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Débuté par Joshd21 , mars 14 2011 11:02

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#176
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Posté 24 mars 2011 - 10:44

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Blood-Lord Thanatos wrote...

I find it hard to approach women, now that I'm no longer in a relationship. Advice please?


Duck from cover to cover until your close enough to take her out. If cover isn't available then use the shadows to your advantage.

Unless you mean talking to women, just be cool and everything else depends on the situation.

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Posté 24 mars 2011 - 10:59

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LMAO Druss.....classic....

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Posté 24 mars 2011 - 11:13

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1.) If a woman is angry, am I better off trying to calm her down or finding a dark corner to hide in?

2.) Do women generally prefer a few expensive gifts or lots of crappy ones? (Frankly, I'd prefer to get her a few expensive ones, but so many guys get away with giving them complete sh!t!)

3.) Am I better off telling the truth or euphemizing it to protect her feelings? (So far it seems that lying is the way to go in most cases.)

4.) What's a way to tell her she looks good without sounding thoughtless, objectivizing, perverse, or like a complete ****?

5.) What is the best way to disguise my rage when she gets me to the point where I want to kill her? (Figuratively speaking, of course)

6.) What is the best course of action to take when she is grieving over something that I don't care about and is beyond my capacity to change? The only thing I can really do know is be a "grief dummy," and some don't like that.

7.) What is the best way to tell when she is taunting/guilt tripping me into action rather than simply stating facts/opinions?

8.) What is the best way to maintain a relationship with a women I can see <2 times /week?

9.) In what circumstances are it most important to respect her decision making ability?

10.) Is it possible to be supportive while telling her to quit a certain endeavor?


1. You can run but you cannot hide. Listen to her vent and when she's calmed down tell her what you honestly think (note: calming down can take me days if I'm that angry)

2. Totally depends on the girl

3. See above. Some don't want to know what you think in which case it won't work out and some do in which case you'll have to work through it

4. Haha my ex always used to go with "you look amazing" sincerity helps with whatever you say

5. I made it clear to my ex that I wanted him to tell me when I was driving him crazy mainly because I wanted to tell him when I wanted to murder him. But this one will depend on your dynamic as a couple

6. Listen, be supportive and when in doubt call her best friend

7. Secret info, no telling

8. It's called a phone

9. Every decision but be honest when you think she's making a mistake

10. Yes, but avoid "I told you so" at all costs

#179
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Posté 25 mars 2011 - 11:34

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"I told you so" = swift unstoppable kick to the crotch (something almost every man knows); women know our weakness so don't tempt them.

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Ashira Shepard
Posté 26 mars 2011 - 12:23

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Soundsystem wrote...
Oh hi "Nice Guy Syndrome". How are you?

Just because you think that the option they choose is dull doesn't make it so. A girl is not obligated to go out with anyone she is friendly with or gets on great with. You are not entitled to her because you have spent SO LONG WAITING.

I know lots of people I get on brilliantly with yet wouldn't want to date, because they're great friends but their personality is not what I want in someone I date.


This crosses over into painful terrority that just makes women patently confusing.

Not saying all girls are like that, or that people are supposed to feel entilted, but it can get twisted.

Modifié par AshiraShepard, 26 mars 2011 - 12:25 .

#181
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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 12:44

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^ Haven't seen that one in a while. Still get choked up reading it...hum.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 02:41

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AshiraShepard wrote...

Soundsystem wrote...
Oh hi "Nice Guy Syndrome". How are you?

Just because you think that the option they choose is dull doesn't make it so. A girl is not obligated to go out with anyone she is friendly with or gets on great with. You are not entitled to her because you have spent SO LONG WAITING.

I know lots of people I get on brilliantly with yet wouldn't want to date, because they're great friends but their personality is not what I want in someone I date.


This crosses over into painful terrority that just makes women patently confusing.

Not saying all girls are like that, or that people are supposed to feel entilted, but it can get twisted.

I have to say I thought the girl who wrote that was being sarcastic and making fun of nice guys until I got to the end of it.

Don't women usually only start dating nice guys because they are settlling for less? It's not like they grow out of a phase and all of a sudden start liking nice guys, right? Because that doesn't make sense.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 03:37

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@Shirosaki - People mature for sure. Maybe it's like great guys and great girls are each a brain cell in a progressive alcoholic, desperately trying to find each other so that they might stand a chance of reproducing to better the world (or a metaphor with fewer holes in it).

Seriously though I don't get more out of dating a jerk. It's not like I think to myself "how am I going to ignore my male friend. I know I'll pick the most obnoxious guy and flirt with him". If he doesn't tell me he cares, how am I supposed to know?

