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[Joshd21]

I have been debating on this with much thought. I am interested to find out what a girl finds more appealing about a man and what is most important.

1. Is it looks? well many will say no. But when you are out at a club, isn't that the first thing a girl notices when she meets you. I wonder how some girls wind up with jerks thinking this may be linked.

2. Money, is a girl more likely to be into you. If you have a million dollars, a nice car and a huge pad. Some say no, however I see some females on "american greed" living with this guy simply because he gave them gifts, jewarly and all claimed to have loved him.

3. Personality, this could be a factor, however is it the MAIN factor, could a woman date a guy, or a guy date a girl that doesn't look "hot" but have a nice personality? I'm curious.

So if your a guy, label what is most important to you from a woman, if you are a woman. Name what is most important to you from a guy.

Modifié par Joshd21, 14 mars 2011 - 11:10 .

[Swordfishtrombone]

For anything long term, personality is key - no matter how beautiful the woman, if her personality isn't compatible with yours, you won't be happy with her. Of course looks matter to me, I'd be lying if I said they didn't, but a great personality can go a long way making up for any deficiencies in the looks department.

Intelligence is sexy - a combination of intelligence and personality on a woman who's just average looking is much better than a stunning beauty with a perfect figure and an empty head.

[Dominus]

Personality should be the main factor. You can attract women with money and looks, but that doesn't mean the relationship will work. There's nothing wrong with having a better paying job or sprucing yourself up a little, but you have to be a compatible match, or it just won't succeed. Toot your own horn on the strengths of your personality. Make sure to be yourself. Unless you want to be someone else around her, be you

[Joshd21]

Interesting, be yourself an obvious answer but does it truely work. I have my doubts. If you walked up to a girl, "Hey I play PC games, and pre order online goods. can I have your number" suddenly I doubt that might go over easy if the girl is a "girly girl" and just is like "no"

[SleeplessInSigil]

It's your record on StarCraft II. I can attest from personal experience.

P.S. Do not play Zerg so much.

[Druss99]

The sheer number of women who claim they go for personality but will reject a guy they get on brilliantly with in favour of a better looking yet dull alternative is staggering. Theres nothing wrong with it but vehemently and sometimes violantly insisting they go for personality is just strange. But then I've been mates with alot of strange women.

One interesting tale from when I worked in an office a few years ago, there was 2 guys John and Seamus. John was spotty, overly skinny, single and strangely red, an odd looking being to say the least. Seamus was athletic, good looking and married. They both took a liking to the girl that sat beside me. John expressed his liking by saying to someone that he thought she was cute and enquired if she was single? He did nothing else, basically just did his job. Seamus expressed his liking by literally spending his day sat at his desk staring like an eagle at her and occassionally trying to follow her when she left the room, which got on my last nerve cause I was sat beside her and constantly in his eyeline. He never spoke once to her in the 10 months I was there, he literally just stared.

The women in the office became aware of both situations. The result? John the unattractive one who did nothing but enquire if she was single got labeled a freak and told to stay the hell away from her. But it was a good thing that Seamus this married man was staring at her and behaving like a rapist and every woman in the office thought so because he was well sexy. Being sat surrounded by most of the women I had to listen to this madness on a daily basis.

From my experiences over the years women will go for looks just as much as men will, but for some reason absolutely detest admitting it.

[Soundsystem]

Druss99 wrote...

The sheer number of women who claim they go for personality but will reject a guy they get on brilliantly with in favour of a better looking yet dull alternative is staggering. Theres nothing wrong with it but vehemently and sometimes violantly insisting they go for personality is just strange. But then I've been mates with alot of strange women.

Oh hi "Nice Guy Syndrome". How are you?

Just because you think that the option they choose is dull doesn't make it so. A girl is not obligated to go out with anyone she is friendly with or gets on great with. You are not entitled to her because you have spent SO LONG WAITING.

I know lots of people I get on brilliantly with yet wouldn't want to date, because they're great friends but their personality is not what I want in someone I date.

[Druss99]

Soundsystem wrote...

Druss99 wrote...

