Kaidan is there and she wants to make sure he's okay at all times, and DRAMA ENSUES. ...Yeah, I have an active imagination. xD

I doubt it also, but there would be a slim chance tho. Oh my, that would be some drama! But at same time, getting Kaidan "back" wouldnt be self-explanatory (probably mispelled it) and would highten his value even more.

INORITE?? That was such a huge disappointment! I was looking forward to some insight on how Kaidan's been doing since most everyone has a file, but nooo. >__> I guess it's okay, though. It would constantly nip at my conscience if we had a chance to spy on him lol.

Well... it wouldnt be spying... not realy... maybe slight paranoia?   Lets see... instead seeing Jacob doing pushups on Normandy... a niceeee looooong vid of Kaidan under the shower... ... minus the pretty doctor that is!!!

[meonlyred]

Wow, this is what happens when I leave my computer for a few hours. You made several excellent points Shanya.

A strong minded woman like Shepard needs equaly strong minded man and not somebody who would run behind her as a doggy just because she is The Shepard.

I joke that Kaidan is the 'adult' relationship of any video game romance I pursue. Alistair is sugary and sweet. Anders and Atton are the guys you know you shouldn't get invovled with but you do. Not that there is anything wrong with any of these guys but there is something different about Kaidan. He doesn't need Shepard. She isn't there to fix him or set him on his path. He is equally potent in his own right. A smart guy with a career and a life away from this woman. Put it this way, if any of these guys were real: I would date Anders, Atton, and Alistair in high school but marry Kaidan.

Could the doctor he mentions be Dr. Chakwas? He doesnt realy say that he tryed dating, he just says that ge went out for drinks and I dont know... she could be one considering her look at Shepy when you bring her that bottle and you drink with her... Probably I am wrong on that and there is who knows what doctor there. I hope that Lilith isnt that doctor tho...

I don't think Chakwas is the doctor he mentains. Nor do I think that the doctor is Lilith. Though it would be VERY interesting if that is revealed. Especially if Shepard got there in time to watch her die. I think my Shepard would feel very sad for him losing yet ANOTHER woman in his life. Truly that would mean Kaidan has the worst luck in the galaxy when it comes to women. No I think we still haven't meet the doctor.

A idea that has been milling around my head about that. Hypothetically, what if Kaidan is still with this doctor at Shepard's trial. For whatever reason Kaidan's past relationship with Shepard is revealed and the Doctor leaves. Whether angry or knowing when to bow out the better woman, I dunno.

If anything happens for Kaidan and Shepard in ME3, I don't want Shepard to just show him the evidence about her being brought back to life. If he is going to return to her he has to believe her on her word and her word alone. Alternatively Shepard should NOT be angry at him for Horizon. She should respect him for standing up to her.

Kaidan is Shepard's equal, first as fellow marines. Now as fellow Spectres. They are comrades, friends, and lovers.

Modifié par meonlyred, 30 mai 2011 - 04:18 .

[Collider]

I'm pretty sure the doctor is just some doctor. I also got the impression that he wasn't really into it.

[Kia Purity]

Same, hence what I wrote, lol. I never thought he seemed *that* into her considering his feelings for Shepard.

[Eshaye]

meonlyred wrote...

A idea that has been milling around my head about that. Hypothetically, what if Kaidan is still with this doctor at Shepard's trial. For whatever reason Kaidan's past relationship with Shepard is revealed and the Doctor leaves. Whether angry or knowing when to bow out the better woman, I dunno.

If anything happens for Kaidan and Shepard in ME3, I don't want Shepard to just show him the evidence about her being brought back to life. If he is going to return to her he has to believe her on her word and her word alone. Alternatively Shepard should NOT be angry at him for Horizon. She should respect him for standing up to her.

Kaidan is Shepard's equal, first as fellow marines. Now as fellow Spectres. They are comrades, friends, and lovers.

Wayyy back when the first incarnation of this thread was created I remember being one of the very few who found the idea of Kaidan dating another woman, this doctor lady, actually appealing. Two years is enough time for him to grieve and move on and as awesome as Shepard is they didn't know each other THAT long. 

I envisioned the new relationship to be fairly new but important enough that he needed to mention it while leaving it open that he's willing to end it for Shep if she feels the same way. I need to re-read that email but from what I remember it was typical Kaidan stating where he was at and leaving himself a whole lot of options to back out, in this case on both Shepard and the doctor.. 

I'm really excited for Kaidan to be a spectre in ME3 and looking forwards to hopefully seeing interact with Shep on equal terrain all the time. 

As for Horizon in my own mind Shepard is only angry with him at first but undestands how he feels, I thought her awkwardness on Horizon was maybe due to knowing she's been gone so long and not knowing how he would react. If anything her anger is due to hurt more then actual anger, for her it's like she saw him maybe a week ago it would be hard to deal with. 

[KawaiiKatie]

I swear on all that is holy, if Kaidan introduces Shepard to his new girlfriend while Shepard is on trial, my (previously loyal) femShep will immediately grab Zaeed and make out with him furiously. See how Kaidan likes that.

