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[Shirosaki17]

It's ok. I got it. I just didn't get why she needed to bring it up. I wasn't hitting on Ashira

And even if Ashira was straight, I'd be out of her league anyways. Like way out of her league.

[Joshd21]

What I gathered from reading this:

1. Some do not have to have a Hollywood hot looking guy with a ripped body, from the movie 300 with abs so defined that they can hold water. They would rather have that, but prefer an average to handsome looking male with a healthy body because their has to be some kind of physical attraction to each other.

I can understand this to a point, this works both ways. Yet some girls in high school will go for the High School Quarter back, even though he never returns her phone calls. Tells his friends how easy she is in bed. For example, I knew this one girl that went to Texas A and M, she said she dated the college quarter back yet he did not give two ****s about her (Excuse my french)

He would openly tell his friends how good she was in bed in front of her at partys, and treated his team mates better then her. Despite this she stayed with him rather then go with an average looking male who would have been attended to her social needs.

2. I am not a hypocrite, I am not biased on a girl due to age, weight or anything above. I have dated girls that were slightly overweight, slightly underweight, girls with bad reps and all of the above. Since a female shows interest and "clicks" with the personality, then she and I will get along just fine, if I can do this. Then why cannot females do this to men.

Some thing's I have yet to understand about the female. I had a girl tells me one time when I shop lifted something that she enjoyed that I did that. She said and I quote "Females say they want a sensitive guy but they really want a bad boy" why? that guy will likely end in jail, where he will become someone's play mate in prison for an unknown period of time.

Is it because they know their relationship is doomed? is it for the excitement or thrills? perhaps the female has not matured?

[Joshd21]

Nuav wrote...

Why are you making your experiences with women the rule and not the exception?! You're just generalizing.

Lol, you keep mentioning immature girls in the 14-21 range; girls who aren't looking for true, full blown relationships. Like this is only a problem with girls. GUYS DO THIS TOO--immature ones, if I may add!

The girl you knew has problems. She's not willing to find someone who'll be good to her. She's blind to infatuation and that's something she has to solve herself. And you're generalizing, again.

Because all girl/women get what they want and nothing less. Right, RIGHT? As you said yourself, you've dated many women of different shapes and sizes, backgrounds and whatnot. Do women not date outside of their comfort zones and/or ideals? Of course, and some do exactly what you claim to do. What you want =/= what you get.

Why would you steal for someone anyways? Why'd you do it? To become a ''bad guy''? She is an exception and, you're generalizing once more. That stupid, ''Chicks like guys who are bad, like Grease boys bad'' line. It's not true for all women. A few may like that but they don't represent the majority. Now ask yourself, who -someone is mature, not immature- really says this?

Also, I don't know why you refer women as females whilst men stays unchanged. I also suggest you stop generalizing women.

Anyways, you've answered most your questions with one thing: maturity. Toodles.

I think instead of giving actual information to the thread. I can pretty much sum up your entire post in a single statment.

"You are generalizing women"

As if women do not do the same thing about men when one breaks their heart, and they open a can of ice cream to talk trash about all guys in general and how they suck. Double Standred, I can't but they can?

Also the item I stole was long ago and it was not for her. It was for myself. I had told her what I did though as soon as we left the store, that was her reaction.

[KenKenpachi]

Joshd21 wrote...

Nuav wrote...

Why are you making your experiences with women the rule and not the exception?! You're just generalizing.

Lol, you keep mentioning immature girls in the 14-21 range; girls who aren't looking for true, full blown relationships. Like this is only a problem with girls. GUYS DO THIS TOO--immature ones, if I may add!

The girl you knew has problems. She's not willing to find someone who'll be good to her. She's blind to infatuation and that's something she has to solve herself. And you're generalizing, again.

Because all girl/women get what they want and nothing less. Right, RIGHT? As you said yourself, you've dated many women of different shapes and sizes, backgrounds and whatnot. Do women not date outside of their comfort zones and/or ideals? Of course, and some do exactly what you claim to do. What you want =/= what you get.

