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[mopotter]

My husband will tease me that I'm a vid-e-it but he has his hobbies, watching hunting shows, and I have mine, rpg games. He played DA:O and may decide to play DA2. We have picked up two copies of games in the past.

[kellyofthemagi]

My husband and I are both gamers. So to solve the problem of game hogging he bought me my own tv and PS3. If we play the same game we"ve gotten two copies. Problem solved! It was his fault anyway for introducing me to gaming.

[quickthorn]

I introduced my husband to gaming. He's always been far more casual about it than me, although we've bought 2 copies of MMOs in the past so we could level together. He will sometimes watch me play an RPG because he says he finds it more relaxing than playing the game himself. I would hate that personally because I'd want to take control of the game.

[Trekfanboy]

Most of us have spouses who aren't into gaming like we are and get annoyed (perhaps rightfully) when we spend more time playing games than we spend with them.

Some people are lucky enough to find a spouse who is likewise into gaming.

A select unlucky few (like the original poster) have spouses who have a "double standard" and play games but get annoyed when their spouse plays games.

[Elsariel]

My husband and I are both gamers.  We love to play games together (MMO's), though he has a little bit of a problem when I want to play a game solo.  He can be a little needy and gets crabby if he's apart from me for too long.   It's sweet, but midly irritating at times.
Sometimes, I tease him and ask him who's really the girl in our relationship. 

[PSUHammer]

suemaw wrote...

     Well I'm just curious to know if anyone else's spouse has threatened to disable their computers when DA 2 comes out.  
I thought I was considerate enough when I got a copy of DAO for my Mac so I would stop hogging the console and TV, but now my spouse knows DA 2 is coming out soon and my laptop maybe confiscated if I feed my addiction too much.  By the way, he refuses to play it and has dubbed it "a woman's game" because there is too much dialogue in his opinion.  (The nerve lol )

My wife is not looking forward to it that much...although she is used to it.  Seriously, though, gaming can have a strain on a marriage/relationship if you are invested in it too much.  But, I guess that is true for any solo hobby.  My wife and I have an understanding of what is acceptable and what isn't (all weekend gaming marathons, for instance, are from a bygone and single era of my life).

Now that I have a two year old commanding my attention, though, I find myself unable to game until bedtime for her.

[Mlaar]

My other half encourages my gaming habits that way she can do her own hobbies without male interferrance!! still she'll be playing DA2 and I expect that after a romantic liason she'll head into the bedroom wearing some unflattering undies saying lets get it on and i'll be thinking bloody bioware and thier spoilers!!
never re-enact the sex scene thats my only advice

[Erani]

Well, my darling has very long working hours...like 2am still working...so the few times I've heard complaints in the video games department, I've been like "oh well payback is a b**ch uhh"

[Elsariel]

Autolycus wrote...

Most of us have spouses who aren't into gaming like we are and get annoyed (perhaps rightfully) when we spend more time playing games than we spend with them.

This.

Anyone who would rather spend more time with a game than their partner seriously needs to re-evaluate their life and relationship.

I think there just needs to be a balance.  It's healthy for partners to have their own hobbies and have time away from each other.  Too much time together can be just as detrimental as too much time apart, in my experience.  

[Tinxa]

Elsariel wrote...

Autolycus wrote...

Most of us have spouses who aren't into gaming like we are and get annoyed (perhaps rightfully) when we spend more time playing games than we spend with them.

This.

Anyone who would rather spend more time with a game than their partner seriously needs to re-evaluate their life and relationship.

I think there just needs to be a balance.  It's healthy for partners to have their own hobbies and have time away from each other.  Too much time together can be just as detrimental as too much time apart, in my experience.  

I agree. It's not like you'll be playing DA2 24h a day the whole year. It's when they can't put up with it for 2-3 days of new game obsession and read a book or something for a couple of hours while you play is what I find a little selfish. You see them, talk and spend time with them every day anyway.

