Reflection Muse wrote...
I know, right?
I know I'm the minority in this thread, but I really like Fenris as a character and connected with him on a pretty personal level (his loyalty, protective nature, and willingness to consider change), but in a completely different way than with Anders. The softie in me always felt a little bad for giving up on him after that night, but hey that's the beauty of multiple playthroughs. I love 'em both; BioWare's writers know exactly what buttons to press to make me get all emotional.
I don't dislike Fenris at all. I actually quite like him and have started his romance arc a couple times (though never fully completed it). He has a tragic back story and as many flaws and virtues as Anders. I'm even sympathetic to his walking away because I'm not the greatest with commitment myself. In another game without Anders in it, I'd have been all over Fenris. But what I like about Anders' arc is that downward spiral.
Very often in romances, the story ends when things are good. That part hits the Anders arc in Act 2. He loves Hawke, never thought this would happen to him, they get together, etc. And then the game keeps going, and we get to see a side of romance not often explored: what happens when two people who genuinely love each other just can't or won't communicate? Is love alone enough to sustain a relationship?
Maybe I'm a sucker for emotional drama (alright, I
know I'm a sucker for this stuff), but I really like the darker implications of the romance arc. And I love that depending on how you play it, there's still a tiny ray of hope at the end. Like maybe, despite going through so much crap, there's a chance it can still work. They'll have to go through hell and back to do so, but I get the sense that Anders and Hawke (on the friendmance path at least) both care enough to
try. Whether they'll succeed or not is another story, but it should be a pretty emotional and intense journey regardless.
With Fenris, we get the happy ever after sense in the Gallows when he kisses Hawke and pledges support, etc. We get the hardship stuff in the middle of the game, but it happens so soon after the initiation of the romance that it doesn't have the same weight (for me, at least). Anders starts pulling away after being in a relationship for three years; Fenris after about three hours. The emotions at play aren't as deep. And then of course, the getting back together thing in Act 3 kills any tension and questioning about the future of their relationship. It seems pretty solid. Which is great for them, but not so great for a drama.
In short, I still like Fenris, but my Hawke's heart will always belong to Anders.