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[The Potty 1]

Wow, where to start.

The story about not having to run faster than the bear, just faster than the slowest person, applies. You don't have to kill the bully, you just have to pass the big target sign on your back to a softer target. Sorry for the softer target.

Bulk up. Start boxing, or mixed martial arts, judo, hell, even capoeira. It has to be full contact, so bugger karate, all I ever learnt in that is how to punch to within a centimetre of someone. Earn money by carrying groceries up 10 flights of stairs instead of by removing bloody viruses. You don't have to make a stand today, first put on 20 pounds of muscle. Think of it as putting a perimeter of missile launchers around your base.

Secondly, as Wicked said, this does end. University is a whole different animal. Survive school, get the damn marks, and you can finally start getting an education. Surrounded by people who aren't idiots, although perhaps sometimes idiotic. I joined a club that does white water rafting, hiking, and .. er drinking. If one doesn't exist, I suggest you start one 

Someone opined that a bully once is a bully forever. The best you can say is there's possibly a better than average chance of this. For that matter, the victim could just as easily become a petty beurocrat who makes everyone's life just a little bit more unpleasant. Nothing's cast in stone.

Finally, to the people living in their basements in fear of bullies everywhere. You have got to be joking? If not, they've won. You've been beaten by random strangers. You're wasting your life and they won't even know. Get out there and .. start boxing? Form a rafting club? Your mileage may vary.

[Kidd]

dark-lauron wrote...

So what? What I did was wrong and stupid I admit it, but I can't go back. I am not defending myself either because you're right.

Yeah, whatever emotions one may tie to someone else's past, they should also remember that the past is the past. Especially if said person clearly says they regret their past choices. Maker knows I too have done things I regret, even though they were unrelated to bullying. Just like I don't want to be judged for those things today, when I'm a different person than I was back then, we shouldn't judge those who bullied others now that they've grown.

Modifié par KiddDaBeauty, 01 avril 2011 - 10:07 .

[Joshd21]

Was I bullied? well in middle school,a school in a trashy part of town. I was bullied for a brief period of time there. It was by a black male classmate, I'm not sure if he was playing around. But I recall in class at one point, he told me that he gets hit me in the arm five times for something I can't remember.

He was sorta a friend bully. I tried to turn this to my advantage by offering him money to confront other kids at that school were treating me unfairly. Leading the bully to believe he was a friend, rather then a hated foe. As time went on I went to another middle school in the area.

This time without knowing at at lunchtime I sat at the "Bully table" these people sorta almost ran the school in a way. Everyone at the table was considered to be tough or what not. I recall making friends with some of them, I could have gotten beaten up for sitting there.

After a while I saw how they operated, their was a rank system involed. Whoever sat at the edge of the table was top dawg so to speak and if that person had to stay over after class for getting in trouble. The next person would slide down and fill their spot. I quickly earned the nickname "Psycho" or "Death Row", Psycho because I would be quick tempered and flip out on anyone at the slightest hint of anger.

The people sitting there all were friends or at least claimed to be. I saw them at one point take of a belt and wrap it around a classmates neck, for a few seconds.As time went on I became friends more so with one male guy in the group, he was a mostly poor kid and I was driving around in a beautiful mustang.

As High School Began, he was the person who bullied people. I did not. I was sorta the hang around. I never intentionally tried to hurt someone unless they hurt me first. Well, someone on my girlfriend's school bus had slapped her thigh and my friends encouraged me to do something about it. We drove near his house, I got out and pretended to hand him a letter but in reality swung at his face. He ducked, ran away. I held on the back of his shirt and hit him twice.

Not exactly my most honorable moment but he had slapped my girlfriend thigh on the bus and that's what I did it. I think I slighty broke my pinkie knuckle because it didn't look as big afterwards. My second fight happended when I was playing around with a kid. My friend the bukky would just push him and see how her reacted to that.

I played around jumped on him but he swung and hit me in the face. Unexpected to say the least. I defended myself by punching him a few times. He never hit me during the fight. And last my third fight happended when I was moved to another school.

This black kid or afrcian american. I do not know what the correct term was, had heard he said I called him a name. So he sat their with ten of his friends(Seriously ten guys) and wanted to ask me a question. I thought nothing of it, but then he said nevermind and walked off. Then they called me back only then I started to understand what the question they wanted to ask me was.