The sheer number of women who claim they go for personality but will reject a guy they get on brilliantly with in favour of a better looking yet dull alternative is staggering. Theres nothing wrong with it but vehemently and sometimes violantly insisting they go for personality is just strange. But then I've been mates with alot of strange women.

Oh hi "Nice Guy Syndrome". How are you?

Just because you think that the option they choose is dull doesn't make it so. A girl is not obligated to go out with anyone she is friendly with or gets on great with. You are not entitled to her because you have spent SO LONG WAITING.

I know lots of people I get on brilliantly with yet wouldn't want to date, because they're great friends but their personality is not what I want in someone I date.

I never said it was their friends they rejected nor that it was me, believe me I do not suffer from nice guy syndrome, I suffer from being broke and looking like a viking.

I'm talking about the amount of times over the years that mates have had the choice between 2 guys often saying they like one until the other shows interest, one was funny or nice or they got on great, the other was simply good looking but clearly a dullard or ****. They choose the good looking one and they know as well as everyone else does why it didn't work out but will under no circumstances admit they only went out with him because of his looks. I think I've only ever heard 2 women admit it, most guys I know just admit it, although I've known a couple who wouldn't.

Modifié par Druss99, 15 mars 2011 - 12:37 .

[Joshd21]

I'm starting to believe this thing I heard of. See maybe some women look at men and without even knowing it, are attracted to them physically. And their brain is telling them, they will have cute off spring so even if the guy is a total jerk to her, that enables her to be with him.

It's a sad truth I don't know if it lays with all woman around the world. However must judge by first impressions or looks. The more good looking you are, the more a girl will like you no matter how your personality is. I can't say that guys are't the same way in some area, but at least we are open to admit it.

Though in reality, a girl doesn't care about your grammer or writing skills online. That only leaves the question of what you and this female could possibely relate on?, Interesting theorys please keep submtitting them.

[Moondoggie]

it's really a balance of both. And that is not really gender specific. You need to be physically attracted to a person to want to be with them unless you are incredibly lonely and desperate enough to seek companionship with anyone then you just make do. Long term relationships are built on a lot of bonding and understanding. Initially you need physical attraction to be interested in somebody unless you know them really well that;s all you have to go on. When you are interested then you try to learn more about them to see if you are compatible.

What makes that compatability last is learning to understand the other person and who they are and then falling in love with who they are.

It's a balance of both personality and looks that will win a girl over. Anyone who says they don't go for looks is just being nice or trying to play the rightious card.

[KenKenpachi]

Hmm I'm a man so I don't know whats going on in most womens heads, but I am an observant SoB, and I've talked with a number of people, surprisingly considering how I act and most of them still tell me things about them, or etc, which is silly, as if I were a sword swining Dr Phil. But moving on.

I Myself tend to want (not that I look now) a clean woman, with moderate looks, I don't want a hand-me-down, or a "Smokin hot" babe. As in the former I have standards, and in the latter If cheated on I would most likely butcher them and in time be not as trusting of any sudden changes with them. On the wealth department, that has never been a major concern of mine, but I suspect a woman who is with me to at least keep a clean apperance, I don't mean like a China doll, or all makeup and smiles, but that she doesn't lounge around and looks like shes from the trailer park.

And then I have personality, I only look for a woman who is what I look for in a future companion, simular views, nicer than me, loyality, trustworthyness. If our humor differs I don't mind, I also make it clear I'll be in the driver seat, that being said I also like to engage in intellectual conversation, and on the political and the mundane as well. And then to consult on manners. Fairly traditional as well, and I found I am better fitted with an Eastern Minded woman far more than western ones.

Anyways I had a section typed below about each section broken up and with what I've seen of most men and women who stick to one of the three paths, but it was long and would bore most of you I wager, so I deleted it. But I can type and post it in no time at all if requested.

So personna, and then Looks, and last wealth, I prefer a low maintance woman actully.

[Moondoggie]

Why would somebody with morals be fun in bed? They sound like they would be the opporsite to me XD

[KenKenpachi]

Moondoggie wrote...

