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[Fortlowe]

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...

I have somethings I could never ask my guy friends in real life.

1. Could you ever be a feminist.
2. Why do you act like horny pigs.
3. Why do you fake submission to your girlfriend and when you really control her.

1. I don't really know what it invlolves. Perhaps I already am.
2. I don't know about pigs, but being horny just isn't a bad thing in my book.
3. In BDSM, the submissive is really the controller. IRL, all relationships are give and take.
4. Because.

[Shirosaki17]

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...
A lot of the guys in my age range....well most age ranges use nature as an excuse for there harassment. As if they weren't civilized. Going against nature is what makes us different from animals.

If you feel like you're being harrassed then just let the guy know that. I'm not sure if you're talking about guys that are your bf or not. If you're not comfortable being physically intimate with the guy then maybe he's not for you.

Passion can't always be "civilized".

I disagree with the animals comment. What makes us different from animals is our intelligence and ability to empathize with one another.

[Ghost Lightning]

Fortlowe wrote...
3. In BDSM, the submissive is really the controller. IRL, all relationships are give and take.
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you have made me lol

[Gyrannon]

Moon, it seems that most of these questions are based on personal experience rather simply being a general question(s). You can no more judge all men based on personal experience no more than I can about all women.
None the less, I shall answers your questions as best I can.

Moondoggie wrote...

1. Why when you are unable to get a girl or a girl turns you down do you a) Blame it on her being too much of a **** to be tied down or Say it's because all girls are too shallow and refuse to get to know you.

1a. Personal experience with total a-holes do not apply to myself as I will NEVER refer to any woman by any other name than the one she was born with. Women turn me down, big deal. There are plenty of fish in the sea, there is no need to go all ballistic like a child because a woman denied me as a potential date.
If she thinks, or rather feels, that a date with me would not work out, I'll respect her decision an move on, or at the very least I would at least try to be a friend to her.
whining like a child that just dropped their ice-cream over an honest answer from a woman is just that, childish an pointless; getting pissy won't make things any better, in fact it might make things worse. 

1b. Again, thats one guy that you met that said that, not I, nor any other man. I do not believe in the childish an pointless belief that "All women are the same in every way", for if I did, I would NEVER be able to bond with another woman again because of the lack of trust & faith in my date/partner. It's egotistical & judgemental to assume that all genders act the same way, it doesn't promote happiness, it promote anger, hatred, and sorrow on both sides.
I will not ever believe that pathetic saying from either side because NONE of us, both male & female, have met every single man & woman on the planet to honestly believe in that ridiculous & immature theory. All women are different as are all men, this question is rightfully reserved for those that treated you in this manner.
Do I agree with their actions against you? hell no. Should I apologize for their actions? Actually I'd rather beat them to a pulp for saying crap like that, then I would make them apologize. 

Moondoggie wrote...
2. Why do you think a big car means anything or a big whatever else... If size mattered there would be no such thing as lesbians.

Lesbians will exist regardless of what women think in the present, past, or future - note that lesbians do not fall in love with other women because of size, but for their personality an for the love; if size truly did matter, love would be none existant as size is an object or a height, not an emotion.
Size can go to hell because it does not factor into what I see as "helping any relationship". If I had a vehicle, I would not flaunt it around like some dumb @ss waving his d*** to his buddies. A vehicle is just a neccesity, a need, an guys that think of it otherwise are not ready to live a mature life. Does the size of the woman matter to me? No. I am after her personality, her trust, her love, her acceptance, and her respect, not her waist, her breast size, her body shape, or how thin or fat she is, those are not a factor into a healthy relationship in my opinion. How big or small whatever it is or whoever it is, honestly does not matter to me in the slightest.

Moondoggie wrote...
3. Why do you claim women to be impossible when you yourselfs throw a tantrum for no good reason?

Sounds like you met a seriously bratty child for a man, I personally would not through a tantrum for no reason - it would have be one hell of a dam good reason for me to throw a temper tantrum, but never for no reason. I don't think as women to be impossible, most are nor more difficult than us men, as we all work differently no matter how closely similar we may appear or seem for a while. Women are only impossible to most guys (an vice versa) because they can't comprehend or figure out the person that stands before them, it happens, ever had a school homework or a problem at work that you could not figure out no matter how hard you tried or how much effort you put into it? Same deal, you get frustrated an it happens, but when it happens it usually means that the couple is not compatible or they are trying too hard - be patient an things will get better, if neither can do it, then you are both better off at breaking it up before you both hurt each other. Women are just a likely to burst in to flames for no apparent reason just like men are, because we are all not perfect, an if we all were perfect then there wouldn't much of a point to life an curiosity in any relationship.