It wasn't a question. He just hit me, so I threw off my jacket and went towards him. I wear contact lens by the way and did not have them on. I punched him and missed. He hit me again on the cheek giving me a black eye the teacher stopped the fight and he was expelled. I remained in school because I didn't land a punch on him.

I admit It was embarssing, I had never lost a fight nor intended to get into. His group of friends were looking for trouble, however my mexcian friend came back to school the next day a kid more mature and bigger then me and opted to look after me. He even got in the faces of the kid who hit me and told him to back off. Because of the kids taunts.

Since then I have never actually fought nor do I want to. Fighting is not something anyone enjoys doing. Why would they? I was told by a person once anyone who claims they like fighting is saying that to sound tough because fighting hurts both partys involed. We are talking about kids fighting, not pro boxers so you never know exactly who will win the fight.

[Statulos]

The Potty 1 wrote...

Wow, where to start.

The story about not having to run faster than the bear, just faster than the slowest person, applies. You don't have to kill the bully, you just have to pass the big target sign on your back to a softer target. Sorry for the softer target.

Bulk up. Start boxing, or mixed martial arts, judo, hell, even capoeira. It has to be full contact, so bugger karate, all I ever learnt in that is how to punch to within a centimetre of someone. Earn money by carrying groceries up 10 flights of stairs instead of by removing bloody viruses. You don't have to make a stand today, first put on 20 pounds of muscle. Think of it as putting a perimeter of missile launchers around your base.

Secondly, as Wicked said, this does end. University is a whole different animal. Survive school, get the damn marks, and you can finally start getting an education. Surrounded by people who aren't idiots, although perhaps sometimes idiotic. I joined a club that does white water rafting, hiking, and .. er drinking. If one doesn't exist, I suggest you start one 

Someone opined that a bully once is a bully forever. The best you can say is there's possibly a better than average chance of this. For that matter, the victim could just as easily become a petty beurocrat who makes everyone's life just a little bit more unpleasant. Nothing's cast in stone.

Finally, to the people living in their basements in fear of bullies everywhere. You have got to be joking? If not, they've won. You've been beaten by random strangers. You're wasting your life and they won't even know. Get out there and .. start boxing? Form a rafting club? Your mileage may vary.

Exactly.

Bullies feed on the weaknes and slowly eroding people´s morale till the victims think they deserve what is happening to them or that there is no point on fighting back.

Well, as horrible as it sounds and like this quoted post states; fight back. Grow some muscle, learn how to hit and hurt and get a pair of nice altamas or any other oldschool combat boot. Then, when the bastard gets back, give him a bashing that prevents him from distinguising his face from his anus.

[Clover Rider]

Statulos wrote...

The Potty 1 wrote...

Wow, where to start.

The story about not having to run faster than the bear, just faster than the slowest person, applies. You don't have to kill the bully, you just have to pass the big target sign on your back to a softer target. Sorry for the softer target.

Bulk up. Start boxing, or mixed martial arts, judo, hell, even capoeira. It has to be full contact, so bugger karate, all I ever learnt in that is how to punch to within a centimetre of someone. Earn money by carrying groceries up 10 flights of stairs instead of by removing bloody viruses. You don't have to make a stand today, first put on 20 pounds of muscle. Think of it as putting a perimeter of missile launchers around your base.

Secondly, as Wicked said, this does end. University is a whole different animal. Survive school, get the damn marks, and you can finally start getting an education. Surrounded by people who aren't idiots, although perhaps sometimes idiotic. I joined a club that does white water rafting, hiking, and .. er drinking. If one doesn't exist, I suggest you start one 

Someone opined that a bully once is a bully forever. The best you can say is there's possibly a better than average chance of this. For that matter, the victim could just as easily become a petty beurocrat who makes everyone's life just a little bit more unpleasant. Nothing's cast in stone.

Finally, to the people living in their basements in fear of bullies everywhere. You have got to be joking? If not, they've won. You've been beaten by random strangers. You're wasting your life and they won't even know. Get out there and .. start boxing? Form a rafting club? Your mileage may vary.

Exactly.

Bullies feed on the weaknes and slowly eroding people´s morale till the victims think they deserve what is happening to them or that there is no point on fighting back.