[Jenksy]

Actually, my wife only plays games like "Puppy Pony Princess Parade" and typically condemns me for playing any type of video game. However, after watching me play some DA:O, she became interested and started a toon.

She ended up loving it! She played the game for about two weeks straight, and now is up to 4 playthroughs.

When she heard about DA2, she told me to make sure that I went and pre-ordered it that day (she would've done it herself, but I work next door to Gamestop).

After playing the demo, she's kinda disappointed. I think that the combat is a bit too fast-paced and over-the-top for her. However, she's still excited and can't wait to see how the story progresses.

I'm buying her the books for her birthday. Shhhhhhhhhh, don't tell her! ;-)

[Drowsy0106]

Erani wrote...

Well, my darling has very long working hours...like 2am still working...so the few times I've heard complaints in the video games department, I've been like "oh well payback is a b**ch uhh"

Are you absolutely sure your hubby is working that late? They might have a console and a fridge full of beers at work 

Modifié par Drowsy0106, 02 mars 2011 - 03:38 .

[Tinxa]

So what's the alternative if wanting to play a game more than usual for a couple of days means you obviously need to reevaluate your relationship???
I just don't find it healthy to spend 24h a day, every day with your partner and only your partner doing nothing else which doesn't involve your partner. Not do I find it healthy if a partner desires this and can't humor you for a couple of days (and you do the same for them with their hobbies).

[Elsariel]

Autolycus wrote...

It's when they can't put up with it for 2-3 days of new game obsession and read a book or something for a couple of hours while you play is what I find a little selfish

Almost as 'selfish' as wanting to 'obsess' over a game for 2-3 days no?

I stand by what I said.

LOL.... if someone can't handle their spouse enjoying their hobby for 2-3 days, I would be seriously concerned.   What are they afraid of?  Losing their affection?   Suddenly their spouse doesn't love them anymore?  I mean, really.   If someone can't be happy for their spouse enjoying something that they love (even a bit obessively)  for a few days then.... wow.  Well, I'm just glad that's not my relationship.

Differen't strokes, I guess.

[Rexras]

Even during DA:O days, I don't play for a few days, neglecting my wife.

It's just an issue on balancing gaming time with couple time.

[leighzard]

My husband and I moved our trip to visit his mom back so that I can play DA2 all day Tuesday. Tragically the release is in the middle of spring break.

He owes me though for putting up with law school for the past 2 1/2 years. And you know paying the bills, cooking, cleaning, looking after the dog....
wait a minute, why am I even doing this mother-in-law trip?

[ReallyRue]

suemaw wrote...

     Well I'm just curious to know if anyone else's spouse has threatened to disable their computers when DA 2 comes out.  
I thought I was considerate enough when I got a copy of DAO for my Mac so I would stop hogging the console and TV, but now my spouse knows DA 2 is coming out soon and my laptop maybe confiscated if I feed my addiction too much.  By the way, he refuses to play it and has dubbed it "a woman's game" because there is too much dialogue in his opinion.  (The nerve lol )

I'm guessing that in real life he communicates via miming then? Or sign language?

Thankfully I have no such situation.

[KSuri]

Bekkael wrote...

Cuthlan wrote...

Orange_Section wrote...

On a more serious note, my wife don´t play at all, the last game she played was Sonic the Hedgehog in the 90´s or something. Wish me luck trying to get her to play DA2 !! <_< *cries a bit*

If you figure out a way, let me know. I know my wife would enjoy DA:O but I can't get her to try it.

Does she enjoy romance? If so, just tell her it is an interactive romance novel.

I used to give my hubby a hard time about his gaming...then I played Splinter Cell with him on co-op. I loved it, because we did it together. We have played all 3 Halo games together, Army Of Two, etc. So, maybe try something where you can play with your lady. You never know, it might work....or not. Best of luck.

^^^^^THIS^^^^^

Get your gal to play something with you, be it Halo, StarCraft, Diablo II, whatever. You might be surprised at the outcome. That's how I got into gaming.