Moondoggie wrote...
4. Why is a woman who speaks her mind or disagrees with you "on her period"

Thats half true, because women do have periods an most can only guess at "that time of the month". Can you blame men for guessing?

But honestly if a woman speaks her mind, I'll let her, in fact I would encourage her to do so - its better than guessing what you are thinking. She disagrees with me? Yup, time to sound the alarm! She disagreed with me! That can only mean one thing....she's on her period! What moron said that to you? C'mon! If a woman were to disagree with me, then I would do what any other mature intelligent man would do, respect that.
From what I could figure about "women & periods" is that most women who are experiencing that understandable an annoying time of the month, become depressed out of nowhere (we end up becoming jerks in a woman's eyes because we didn't notice that fact), one minute you are happy an the next you are as dangerous as a grenade (met a lot of women that did that an it scared the heck out of me making me think I had done something seriously wrong), or you'll get angry or annoyed at whatever we do (and once again we feel as if you hate us).
Those are my best an honest opinions, I can't say that they are fact because I don't know enough men or women to claim it as such. But I do know what kind of man I am, I will not hide how I behave, I will not act like a child for pointless reasons, and I do not hang with the circle of morons an idiots that you have met in the past.
One thing is fact, we all expect honest, but both sides cannot truthfully say that they've been totally honest without a shadow of a doubt to either, because trust is hard to come by, an neither side can expect total honest without trust in one another.

If I asked you out an you denied me, I would move on in respect.
Size does not matter to me, it doesn't factor into any seriously healthy relationship imo. I wouldn't call you impossible, an I would blow up for no reason, I'm an adult not a child. If you speak your mind, I will listen, if you disagree with me, I'll respect your decision an let it go. If you are experiencing a period of hell, warn me an I'll do whatever it takes to make your day as comfortable as possible.

Please, have a good day an try to avoid similar morons in the future.

Ryoko wrote...
Question 1) Have you ever did this? Say a girl asks you out to a dance, and you say no cuz, apparently, your grounded or your working and you can't come to the dance anyway. But in reality you DO go to the dance, only with another chick, and act like nothing's happened while the girl you dumped cries in the corner. I've seen this happen alot during my highschool life. Douchey? No? What do you think?

Douchey? ABSOLUTELY! What do I think? I think the ****** should be punched REALLY HARD in to crotch for that crap! I would be honored if a woman asked me to dance with her, I wouldn't refuse her. But if I did have a date with me already, I would tell straight an respectfully that I already have a date with me, but all the same I would enjoy a bit of company, no such thing as having too many friends.
But in all honesty, I would warn the woman that asks me to dance that I've never danced before in my life (not kidding either).

Ryoko wrote...
Question 2) What do you think about pity dates? Would you go out with a girl who only said yes because she didn't want to hurt your feelings? Or would you deal with a straight up honest no?

o_O Pity Dates? First off, if a would asked me out, I wouldn't consider it a "pity date", a date is a possibility an I would treat it as such, I would give her a chance. If it was being done to me? I would rather that she tell me her honest answer over a pretend answer. If she can't tell me the truth out of fear of how I'll react, then she isn't ready to date anyone. It's not a date if she isn't comfortable with her date.

Nuav wrote...
do you usually pay for dates or do you split 50/50? jw.

Mostly I prefer that I, the man, be the one that pays. If she wants to do a 50/50, I dunno. I'd probably make sure that she wants to pay half, an if she really wants to, then I won't stop her. Mutual shares are usually always a good sign, unless the man can only pay half then its a very bad thing.

Nuav wrote...
do you wash your hands after you go to the toilet?

LOL of course!

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...
I have somethings I could never ask my guy friends in real life.

1. Could you ever be a feminist.
2. Why do you act like horny pigs.
3. Why do you fake submission to your girlfriend and when you really control her.