Well, as horrible as it sounds and like this quoted post states; fight back. Grow some muscle, learn how to hit and hurt and get a pair of nice altamas or any other oldschool combat boot. Then, when the bastard gets back, give him a bashing that prevents him from distinguising his face from his anus.

So just do this to the bully.



And that's a lot more nice than what I did/do to anyone who picks on me.

[Hannibal218]

Or just rise above the inanity of the entire affair.

Bullying only works when the target is receptive. Bullies are seeking a specific type of stimulus, don't give the bully what he wants he will move on.

Also, this doesn't apply to physical bullying and, in some cases, cyber-bullying. If being physically bullied and nothing is being done by adults to remedy the situation then just hit the SOB back. If you don't know how, learn. You can get a lot more force behind a punch if you know how to do it properly. As for cyber-bullying, it can sometimes be hard to ignore because of how pervasive and widespread it can get due to the Internet ****wad Theory(WARNING, link contains R-rated language). In the case of cyberbullying the ONLY way to deal with the issue is to involve school administrations, parents of bullies, and sometimes litigation.

Modifié par Hannibal218, 02 avril 2011 - 12:42 .

[wizardryforever]

Well there are a few variables here that need to be accounted for.  What kind of bullying is it?  Physical, verbal, or practial jokes that no one finds funny?  The tactics for each are different.

For the physical, the easiest deterrent would be to ensure that you are never alone.  Walk with a friend, hopefully someone the bully(ies) won't want to mess with.  Just not being alone is a huge help for the less persistant bullies.  Other than that, it would be best to try and scare them a bit, either with force, or scary words.  Only go for the full on beat down when the physical bully(ies) just won't take the hint.

For verbal it's a bit simpler.  Ignore them.  That may sound trite, but the old adage "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me," has some truth to it.  Words are nothing, especially when you don't value the source of those words.  So they called you a name, big deal.  Don't let it get to you, don't respond at all, and eventually the sense of fun will drain away from the bullies.

For the unfunny practical jokes, the best thing to do is be watchful, and don't let yourself be put into situations that allow for most of these jokes.  This is probably the toughest one to deal with, as the "cowardly" bullies who do this will try to avoid physical confrontation, and a beat-down probably won't stop this kind of bully.  I suppose you could also do the "not let it get to you thing," but that may not work, depending on the bully.

Oh, right, this is where I'm supposed to ramble on about how much I was bullied.  Truth be told, not as much as I thought I would be, based on how I acted (quiet and introverted).  I suppose that it helped that it was a small school where people couldn't hide behind anonymity, and that I was an early-bloomer.  I was probably 5'10" or so by the time I was in seventh grade.  Grew like a weed.  Even got stretch marks on my knees from the growth spurt.

[CitizenThom]

No one got involved when I was bullied in grade school until I started fighting back... then they looked for all sorts of things to keep me occupied so I wouldn't continue getting into fights, I worked the ice cream booth at lunch break and later the cafeteria. So they did something once they started worrying I might become a kid with a permanent chip pinned to his shoulder.

Fighting back does not make things worse. It's the not fighting back that makes things worse.

Or to refute the common Ghandi quote- If there's no consequence for taking someone's eye, the world will be just as blind.

Many people will take what they can take, so long as there isn't a consequence. Becoming the consequence is more noble than fostering the bully's belief that there is no consequence for the bully's actions.

Modifié par CitizenThom, 02 avril 2011 - 06:53 .

[Dachindae]

Ugh, bullying sucks. The bullies never think that they would be feeling like crud.

I was at a university school from 1st to 5th grade. Probably the worst years of my entire life.
I suffer from pretty bad ADHD, which wasn't controlled back then. I couldn't focus on anything and I'd get distracted real easily. That was just one thing they'd bully me for.
I'm a real animal person, I used to get teased about liking animals so much. I'd get excited at the mentioning of tigers/big cats because they were my favorite animal, and they'd tease me for that.
I'd get bullied because I wore boys clothing, even though I was a girl. I was short, I was bullied for that. I got bullied for just about anything the kids could think of. I only had about 2 actual friends during those years.
My parents had MANY discussions with the school staff and they always said 'We'll get the bullying to stop' but it never did.
I'm a kind person, always giving people chances and approaching new people with a smile. I tend to give a lot of people the benefit of the doubt. That gets taken advantage of and because of my general niceness, people don't seem to see me as a potentially violent person.
I kept trying to be nice to everyone even though they would never show an ounce of it back. I finally snapped in 5th grade when a boy tried to take my shirt off. I finally snapped and punched him, broke his nose in two places. I then ran to the recess monitor and I got transferred to a different school while my parent's decided what they should do with the school not doing anything. [8 years have passed and the bullying situation is still not under control at that facility.]

