Arlias wrote...
meganmeave wrote...
Sarah1281 wrote...
If you think that those who stay with Anders are unbalanced or have other issues that's one thing but those issues are simply NOT battered wife syndrome. I'd disagree that Anders is the dominant person in the relationship and furthermore the time between gathering the ingredients and blowing up the Chantry is probably less than a week but certainly no more than a couple of them. No extended period of time.
Just because you disagree with the choice to date Anders doesn't mean anyone who does has battered wife syndrome. There's nothing wrong with dating him. Staying with him post-Chantry is a little trickier but it still does not fit the classification of battered wife syndrome.
While I agree with your post, I can understand why people might make these kinds of hasty conclusions. The writers did put "Flirty" options in for Hawke that say stuff like, "I enjoy being hurt." when responding to Anders. Either this is clumsy writing or some kind of sly comment on the writer's part about the kinds of women who would romance a character like Anders. Either way, it's a little creepy, even if I don't think there is any semblance of battered wife syndrome in the Anders relationship.
I will have to say, this, more than anything else in act 1, made me leary of courting Anders in game. They were simply awful choices to pick, even if Hawke doesn't actually say those things to Anders. I still had to pick them in order for her to persue a romance with him.
I'm pretty sure the "I enjoy being hurt" line was said snarkily.
Snark doesn't really translate in text, which is what you choose. And no, obviously you don't say what you choose, I was merely pointing out that it is a little icky and not all that amusing. And if I recall, it happens twice when you flirt him. There are two seperate times you can choose to joke about being hurt by him. Though "choose" is the wrong word if you're wanting to romance him, since both times it's the "heart" choice.
I'll have to see on my second playthrough to be sure if my memory is correct. In any case, for me, the line didn't work the first go round. Snarky or not, it clearly left distaste in my mouth enough to comment on it.
Vent incoming:
That being said, I did continue the romance to completion, despite the morally reprehnsible actions. When Anders commits his terrorist act, I took a step back and looked at my character. She had lived, for all intents and purposes, with this man for three years, happily, with no complaint. Being so, I do not think my Hawke would be able to make the unfair determination to kill Anders for his crimes, or later, to leave him for it within hours of finding out about it. If the game had allowed us to continue for three years later, I think that it is more than likely such an emotional burden would be too much for that relationship to handle. I also don't think the decision to stick with Anders indicates battered wife syndrome, but rather an honest assesment of how you'd handle such a thing. I have a husband, and love him. He would never do such a thing, but if he did, I cannot honestly say I'd be the best judge and jury for him. Either I'd be furious, and want him dead immediately without a fair trial, or my own feelings would allow me to overlook the atrocities, at least for a time. Because in all honesty, people generally care more for their own than for people they don't know.
Now, all that being said, you might think I would say this was good writing because it really made me think. But I hated it. I don't play a video game to force myself to make such decisions. I don't read fiction to make myself feel bad because of what I would have done in the protagonists place. I don't enjoy playing a game where every option for every romance is one of moral ambiguity and doubt. But that's just me. And apparently the OP.
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Since you have been there and worn the T-shirt............. 