Why would you steal for someone anyways? Why'd you do it? To become a ''bad guy''? She is an exception and, you're generalizing once more. That stupid, ''Chicks like guys who are bad, like Grease boys bad'' line. It's not true for all women. A few may like that but they don't represent the majority. Now ask yourself, who -someone is mature, not immature- really says this?

Also, I don't know why you refer women as females whilst men stays unchanged. I also suggest you stop generalizing women.

Anyways, you've answered most your questions with one thing: maturity. Toodles.

I think instead of giving actual information to the thread. I can pretty much sum up your entire post in a single statment.

"You are generalizing women"

As if women do not do the same thing about men when one breaks their heart, and they open a can of ice cream to talk trash about all guys in general and how they suck. Double Standred, I can't but they can?

Also the item I stole was long ago and it was not for her. It was for myself. I had told her what I did though as soon as we left the store, that was her reaction.

Do you need some Icecream, a sad song played on the worlds smallest violin? If you have some issues, then here's some tissues.

[TheMufflon]

Joshd21 wrote...

"You are generalizing women"

As if women do not do the same thing about men when one breaks their heart, and they open a can of ice cream to talk trash about all guys in general and how they suck. Double Standred, I can't but they can?

Are you really that oblivious?

[Joshd21]

Nuav wrote...

And everything you've said in this thread has been filled with so much biased even though people have been trying to tell you right from wrong. I'm not saying that people don't generalize the others but what YOU are doing is generalizing ALL women into some sort of crazy sexual fiends that don't know what they want, and people have told you time after time that it's not the case and yet you insist that it is.

Of course both of those are generalizing but what you're doing is totally stupid. ''I know this girl so all of the things she tells me about girls is totally true, right?'' NO, I'm telling you right from wrong. Is this not the ''GIRLS QUESTIONS'' thread? Where we ask questions and answer them? Do women like ice cream? Not all. Do all women cry and eat ice cream because some dude broke up with her? No, it's a stupid practice(I think so anyways) used in various medias to make it seem like the norm. I'm telling you now that it isn't. Do guys usually go out to a bar, then go to a strip club to cheer up the guy who got dumped by his girlfriend? Of course not. Who here is really making the generalizations? Me or you?

If we wanted to clear up wrong generalizations about guys, there's a guy question thread on this same forum. But here's the difference between the people there and you: they actually take something from it and don't try to bend answers to their will. With you, it's a different story. You take what we say and then counter it with what some chick you know said and they are usually the worse representation, making what you've seen reality, and everyone else point of view fantasy.

I thought this was a thread to clears things up about the opposite sex. That's what I was doing. You had your misconceptions and I tried to clear them up but you're so fixated on the fact that all girls/women are this and that, you wont see other sides. Anyways, good luck on the rest of your questions, hope they get answered better than what I could do.

Perhaps I should have used the word most. I never stated in my orginal statments that is what ALL women do. I know based on personality, background, etc they act differently. My point was on the discussion for majoirty of women do or don't do this.

As for you and other people telling me one thing yet I am ignoring that statment and making up my own ideas to shape my own views. I have to say that is incorrect, this is my first time posting in this thread in about a couple of pages. Since then others have asked questions/answers to their own personal questions.

As well as some women have stated what they want and what they generally do. I'm not fixed on misconceptions, a female poster a few pages back said what I am saying now in my above general statment. I have taken a portion of what she said sne said and reposted it on here.

When I said women cry and eat ice cream I did not mean ALL women. I was making a statment that's generally the sterotypoe of what some women end up doing. I did not mean for you actually to take it directly to heart, as that's what all women do.

Take what you will from this thread, just because you see yourself getting more out of one thread then the other then do not post in the thread where you do not agree with. We are all not likely to agree and I am not trying to get the basics of a women down to a science but like men theyre are many similar thing's that a woman look for.

[Volus Warlord]

Joshd21 wrote...


When I said women cry and eat ice cream

Great job, you insensitive, bastardly idiot.

[Joshd21]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Joshd21 wrote...


When I said women cry and eat ice cream

Great job, you insensitive, bastardly idiot.

LOL

Alright I will sum up my questions for the GIRLS, as the posters above me stated I have not been directing my questions to be detailed enough.