In my new school, things were SO much better. Sure, there was bullying to start since I was new, but the teachers quickly lay down the law and I wasn't bothered for the rest of the year.
I won't bore you with my jr. high school bullying stories, but I basically had to stop being so nice to everyone I met and I had to make it clear that I would beat their faces in if they thought I was an easy target. I wasn't mean, but I wasn't taking any crud either. I ended up getting into two fights that year, both in self defense, both started by bullies that were heavily suspended for their actions.

Ignoring the bullies hardly ever works, they are like uber-trolls. They take silence as a challenge. Eventually they will get bored, but not for a very, very long while.

What it all comes down to are the teachers. Some teachers care, some really could care less and would rather kick a student in the seat of their pants and say 'get over it' than try to help them.
My 6th grade teacher was amazing, she would even tell the other teachers off if they weren't stopping any bullying that was happening right in front of them.

Tell your brother to keep a stiff upper lip and keep on going! I hope the bullying doesn't last for too long and that it will get resolved.

[phoenixofthunder]

When confronted by a bully in school; I would not run, nor would I fight but I would stand my ground and use the one thing that most bullies never do------- their brains. Basically I made a statement to the bully:

My statement became know throughout my school career as my signature line:
I simply said that: "To fight is the cowards way out" and since that moment no one ever bothered me in school.

On the far off chance that they would push me or shove me I'd just turn and face them then glower till they felt creeped out:



My brow though would come down a lot lower for a more sinister look.

Modifié par phoenixofthunder, 03 avril 2011 - 12:02 .

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Dachindae wrote...

Ugh, bullying sucks. The bullies never think that they would be feeling like crud.

I was at a university school from 1st to 5th grade. Probably the worst years of my entire life.
I suffer from pretty bad ADHD, which wasn't controlled back then. I couldn't focus on anything and I'd get distracted real easily. That was just one thing they'd bully me for.
I'm a real animal person, I used to get teased about liking animals so much. I'd get excited at the mentioning of tigers/big cats because they were my favorite animal, and they'd tease me for that.
I'd get bullied because I wore boys clothing, even though I was a girl. I was short, I was bullied for that. I got bullied for just about anything the kids could think of. I only had about 2 actual friends during those years.
My parents had MANY discussions with the school staff and they always said 'We'll get the bullying to stop' but it never did.
I'm a kind person, always giving people chances and approaching new people with a smile. I tend to give a lot of people the benefit of the doubt. That gets taken advantage of and because of my general niceness, people don't seem to see me as a potentially violent person.
I kept trying to be nice to everyone even though they would never show an ounce of it back. I finally snapped in 5th grade when a boy tried to take my shirt off. I finally snapped and punched him, broke his nose in two places. I then ran to the recess monitor and I got transferred to a different school while my parent's decided what they should do with the school not doing anything. [8 years have passed and the bullying situation is still not under control at that facility.]

In my new school, things were SO much better. Sure, there was bullying to start since I was new, but the teachers quickly lay down the law and I wasn't bothered for the rest of the year.
I won't bore you with my jr. high school bullying stories, but I basically had to stop being so nice to everyone I met and I had to make it clear that I would beat their faces in if they thought I was an easy target. I wasn't mean, but I wasn't taking any crud either. I ended up getting into two fights that year, both in self defense, both started by bullies that were heavily suspended for their actions.

Ignoring the bullies hardly ever works, they are like uber-trolls. They take silence as a challenge. Eventually they will get bored, but not for a very, very long while.

What it all comes down to are the teachers. Some teachers care, some really could care less and would rather kick a student in the seat of their pants and say 'get over it' than try to help them.
My 6th grade teacher was amazing, she would even tell the other teachers off if they weren't stopping any bullying that was happening right in front of them.

Tell your brother to keep a stiff upper lip and keep on going! I hope the bullying doesn't last for too long and that it will get resolved.