Why would somebody with morals be fun in bed? They sound like they would be the opporsite to me XD

Actully the reverse can hold true, would you rather have a car you can have your way with, or one thats been used by everyone in town? In fact one who never had sex may find it more pleasurable, as they say the forbidden fruit is the sweetest.  Rather a man or woman who has been with numerous others may just be "pretending" to enjoy it to please you.

Plus in the long term, would you want someone with no morals, who'll cheat on you with the first thing that catches there fancy? Or even other long term goals can be knocked out by this.

Unless all you want is a turn in the straw. Then all you really need is a hooker, money, and a healthcare plan. Just don't expect your "feelings" to ever be returned.

[Noir201]

Nvm

Modifié par Noir201, 15 mars 2011 - 02:05 .

[PSRdirector]

it was a joke... wow dude chill

[Dominus]

I like girls.

[Joshd21]

Girls are interesting to say the least, they say they don't go off looks but are with guys treated like crap sometimes but because he looks hawt she says with him and takes his verbal abuse. Are we pre programmed at birth how good we will be with girls based on the way we look?

Pretty shallow when you think about it, but when a girl sees you a party. She isn't looking into your personality, she is looking at your body and face. While the nice guys get thrown to the back of the room, and the guy that just doesn't care about her, gets promoted to her boyfriend.

It's just all very interesting.

[TheMufflon]

Other than making generalisations about women, is there a point to this thread?

[KenKenpachi]

Thats mainly in the cities and of high social classes, or rather high yet low. It has more to do with mass media. In more rural area's where there arn't so many skanks, its not the case, also in the thrid world. Primarily ability to provide, force of will, and physical/politcal power are paramount. And in fact such primal things can still attract a woman today. Or even charisima is very helpful, a cousin of mine has slept with enough women for that very last reasson I'm honstly surprised he doesn't have an STD. And he's brutally honest with it and uses pick up lines I have no clue why it doesn't get him slaped, such as this face palming one in Fridays "Hey Baby want to see why I'm called big John?" Hell the fact he's like a neanderfall has scored him alot of women who like a man who gets his hands dirty.

But in most of the World the former holds true. In fact by a combo of those first factors I landed the wife I have, that likes my sense of ambition, force of will over others. And the fact I don't tolerate fools. Go figure. But then again shes from Chinese and from Laos.

But yeah if you want a real romance, keep out of the damn clubs. As to your comment PSRdirector, I'm what you'ld call a "stick in the mud" my sense of humor is like Stens in DA:O, Dark or violence based. In fact unless you want a fight you don't even want me as a drinking buddy. I have fun though, well destructive sort of fun.

Such as breaking down a building with a sledge hammer, trust me beating the hell out of something or getting in a fight is quite enjoyable, a Kid from New Jersey used to think we were all nuts when we did that in Earth Science, but we corrupted him, soon enough he was throwing rocks into the fan and dodging just like us. Oddly I'm peaceful in day to day life...

Nah Muffon I think OP is pissed that he's not scoring in clubs given how often he brings it up.

Modifié par KenKenpachi, 15 mars 2011 - 02:11 .

[KenKenpachi]

Moondoggie wrote...

TheMufflon wrote...

Other than making generalisations about women, is there a point to this thread?

Not really but its something to talk about i guess. I figure the OP is looking for people to back up his opinions on why he can't get a gf or something because we are all too shallow and not because he has no testicles.

LOL Damn that was cold.....just wow.

[Joshd21]

Moondoggie wrote...

TheMufflon wrote...

Other than making generalisations about women, is there a point to this thread?

Not really but its something to talk about i guess. I figure the OP is looking for people to back up his opinions on why he can't get a gf or something because we are all too shallow and not because he has no testicles.

Whoa! what's with the name calling, reported for abusive language.

I'm just trying to understand the human behavior of women. I never said I was trying to get back an ex or shown an interest in a girl. Those are all based on thoughts you assume which are inaccurate. I am truely just trying to understand how the female brains really reacts when it comes to men.

Because at times, women say one thing and do another and I was trying the core for that.