1. How much do you wish your male partner to weigh?

2. Do you perfer tall, average or short men

3. Do you want a man to take you out dancing or to the movies, a wild party animal or a guy who likes to stay in doors

4. If you could have anything in a guy, personality or body wise, what would it be?

Modifié par Joshd21, 27 mars 2011 - 01:40 .

[Volus Warlord]

Modifié par Volus Warlord, 27 mars 2011 - 01:24 .

[GodzillaMonster]

I think it's mostly looks, and a little personality... Would you date an someone ugly with a good personality? Would you date someone good-looking, but with a bad personality..?

[MajorStranger]

GodzillaMonster wrote...

I think it's mostly looks, and a little personality... Would you date an someone ugly with a good personality? Would you date someone good-looking, but with a bad personality..?

There's something called attraction. It's not all about look. Have you seen Shallow Hal? to your eyes she/he might be the prettiest person you ever meet, but to everyone else he/she's average or even bellow average. It's all a matter of perspective.

Modifié par MajorStranger, 27 mars 2011 - 10:09 .

[thomas0611]

We are, as human beings, a highly cognitive biological machine that functions and operates separately from our mind's rationalisations, which we reach by means of arbitrary values we, ourselves, have attached to those in the first place.

In other words. People, whether speaking of male or female, are attracted; NOT too, but are attracted; BECAUSE (sense, do I make it? - Yoda). In even more othererderer.. words, we are attracted to others of our species in order to procreate - that's what all the cool kids call it these days - so that our existence, as a collective, may continue. So the 'why' is simply 'because', and any further value that we may attach to their attributes, other than those of the physical kind which directly communicate the presence of a healthy set of genetic material to a potential mate, are completely (individo-)cultural, therefore inherently prone to fluctuation and radical change, thus arbitrary and what is more: insignificant.

Awesome... soooooh... what?

Noooo idea. I'm High, you're not, so what do you have to say for yourself!?

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

1. What are men most useful for in the mind of a woman?
2. How can I deserve a radiant beauty?
3. Why Do Women insist on having alcohol as an Icebreaker?
4. Why do College Girls insist on pestering me with their incessant wardrobe malfunctions? I don't want to fix alyx's necklace! I want to have some peace of mind so I can study!

[Shirosaki17]

2. You either do deserve one or you don't, nothing can change that except money.
3. They probably need to drink alcohol so it's easier to look at you.

[Godak]

modjospinster wrote...

or maybe its his/her ripping body.

No one's body should be ripping. Ever.

Ripped? Sure. Ripping? God help us all.

[Joshd21]

Shirosaki17 wrote...

2. You either do deserve one or you don't, nothing can change that except money.
3. They probably need to drink alcohol so it's easier to look at you.

What do you mean nothing can change, that expect money, that women are somehow unintentionally drawn to money because they believe the person would be a good provider sub conconsies thinking about it. This reminds me of this espoide of House I saw about two weeks ago.

Those who saw it knows what I am talking about. A bull rider goes into the ER and the dorky doctor has a crush on him. She tells the other doctor that he has good genes and sub consciously she might want to have his off spring thus creating the attraction.

[Milana_Saros]

I simply couldn't resist the urge to answer to this thread <_<

Joshd21 wrote...

1. Is it looks? well many will say no. But when you are out at a club, isn't that the first thing a girl notices when she meets you. I wonder how some girls wind up with jerks thinking this may be linked.

Let's be honest here. Looks does matter. But not the way many might think. Sure a lot of girls keep going for the shiny dudes at the bar but these girls are either A) inexperienced and shallow or looking for a one night stand. Still, when looking for an actual relationship, how are you supposed to have a satisfying physical side in the relationship if you aren't physically attracted to the person? Healthy superficiality is not a bad thing, it's quite normal and rational. As for jerks...every single one of us can be a complete ass. Has nothing to do with looks.

2. Money, is a girl more likely to be into you. If you have a million dollars, a nice car and a huge pad. Some say no, however I see some females on "american greed" living with this guy simply because he gave them gifts, jewarly and all claimed to have loved him.