1. I can be sensitive to my partner, but can I act like I have a female side to me, no.

2. As said to Moon, thats a personal experience question, but a half honest question.
Why do we act like men that always want sex? In a way, men are like dogs, an women are like cats. We all have that moment(s) where we MUST have sex, women included in this. It just depends on who you meet & how sexually active that person is.
If you don't want it, then say so. If the guy can't understand, then give us an excuse we'll understand (you are tired, had enough for one week/day, too soon, or simply not in the mood for it just yet), but if we deny you, our reason has to be a seriously good reason, an if unsuccessful then it is couch for us.

3. I don't to either. When I submit to my partner, I mean it. I don't control my partner because I see it as not giving her the freedom that she rightfully deserves. I will not EVER seek to control ANY woman's life, even if she wants me to. I prefer mutal control, we are partners in love an partners in life, an as such we should be partners in control.

4. Why do you answer with because like five times?

Because because because because....because of the wonderful things he does!
And you haven't? Can you honestly say without a doubt you have never used a single word several to a dozen times? The choice of how many times a person(s) says a single word multiple times should not be an issue. Everyone talks in their own way, its life, it's how they grew up, it's how they were raised, it's just how life is with MOST people.
Ignore the little things an focus on the more meaningful things that people say.
So what if some guy uses the word "because" "like" five times, should I make an issue because women enjoy the "like" A LOT? Every sentence from every woman I've ever met uses the word "Like" so much that it feels as if I'm talking with a soroity chick or some girl that thinks "shes all that" (popular). But do I complain about it? Do I think it is neccesary to make it an issue? No. Said it once an I'll say it again, women are no more or less complicated then men are.

Modifié par Gyrannon, 23 mars 2011 - 10:13 .

[Druss99]

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...

I have somethings I could never ask my guy friends in real life.

1. Could you ever be a feminist.
2. Why do you act like horny pigs.
3. Why do you fake submission to your girlfriend and when you really control her.

1. No, womens clothes are meant for women, not men.
2. Horny pigs act like me. When you have this much awesome everyone wants to be like you.
3. Like when I let her on top? Sometimes I need to stop and think about alien invasions, lifting things and verbally abusing people.

Hail to the king baby.

[KenKenpachi]

LOL Druss you really need to start an Ask Duke Nukem Topic.

[Druss99]

Fiddles_stix wrote...

What's the with the aversion to cleaning?

Good point. You'd best get started...

[KenKenpachi]

Druss99 wrote...

Fiddles_stix wrote...

What's the with the aversion to cleaning?

Good point. You'd best get started...

lol once again druss make that damn topic, everyone here wants to see it.

As to that, beats me, I tend to clean more than my wife, while my mom cleaned more than me. Differs from person to person I suspect. As I've seen guys who were neat freaks, or total slobs, just as I have women.

[Druss99]

Nah it would get old fast and only works when people are least expecting it.

[KenKenpachi]

Druss99 wrote...

Nah it would get old fast and only works when people are least expecting it.

lol fine, fine, you win.

[slimgrin]

I would have laughed if this thread got zero responses.

A missed opportunity ladies.

[dragonzofdeath]

Moondoggie wrote...

Oh this should be fun XD

1. Why when you are unable to get a girl or a girl turns you down do you a) Blame it on her being too much of a **** to be tied down or Say it's because all girls are too shallow and refuse to get to know you.

2. Why do you think a big car means anything or a big whatever else... If size mattered there would be no such thing as lesbians.

3. Why do you claim women to be impossible when you yourselfs throw a tantrum for no good reason?

4. Why is a woman who speaks her mind or disagrees with you "on her period"


I can't think of more right now but i'm sure a male member of staff at work or something will make me think of one XD

1 cause it's sometimes true not all the times but then again some guys are like this also like me

2 only thing i have big is my debt and that does matter! Well not most of the times but sometimes it has!

3 Cause girls are impossible to deal with when they have a tantrum and i know i have a tantrum too and i'm also impossible to work with but usally most guys just give up and let the girl win also

4That just a excuse we like to use!

[Gyrannon]

dragonzofdeath wrote...

4That just a excuse we like to use!

An excuse you like to use, I'm not apart of the "We make dumb excuses cause we are dumb" - no wonder why women are always assuming the worst about most men...

How the hell are jerks able to to get the girl while the good ones can't? Seriously WTF?