As to the OP.....I hear you. My husband threatens disapperance of gaming machines too. He doesn't actually mean it as he has his times of disappearing into the gaming universe too. Not often grant you.....not with having young kids and work to attend to. And I know I drive him nuts with my slight OC nature with things that i'm really into. As long as the kids are cared for and fed, laundry isn't piled up, you can walk across the floor barefoor, and there's food made every night he looks the other way on what I MIGHT have been doing in the morning hours.


Offer him a trade off......He looks the other way for a week while you slay everything in sight and you'll return the favor the next time a cool game for him comes out.

[Bekkael]

Purgatious wrote...

Arttis wrote...

Purgatious wrote...

His choices are DA2 + Sex or no DA2 and zero chance of sex.

Heavy risk.

Unless she enjoys sex just as much then you would wanna leave that alone.

Shes a women, thats not even possible.

And married to boot.

Actually, if she enjoys sex as much as him then it wouldn't be used as a selfish power play. Not every woman plays those immature games.

Wow, stereotype much?  I'm assuming that was intended as humor, but I still feel compelled to set the record straight. I am both a woman and married (for 17 years, as I said in an earlier post), and I happen to enjoy sex at least as much and as frequently as most men. I have female friends who are married and feel the same. It's really not all that unusual to find happily married women with big appetites that keep their men very busy...and happy. 

I also agree with the other posters. Balance with regard to hobbies is very important. I think most people are able to find the happy medium and enjoy their hobbies while also fulfilling their obligations and responsibilities.

[bloodyfall]

i just dropped 300 bucks on a treadmill that she has wanted for a while so my wife feels like she owes me. I just keep telling her not to worry about it and that all i want is to make her happy. I planned this so that when da2 comes out she will feel that she owes me time with my games for a while for being so sweet lately.
Plus she knew who i was when she met me. I am a gamer at heart and always will be. After all her first gift for me was MGS4 3 years ago and thats when i knew i would marry this woman. ^^

[CroGamer002]

suemaw wrote...

     Well I'm just curious to know if anyone else's spouse has threatened to disable their computers when DA 2 comes out.  
I thought I was considerate enough when I got a copy of DAO for my Mac so I would stop hogging the console and TV, but now my spouse knows DA 2 is coming out soon and my laptop maybe confiscated if I feed my addiction too much.  By the way, he refuses to play it and has dubbed it "a woman's game" because there is too much dialogue in his opinion.  (The nerve lol )

You're his wife.
You're the one in control.

[ChrisBGoose341]

" By the way, he refuses to play it and has dubbed it "a woman's game" because there is too much dialogue in his opinion."
Hmmm... Sounds like an excuse for illiteracy. I would try to get him to read. He may be taking his frustration out on DA2 and you because inside he is hurting from not being able to read.

[suemaw]

Bekkael wrote...

Purgatious wrote...

Arttis wrote...

Purgatious wrote...

His choices are DA2 + Sex or no DA2 and zero chance of sex.

Heavy risk.

Unless she enjoys sex just as much then you would wanna leave that alone.

Shes a women, thats not even possible.

And married to boot.

Actually, if she enjoys sex as much as him then it wouldn't be used as a selfish power play. Not every woman plays those immature games.

Wow, stereotype much?  I'm assuming that was intended as humor, but I still feel compelled to set the record straight. I am both a woman and married (for 17 years, as I said in an earlier post), and I happen to enjoy sex at least as much and as frequently as most men. I have female friends who are married and feel the same. It's really not all that unusual to find happily married women with big appetites that keep their men very busy...and happy. 

I also agree with the other posters. Balance with regard to hobbies is very important. I think most people are able to find the happy medium and enjoy their hobbies while also fulfilling their obligations and responsibilities.

Gawds,  I seem to have opened up a can of worms for some people.  My spouse is not serious with his threats.  I certainly agree with the idea of balance.  We've already booked our summer vacation with no modern utilities. Besides, Spring Break is coming up for me so I'm off of work for a week except completing report cards.  I'll get some gaming time plus quality time with my spouse when DA 2 comes out.