I always pray that a guy who bullies girls will know TRUE SUFFERING when he sees his pathetic foolishness backfire on him. I always admired one of my teachers in grade school for literally threatening 'to bring the banhammer' down on a guy who bullied one of my best friends, if he persisted in trying to bully her with sexual harassment. For me, once the bloodlust is begun, I am not a nice guy to be around. I do not forgive anyone who harms my friends, unless they BEG ON THEIR KNEES for mercy.

[blothulfur]

Challenge the bullies to the terrible ordeal of death through interpretive dance, strip naked, cover your hairy hide in oil, let one eyed willy stand at full attention in excitement, carve sigrunen into your chest with a hunting knife, let out a full and long howl to your ancestors and then commence the dance of the sugar plum fairy ballet.

That's how you settled things at my school, well until they asked me to please leave and never return or they'd shoot me with silver bullets.

Fascists.

Modifié par blothulfur, 03 avril 2011 - 12:31 .

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

blothulfur wrote...

Challenge the bullies to the terrible ordeal of death through interpretive dance, strip naked, cover your hairy hide in oil, let one eyed willy stand at full attention in excitement, carve sigrunen into your chest with a hunting knife, let out a full and long howl to your ancestors and then commence the dance of the sugar plum fairy ballet.

That's how you settled things at my school, well until they asked me to please leave and never return or they'd shoot me with silver bullets.

Fascists.

Sigrunen, thats the old runic language, right?

[blothulfur]

It means victory in the futhark (the anglo saxon and norse runes).

[Zaxares]

Bullying and how to deal with it is a very sensitive issue. While I agree with most people here in that you need to stand up for yourself, I also want to discourage people instantly leaping to violence as the first solution. People can and do get seriously injured in fights, sometimes with lasting consequences. Plus, you never know if the other person might be carrying a weapon. (I hear this is a particular problem in more rough-district schools.)

If you're being bullied, my advice is to first try to ignore it. Sometimes bullies are like online trolls; they only seek to get a rise out of taunting their opponents. If they don't get the reaction they're after, which may be anger or tears, they will get bored and leave you alone.

If that doesn't work, try telling the bullies to leave you alone, using harsh language if necessary. A stern, "****** off. I'm not in the mood for your ****." can sometimes work wonders. A great number of bullies are not used to targets who respond fiercely or aggressively, and this method can sometimes scare them off.

If that still doesn't work, try raising the problem to teachers or other authority figures. This can be rather hit or miss, because many teachers do not receive proper counselling or crisis management training and therefore don't know how to resolve bullying in an appropriate manner. This is why you have so many people in this thread saying that going to teachers didn't do anything for them. I personally was lucky; my teacher was a tall, well-built man who let my bullies know in no uncertain terms that their behaviour was not acceptable and if they carried it on, they would regret it. They stopped their bullying behaviour immediately after that, and I wasn't bothered again.

Only if everything else fails should you resort to a fight, and even then, DON'T START IT! People will usually get on your side once it becomes known that you're retaliating against a bully, but if you go looking for trouble, opinion will go against you, and you NEED public opinion on your side if you want to escape from this mess without permanent black marks against you.

[Volus Warlord]

Zaxares wrote...
 violence as the first solution.

It isn't the first solution.













It's the only solution.

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Zaxares wrote...
 violence as the first solution.

It isn't the first solution.













It's the only solution.

Give in to the lust of blood and battle! Break their Backs!

[Hannibal218]

I just came to a realization. The lion's share of you don't have any idea how to deal with bullying. I've read things along the lines of "call him mean names" and "make scary faces" oh! and my favorite so far: saying "To fight is the cowards way out". Hoo-boy, if I was a **** jock that'd set me spinning on my heels believe you me!!!

I get the feeling a lot of the people posting in this thread were or are being relentlessly bullied and are just acting out some sort of fantasy about how you wish you had/could deal with the issue.

So, one last time, violence should only be a LAST RESORT. More often than not it only exacerbates the problem, bullies who get their pride wounded often get back by jumping you en-masse with their buddies. The best way of dealing with the issue is not to ignore but to laugh off whatever is being said. If called gay respond "Only on Tuesdays." or "No but I'd make an exception for you big boy." if called a nerd simply say thanks. Make a disarming joke about whats being said and the bully will get sick of not getting his tears and leave. If the problem persists involve parents, teachers, principals, even the police said individuals/institutions exist to help you. If an adult refuses to help go to another one, go over their heads, etc. Lastly, if there is no alternative(or if being attacked) then fight back but be ready for the repercussions e.g. retaliation, suspension from school, dismissal from workplace, assault charges, getting the snot kicked out of you, etc.