Modifié par Gyrannon, 25 mars 2011 - 09:04 .

[Haasth]

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...

I have somethings I could never ask my guy friends in real life.

1. Could you ever be a feminist.
2. Why do you act like horny pigs.
3. Why do you fake submission to your girlfriend and when you really control her.

I'll answer your questions with a question; Why must you stereotype so?
No one is perfect, but not all of us are morons. Please do keep this in mind. 

Well then; 
1. Feminism is often radical. I would most likely not join any Femenism movements at any rate, no. That said, I am by all means for equal rights among both sexes. That there is a divide to begin with is a very narrow minded look at life which I would hope we're (mostly) past now in the year of 2011. 
2. I don't.
3. I don't.

Modifié par Haasth, 26 mars 2011 - 03:13 .

[Shirosaki17]

Why is every guy answering questions that are several days old and have already been answered about 10 times already?

[Shirosaki17]

Isn't feminism just fighting for equality for both men and women? Maybe I have the wrong definition for it.

[MajorStranger]

Ms. Lovey Dovey wrote...

I have somethings I could never ask my guy friends in real life.

1. Could you ever be a feminist.
2. Why do you act like horny pigs.
3. Why do you fake submission to your girlfriend and when you really control her.

1. I am not a feminist, neither I am a machist, I am a humanist. I believe every person is equal and should be treat as the same.

2. I don't believe being horny about the right woman at the right is a bad thing. (beside you girls are just so damn pretty!)

3. I am submissive. My parents are divorced and I grew up with my mother. Being at woman's service is completely genuine for me.

[Shirosaki17]

modjospinster wrote...

Shirosaki17 wrote...

Isn't feminism just fighting for equality for both men and women? Maybe I have the wrong definition for it.

yup, that is feminism in a nutshell. however, the causes of that inequality are so ingrained in society and in our culture, it is difficult to imagine women ever getting the same equality (and privelages) as men. some are biological, but many are not. for instance, if our population is roughly 50/50 men and women, why don't upper management careers reflect those numbers?

Because women have smaller brains than men, and therefore incapable of being as decisive at those levels.

j/k

Really in America, it's only been 90 years since women have gained the right to vote. Weren't most women housewives around the 1950s or so? Women have come a long way. It's just going to take time, but there are probably a lot of biological things that will or are geting in the way.

Like men looking at women as kind of weak because they are physically weaker than men in some ways. Battle of the sexes for domination. Then there is the whole emotional thing men aren't fans of. Periods and pregnancy to worry about. I know some women who have used their "time of the month" as an excuse to get out of work more than once in a month.

Modifié par Shirosaki17, 26 mars 2011 - 06:25 .

[Shirosaki17]

who cares, this thread sucks anyways.

I agree. A lot of it has to do with how we've evolved. Men probably dominated women a lot as we evolved and basically led the family unit. I'm not really sure why it's taken so long for women to gain equality.

I guess it's simply the emotional side of women. Men can't relate. We see emotions as weakness and bury them deep down, but I also think women probably have a more evolved sense of their emotions than men. Look at it this way. Men had to be logical and strong. They had to be strong and smart enough to hunt, otherwise they starved to death. Women had to be loving and caring for their children. I mean I think there are studies that show how much a mom's eye contact and attention has on a baby's development. It was important while we evolved, but I can't think of why women were looked down on for so long and kept down for so long in society. I guess men really dominated women for a long time.

I disagree with the whole mom's work being disregarded. Kids love their moms. Dads are the ones who are always at work and are possibly under appreciated because they are never around. A stay at home parent's work is essential.

I don't know I'm guessing you have kids and you don't get any appreciation from your husband.

[Shirosaki17]

modjospinster wrote...

also, forgot to add this, but when men say something that does not go with mainstream of thought, they say, oh well, he is crazy, it will never work, and if it does, we congratulate him, hey, great job on pushing through and believing in yourself. but he never has to worry about people disregarding him because he is a male. with women, it is a different story

I don't get this. You just said a male was disregarded with a crazy idea or did you mean a she?

I'll admit on very rare occasions men are wrong, but we still congratulate someone for succeeding in something. There is no reason to be jealous or upset at them for succeeding just because we guessed they wouldn't or didn't believe in them. It's illogical.

I'm not sure what the difference is with women. Maybe you could explain.