highcastle wrote...
-self snip-
Fair enough, but do you need to be the most important thing in Anders' life, or can you except than some things are more important than Hawke? I know in RL my significant other is never going to be the most important thing in the world to me. There's too much else I'm passionate about, have been passionate about, and will continue being passionate about in the future. So rivalmancing Anders just so he'll place you in front of his cause seems kind of selfish. And blindly following Hawke's choices doesn't seem healthy, either. It basically turns him into a slave with no convictions, and for me personally, Anders is attractive in large part because of his convictions.
As to whether Anders wants to die, this may well be the case. So when does suicide become acceptable? Is there no chance Anders can have a happy life after this? Should we just allow him to give into despair? I have an uncle who committed suicide and a good friend who attempted it as a teenager. No one can say if my uncle would have been able to turn things around. He didn't get the help he needed, so the opportunity was lost. My friend did get help. She went through some terrible experiences in her childhood and adolescence, but she's a strong, well-adjusted adult working in the family court system right now. She took something horrific and turned it into something positive. Regardless of Anders' current emotional state, there's no saying the same couldn't be said for him in the future.
Sorry, suicide tends to be one of my hot button issues, and that's how I treat Anders' actions in the endgame. It's an attempt at suicide-by-Hawke.
I'm sorry if I provoked painful real life experience associations
- didn't mean to. Also, I was just listing things without stating personal
preference - I am possibly the weakest Hawke of all of you here - I could never
ever rivalmance anders or NOT romance him at all, and obviously, I could never
kill him. I wouldn't kill him even if I thought he was a monster that needed to
be put down - I'm not a fan of the murder knife, I can’t handle executions ,
even if it means risking a paedophile murderer escaping justice in
the Kirkwall courts.
I personally believe in the friendship for all the reasons all of
you have been listing and because I’d rather have a happy Anders 3 year
relationship than fight during the day and have angry sex at night kind of relationship.
Edit: Oh and I actually find the whole "you are the most importaint thing in my life but there are things more importaint than either of us" thing incredibly hot. The main reason I don't find Fenris interesting is that he doesn't seem to care about anything but his own past. I'd take the crazy mage with the cause any day, thanks
Modifié par Ninche, 26 avril 2011 - 01:22 .