I'm going to skip the American greed part since not everyone is American. Money might not be the first thing to look at in a relationship but does a person realistically want to support a person that doesn't have a job, wastes all his/her money on useless things and is always begging for money from others? Common sense really. As for being attracted to someone because they're rich...not my thing. I'd classify it as gold digging but I guess some people have actually managed to fall in love with their "benefactor".

3. Personality, this could be a factor, however is it the MAIN factor, could a woman date a guy, or a guy date a girl that doesn't look "hot" but have a nice personality? I'm curious.

Of course it matters but analyzing someones personality is next to impossible without actually being in a relationship with them and especially living with them for quite some time. You either hit it off or you don't.

I think the most important thing in finding someone is to stop thinking about things like this. Even if someone is attractive, nice and lives conviniently nearby it doesn't automatically mean that you will end up in a relationship. My mum used to say that you will eventually find someone with whom you just click with. It used to drive me crazy but now I must admit that she knew what she was talking about.

If you spend time analyzing what it is that makes a relantionship or how some other people have found their mate, you will go crazy. Seriously.

Gyrannon wrote...

1.
In your honest opinion, what does a guy have to do to "sweep you off
your feet"? Or what are the prime things about a man that you seek out
(if you need a number, say top 5)?

Don't think a guy has ever swept me off my feet...I'm too stubborn to fall so blindly. Sense of humor and accepting me as who I am are a big plus. I don't want to hear if I would be a better person if I had a million friends, looked everything with rose pink glasses, baked, cleaned the house every week using a tooth brush etc.

2. I know that every woman is
different an has different versions of the ONE, but say you were only
looking Mr. Right, what would make him fall in to that category?

There is no Mr.Right. Never has been and never will be. Mr. Closer to Right than Wrong is his very real brother though.

3.
No one is innocent of any relationship, including men, so I ask, has
there every been a time in any sort of relationship
(date/serious/FWB/friends/marriage) where you did something that you
wish you could take back?

Ehhh? Not much anything I would take back but...I guess I could've been more honest and open about my distress in my first relationship. It would've only made my ex leave me earlier though so shoulda coulda woulda. In my current relationship I guess I could've waited a bit longer before moving in together.

4. This I know is a bit far to ask, but
say you are experiencing "that time of the month" an your date/partner
is there, how do you think your partner/date should handle it? Or
rather, make your day better?

He can make my day better by not making stupid, immature jokes about it and understand that I can indeed have migraine, back pain and bad mood because of it. No need to treat me like a handicap though.

5. What do you think of men that SERIOUSLY believes that Chivalry isn't dead an are Chivalrous?

Hmmm....never really seen chivarly that wasn't some weird get-in-your-pants attempt or some sick game a guy is playing in order to get a swarm of girls around him and then turning them down one by one, wanting to remain as their "friend who will always be there for them". But if it's real and honest then what's not to like. It does feel nice when someone pulls over to help you fix a flat tire without asking for anything in return.

6.
Scenario: Your partner (pretend that you are in a serious relationship)
leaves off somewhere an doesn't tell when he'll be back, where he is
going, just simply leaves. He doesn't return for half the day, you are
getting either worried or aggravated with guesses of what he is doing.
Finally, you recieve a call an he wants you to go somewhere to meet him.
He's been gone for half the day, no word all through out that time an
now he wants you to meet him somewhere, what is going through your head
right now?
 

His crappy car broke down and he needs me to pick him up?

Meh I don't know. We come and go all the time. I work during the days, he goes to the gym and might visit some friends or his parents...don't think about it much. If there's one thing I value in my relantionship then it's freedom and individuality. The minute he starts asking "Where did you go? What did you do? Who did you see?" I'm out. I'm pretty sure he feels the same way. I often visit my mum who lives over 200km away from us and I spend the whole weekend there when I go so a relationship where we keep track of each other all the time simply wouldn't work.

However: Telling your partner that you're going to drink with buddies or something is just simply polite and considerate. Waking up hangoverish next to her and telling her what you did last night pisses her off. It has absolutely nothing to do with control or jealousy. It's about respect.

In the specific scenario though...I don't know. He has a surprise for me? Honestly I don't see that situation happening so it's hard to say. Car breaking down is the most realistic answer and he would tell me, haha.

Modifié par Milana_Saros, 28 mars 2011 - 05:17 .