I'm not going to read all the many, many posts on here. My reply is just about the comments presented by the OP...
I think the problem the OP is having is thinking of the game as a Dragon Age: Origins sequel. In fact, it can hardly be called a sequel at all, as it seems more like... Well what The Force Unleashed is to KotOR. They inhabit the same world, but that's as far as it goes.
IMO it was a poor choice to name it Dragon Age 2 in the first place when it's not a direct continuation. I think that decision was just made from a marketing point of view given the success of DA:O. I remember reading a post about why they didn't want to go with a subtitle, I think they were having trouble with one that fit and thought it seemed easier to slap a 2 on there. Whatever, it's not what I would've done.
What Origins highlighted was in the title; the varied origins you can choose for your character. That's why this isn't Dragon Age: Origins 2, because it's not the same format and that's not what this game is about. I'd think the fact that Dragon Age: Origins made a point of putting 'origins' in the title and talking about how the origins were so important in -this- game would make one realize that this wasn't to be the standard.
As for alignment.. Let's face it, you could never be
evil in Origins. You can't side with the darkspawn. Nor can you not fight Loghain and just say 'Hey man, let's join up! You seem awesome!'. The game decides that you want to be a Warden, that you must defeat Loghain at the Landsmeet and that you will kill the Archdemon and save Ferelden. You can be a jerk, but the big plot points will always paint your character a hero, however flawed a hero you may be.
RE: Varric looking like a short human... I agree. I'm not really sure what was with the whole thing about how 'this new style emphasizes the differences between races', considering they've made elf women have bigger boobs like human women and made dwarf women have smaller, more human-like facial features. So basically the different 'standards of beauty' for female dwarves, elves, qunari and humans are.... small button noses, pouty lips and hourglass figures. What variety!

It seems like the only change that made either race -less- like humans was giving elves anime eyes and making their ears bigger. Neither change I really approve of, honestly.