I mean, I could handle meeting Kaidan's new girlfriend.... but not while I'm facing terrorism charges. Handling both at the same time would just be too much.

[Eshaye]

KawaiiKatie wrote...

I swear on all that is holy, if Kaidan introduces Shepard to his new girlfriend while Shepard is on trial, my (previously loyal) femShep will immediately grab Zaeed and make out with him furiously. See how Kaidan likes that.

I mean, I could handle meeting Kaidan's new girlfriend.... but not while I'm facing terrorism charges. Handling both at the same time would just be too much.

Yeah that's a fair point.  Zaeed really? I'd take Thane's high inducing lips over big Z. 

[KawaiiKatie]

Eshaye wrote...

KawaiiKatie wrote...

I swear on all that is holy, if Kaidan introduces Shepard to his new girlfriend while Shepard is on trial, my (previously loyal) femShep will immediately grab Zaeed and make out with him furiously. See how Kaidan likes that.

I mean, I could handle meeting Kaidan's new girlfriend.... but not while I'm facing terrorism charges. Handling both at the same time would just be too much.

Yeah that's a fair point.  Zaeed really? I'd take Thane's high inducing lips over big Z. 

I think it adds an extra layer of insult if I grab a DLC character instead of a proper love-interest.

....and now I actually want to see how Kaidan would react to the sight of femShep making out with Big Daddy Z.

[Kia Purity]

I think my Shep would have gone Renegade and jumped out of a closed window all, "Screw this, I'm out of here!"

I'd be amused to see everyone's reaction to that. XD Especially Kaidan's. But uh, yeah, introducing the doctor *airquotes* "girlfriend" *airquotes* would be extremely tacky at the trial and out of character for Kaidan.

...it'd be especially awkward when they call him as a character witness and he gets accused of being biased in Shepard's favor just because he slept with Shepard. (Things get crazy.)

[nranola]

Shanya wrote...

I doubt it also, but there would be a slim chance tho. Oh my, that would be some drama! But at same time, getting Kaidan "back" wouldnt be self-explanatory (probably mispelled it) and would highten his value even more.

Mmm... Delicious drama... :9

I guess what it really boils down to for me is, I don't want Kaidan to be handed back to us on a silver platter. I want there to be some sort of conflict, a bit of a challenge, before he comes back to us. More so if romanced.

Well... it wouldnt be spying... not realy... maybe slight paranoia?   Lets see... instead seeing Jacob doing pushups on Normandy... a niceeee looooong vid of Kaidan under the shower... ... minus the pretty doctor that is!!!

LOL. Well, I certainly have no objections to a steamy shower scene... with or without company. The former being with Shepard, of course. *kicks doctor in the baby*

meonlyred wrote...

Put it this way, if any of these guys were real: I would date Anders, Atton, and Alistair in high school but marry Kaidan.

I think that pretty much sums up how I feel about Kaidan's romance. It's very independent, very mature, very professional - a nice change from the overly-romantic romances in most games.

[Fault Girl]

KawaiiKatie wrote...

I swear on all that is holy, if Kaidan introduces Shepard to his new girlfriend while Shepard is on trial, my (previously loyal) femShep will immediately grab Zaeed and make out with him furiously. See how Kaidan likes that.

I mean, I could handle meeting Kaidan's new girlfriend.... but not while I'm facing terrorism charges. Handling both at the same time would just be too much.

I would glady kiss Zaeed anyday

Man I want it to be 2012 now! Can't wait for E3.

I'm still 50/50 with Horizon but there are many excellent points.

I was with Kaidan every step of the way, it was Shep that annoyed me with her responses. haha

[Shanya]

What if... what if... oh hell... Dr Chakwas cant testify for Shepards revival since she also is with Cerberus even because she is realy there because of Shep... I would think that Shepys reviwal will pop up on the trial... Now what if this Kaidas doctor would speak agains Shepard as in :"Dead is dead, nobody can be resurected!" ??? Or maybe she would confirm that it is possible.
On another note... the doctor could also secretly work for Cerberus itself feeding Ilusive Man with info on Kaidan, maybe even having a "mission" to "distract" Kaidan and making Horizon as it is? Darn, I realy wouldnt like to see something like that happening to Kaidan.
As it nags me that there is that doctor there but at same time, well, it is good to know that Kaidan did try to have a life (or is having one) etc. We do wish him all the best, dont we?

I on other hand dont believe that Kaidan went with her on more than maybe couple of drinks and I would even say that that doctor holds no serious interest for Kaidan. I even think that it was one drink only BUT he felt the need to say about it for 3 reasons:
1. he is honest that he tried to move on
2. he would want Shepy to know that he is still a "man", not a monk ,  if you get my drift
3. he would leave himself a way out, not buning all the bridges since

Besides, you just speak with Liara few times and he (with Liara) conforts Shepy, so it seems that in his book, things like chating are already "something", so in light of that, he would tell her about the doctor. Besides, what about some good old jelousy? Maybe he would play that angle a bit in order to try to get real emotional reaction from Shepy? Just a thought... considering that he doesnt exactly knows how Shepard might or might not feel...