I used to settle for less when I went out with guys who didn't get Monty Python. It's values not saintly behaviour that builds a relationship. Though it can take a lot of bad boyfriends to reach that conclusion.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 03:44

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Yeah but you can walk over nice guys, and they're boring, and I'm sure there is a bunch of other stuff wrong with them.

I'm not saying you have to date a jerk that treats you like crap. But isn't someone who challenges you, doesn't let you get away with crap all the time and calls you on your BS when you're not right so much better than the guy who gives in all the time?

I mean I can't see it unless a woman is settling for less. Maybe it's the stability of the nice guy for building a family that appeals to women, but isn't that still settling for less?

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 04:02

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Shirosaki17 wrote...

Yeah but you can walk over nice guys, and they're boring, and I'm sure there is a bunch of other stuff wrong with them.

I'm not saying you have to date a jerk that treats you like crap. But isn't someone who challenges you, doesn't let you get away with crap all the time and calls you on your BS when you're not right so much better than the guy who gives in all the time?

I mean I can't see it unless a woman is settling for less. Maybe it's the stability of the nice guy for building a family that appeals to women, but isn't that still settling for less?


If my only options are jerk and pushover, I'll stay single. But if I could find a guy that is "someone who challenges you, doesn't let you get away with crap all the time and calls you on your BS when you're not right so much better than the guy who gives in all the time?" I would absolutely date him. And he would be the kind of guy I would need for the stability required to build a family. If I was 30 or older though and desperately wanted kids I suppose I'd have to consider settling for less.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 05:22

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lol sure, being a nice guy is great, if you liked being walked on all over XD. and in response to fiddles, you mean like a guy with a back bone? but yeah, sometimes i see those nice guys trying to get the ladies, and well, its a little pitiful

#187
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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 05:28

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Ladies did you know when we ask you to shave your beaver, this is what we really mean?


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I really have no clue what in the hell some of you are thinking when this is clearly what we mean.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 05:42

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These days women need to shave their mustaches. It's horrible how many just walk around with a thicker mustache than me after two days of not shaving. It's like they don't care or something. It's weird.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:22

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Shiro, I'm confused by how you're connecting being a nice guy, to a girl "settling for less."

The "nice guy" in question could be really sweet, gentle and loving. That doesn't mean he's automatically a pushover or "lesser" for not being a total jerk or not raising his voice or something similar. "Nice guys" can be strong and confident as well.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:26

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AshiraShepard wrote...

Shiro, I'm confused by how you're connecting being a nice guy, to a girl "settling for less."

The "nice guy" in question could be really sweet, gentle and loving. That doesn't mean he's automatically a pushover or "lesser" for not being a total jerk or not raising his voice or something similar. "Nice guys" can be strong and confident as well.

I just don't understand how a woman can all of a sudden not like nice guys and then all of a sudden "grow" out of it and want to date them.

I wasn't aware "nice guys" could be strong and confident. That sounds odd.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:31

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I don't see how being kind or gentle automatically negates someone's ability to be strong and confident.

Strength isn't always about what you can benchpress, neither is confidence always about pointing out when someone is wrong. Sometimes you let sh*t slide because the last time you get to speak to them was with harsh words; then a wayward bus comes along.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:37

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AshiraShepard wrote...

I don't see how being kind or gentle automatically negates someone's ability to be strong and confident.

Strength isn't always about what you can benchpress, neither is confidence always about pointing out when someone is wrong. Sometimes you let sh*t slide because the last time you get to speak to them was with harsh words; then a wayward bus comes along.

I never said any of those things. I think we have different definitions of what nice guys are. LOL at the strength and confidence comments. I don't mean those things when I meant strong and confident. Maybe you've met nice guys who were genuine and had the qualities you were looking for. I haven't met any nice guys that weren't pushovers or would have been pushovers in relationships.

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Ashira Shepard
Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:39

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Technically speaking, I am a "nice guy."

Probably why I'm getting spiky. :P

I'll go back to my writing desk now.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:43

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Oh I thought you were a woman, of course you think being a nice guy is cool. How's that working for you though?

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Ashira Shepard
Posté 26 mars 2011 - 07:57

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I'm a girl :P that's why I said "technically."

#196
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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 08:03

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I like nice girls. They are pushovers too. :P

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Ashira Shepard
Posté 26 mars 2011 - 08:05

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Note my signature.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 08:08

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AshiraShepard wrote...

Note my signature.

I don't get it.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 09:32

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LOL you rock Ashira.

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Posté 26 mars 2011 - 09:44

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not cool fiddles
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