Maclimes wrote...
Anders and Isabela are bisexual. That is, they are aware of having feelings for members of both genders, and have relations with them in the past.
Fenris and Merrill are, until they meet Hawke, asexual. They don't flirt, they don't have any sexual past. They are not straight, gay, or bisexual. They're more like a child before he discovers girls (or boys, or both). In short, they're not bisexual, they simply haven't thought about it or figured it out yet.
But when Hawke expresses interest, and relations are properly maintained, they fall in love and become gay or straight, depending on who is who. In essence, they are Hawke-o-sexual.
Sebastian is simply straight.
That's quite possibly true about Fenris -- his memory only extends back a few years, and it may just be me, but I did see sexual overtones with his relationship with his former master, which would be a very good reason for him not to flirt with anyone, regardless of his feelings as Leto might have been. Given that revenge and hate are foremost in his mind, the thought of anything else may not come to his mind on his own, or if it does, he dismisses it just as quickly.
Merrill... Merrill I disagree on. I think Merrill isn't asexual so much as incredibly shy and completely convinced that her life, while not worthless, is of less value than others'. Playing through with Merrill, I got the feeling that she had a crush on Hawke almost from the start. I don't think Merrill was ignorant of her bisexuality, so much as she was just unconfident in herself and trying to keep it quiet to avoid embarassment -- even if you flirt with her exclusively, she's surprised when Hawke picks her.
I also think this discussion needs two more party members for a proper perspective: Varric and Aveline.
Varric, for instance, comes off as straight. I've only seen him flirt with Isabela, and even then he gets nervous when she flirts with Bianca. He's also not serious about it, and his banter about the Hanged Man implies that he's really only interested in other dwarves.
Aveline, in contrast, I saw more opportunities to flirt with than I did Fenris or Anders, and it still came to nothing -- I don't think her character even realized Hawke was interested. She clearly wasn't interested back by the endgame, though she implies that she gave it some thought years prior. I can't tell if Aveline's straight or bi, but I can tell that she comes off pretty realisticaly in that either way, her type doesn't really include Hawke.
(I also think people are buying into Isabela's public mask more than they should. She eventually makes it clear that, as funny as it is to brag about all the stout, strong men on her ship, she very rarely did anything with them. She's a tremendous flirt, and has few hangups about sex or gender, but her only prior romance was with a man. In that sense, at least, she's nearly as inexperienced as Merrill.)