Well just for the kicks I found a file which could help unlock the appearance menu along with the "events of dragon age" selector and when I used my savegame from the older games (DA:O , DA:A and Witchhunt) its reading the savegame totally wrong.
A picture is worth a thousand words so here it is...

I really hope this is only a bug with the demo as Alistair sacrificed himself, connor was saved and loghain was never a gray warden in my game.