As for ME3... there MUST be Kaidan as squad member and it shouldnt be as easy as smiling once to him to get him "back", it should be harder than it is in ME to get him. As for him trusting Shepard... well, getting that back should take time and not been received meerly on some files and stuff.

I just hope that BioWare delivers...

As for Zaeed... hell, I love that guy. His expresion when he gets smacked by Shepard is PRICLESS! He would actualy be interesting romance possibility and my other Shepard (not the one that is utterly Kaidans) would definetly go for him. The third one goes for Thane.:innocent:

...counting down to the 2012... would wanna warp there...

edited to adding this:
Anders relates with Kaidan in one thing: he believes in something so strongly that he doesnt change its mind just because of the woman he loves. Fenris was just...well... steamy. Alistair will always be sweet, funny guy that my warden utterly loved... besides... that part where he high-pitched-screamed "DRAGON.... GOD..." was in my book totaly awsomly pricless....

Modifié par Shanya, 30 mai 2011 - 06:20 .

[Collider]

Besides, what about some good old jelousy? Maybe he would play that angle a bit in order to try to get real emotional reaction from Shepy? Just a thought... considering that he doesnt exactly knows how Shepard might or might not feel...

Trying to make Shepard jealous doesn't sound like Kaidan.
I think he'd be honest with Shepard.

[KawaiiKatie]

Collider wrote...

Besides, what about some good old jelousy? Maybe he would play that angle a bit in order to try to get real emotional reaction from Shepy? Just a thought... considering that he doesnt exactly knows how Shepard might or might not feel...

Trying to make Shepard jealous doesn't sound like Kaidan.
I think he'd be honest with Shepard.

Exactly this. I think the only reason that Kaidan mentioned his "date" at all is because he's extremely honest, and he wanted to be up-front with Shepard. I think that Kaidan respects Shepard enough to be honest, and I belieave that he would show tact, if he actually feels something for this unrevealed doctor.

Modifié par KawaiiKatie, 30 mai 2011 - 06:21 .

[Shanya]

Yes, I know, it doesnt seem like him... but again, time did pass, he could have changed on that departement... hopefuly not, tho.

[bioticbooty]

KawaiiKatie wrote...

I swear on all that is holy, if Kaidan introduces Shepard to his new girlfriend while Shepard is on trial, my (previously loyal) femShep will immediately grab Zaeed and make out with him furiously. See how Kaidan likes that.

I mean, I could handle meeting Kaidan's new girlfriend.... but not while I'm facing terrorism charges. Handling both at the same time would just be too much.

That would be so incredibly heart-breaking if you met Kaidan's [hypothetical] girlfriend at the trial. Can you imagine the sheer amoung of emotions that Shepard would experience? For me it would be a complete system overload, and something crazy would go down. That would be way to much to handle. I mean, you're already on trial for the destruction of an entire system and the annihilation of 300,000 batarians. Having the person you love and stayed loyal to, holding on to hope that maybe sometime in the future things could be right again, only to have them bring in their new lover? ... Complete melt-down. If it were me, I'd just stand there as if I were a zombie, completely dead to the world as my brain tried desperately to digest that information. 

I mean, on the one hand, it is completely natural and expected even that Kaidan would move on. It's been two years.

Wayyy back when the first incarnation of this thread was created I remember being one of the very few who found the idea of Kaidan dating another woman, this doctor lady, actually appealing. Two years is enough time for him to grieve and move on and as awesome as Shepard is they didn't know each other THAT long. 
I envisioned the new relationship to be fairly new but important enough that he needed to mention it while leaving it open that he's willing to end it for Shep if she feels the same way. I need to re-read that email but from what I remember it was typical Kaidan stating where he was at and leaving himself a whole lot of options to back out, in this case on both Shepard and the doctor.. 

I'm a proponent of this as well, if only because it's more realistic than someone holding off for two years. If Kaidan is in a relationship with someone, I imagine that it's still nowhere near the level he felt for Shepard. Shepard is first in his heart, otherwise he wouldn't have said "I loved you," on Horizon with such vehemence and emotion. He might still carry feelings for her, or have feelings that could easily be reignited. Shepard and Kaidan went through an intense journey together, and what happened between them aboard the Normandy was nothing to be taken lightly. For one thing, Kaidan did not leave himself a way out that night, even though that's the trademark Alenko approach. 

However, I still like to believe that once Kaidan knew Shepard was back, he stopped any relationship he did have. Because she had that much of an impact on his life. It's not something you get over lightly, and the way he talks about the doctor, saying that it was nothing serious, leads me to believe that he wouldn't be able to continue such a relationship because he would have too much on his mind. It wouldn't be fair to anyone involved, and if Kaidan is anything, he is honorable. 

I spend way too much time thinking about these kinds of things.  I'll just leave this here...