Questions About Merrill

Can you Romance Merrill if don't give her the Arulin Holm? From my understanding. If you don't give it to her then in near the end she realizes you were right all along. But can you still romance her and have a relationship with her?

Because I really don't want to give her the Arulin to fix the mirror, but I still want an ending where we end up together and in love.

And do you need to fix the mirror with her to get her to move in with you?

I'm worried that if I fix the mirror with her then she will become possessed or become heart broken over killing the Dalish Clan which I know you can avoid even if you fix that mirror.

But overall, I just want a lovely dubby relationship with her that doesnt involve fixing the mirror or is that the only way to go?

Well I still romanced her and asked her to move in without giving her the item.