Bullies will always exist as long as there are strong/tough people who are emotionally insecure and smaller/weaker people who they can pick on AND will respond to said picking. That is a simple fact of life that you will have to deal with. It doesn't end with school, it carries on to jobs(bosses love being bullies) and even relationships. You simply need to be thick skinned and realize that what other people say has no bearing on who or what you are, that yours is the only opinion that truly matters.

Modifié par Hannibal218, 03 avril 2011 - 07:26 .

[Kidd]

Hannibal218 wrote...

The best way of dealing with the issue is not to ignore but to laugh off whatever is being said. If called gay respond "Only on Tuesdays." or "No but I'd make an exception for you big boy."

Trust me, that can have terrible, terrible consequences that make you wish you just remained quiet.

Don't think there's any sure-fire way out in these situations. It all depends on who your bully(/ies) is and how they're feeling at the moment you try to get out.

[Volus Warlord]

KiddDaBeauty wrote...

Hannibal218 wrote...

The best way of dealing with the issue is not to ignore but to laugh off whatever is being said. If called gay respond "Only on Tuesdays." or "No but I'd make an exception for you big boy."

Trust me, that can have terrible, terrible consequences that make you wish you just remained quiet.

Don't think there's any sure-fire way out in these situations. It all depends on who your bully(/ies) is and how they're feeling at the moment you try to get out.

Just becuase your instance backfired does not mean that tactic will always backfire.

[Hannibal218]

I didn't say that it'd always work and I just gave those as an example. The concept remains the same though if you have a bad haircut and someone makes a comment say you got in a fight with a lawn mower and lost... whatever. And as I said if it doesn't work then your next step is getting help from the people around you whose job it is to help you. Part of a teachers job is "creating an environment conducive to learning" and a part of that is making sure that no one is afraid of what someone else is going to say or do. You parents, also, are a good place to go for help. If they have even a modicum of responsibility then they will contact the school and try and help you.

Ultimately, though, you just have to learn how to deal with it yourself(sans violence if possible) as trying to end bullying is a losing battle. There won't always be someone around to watch out for you (eg halls, bus, walking home, etc) and besides, as long as there are people that are stronger, faster, or in a greater position of power than you are there will be bullying.

[phoenixofthunder]

Hannibal218 wrote...

I just came to a realization. The lion's share of you don't have any idea how to deal with bullying. I've read things along the lines of "call him mean names" and "make scary faces" oh! and my favorite so far: saying "To fight is the cowards way out". Hoo-boy, if I was a **** jock that'd set me spinning on my heels believe you me!!!

I get the feeling a lot of the people posting in this thread were or are being relentlessly bullied and are just acting out some sort of fantasy about how you wish you had/could deal with the issue.

So, one last time, violence should only be a LAST RESORT. More often than not it only exacerbates the problem, bullies who get their pride wounded often get back by jumping you en-masse with their buddies. The best way of dealing with the issue is not to ignore but to laugh off whatever is being said. If called gay respond "Only on Tuesdays." or "No but I'd make an exception for you big boy." if called a nerd simply say thanks. Make a disarming joke about whats being said and the bully will get sick of not getting his tears and leave. If the problem persists involve parents, teachers, principals, even the police said individuals/institutions exist to help you. If an adult refuses to help go to another one, go over their heads, etc. Lastly, if there is no alternative(or if being attacked) then fight back but be ready for the repercussions e.g. retaliation, suspension from school, dismissal from workplace, assault charges, getting the snot kicked out of you, etc.

Bullies will always exist as long as there are strong/tough people who are emotionally insecure and smaller/weaker people who they can pick on AND will respond to said picking. That is a simple fact of life that you will have to deal with. It doesn't end with school, it carries on to jobs(bosses love being bullies) and even relationships. You simply need to be thick skinned and realize that what other people say has no bearing on who or what you are, that yours is the only opinion that truly matters.

Let me be serious. I have been called extremely strong-willed with near impossible to believe self-discipline.

All of what follows is true and I actually did all of it. Believe me or not its true. I will not let anything anyone says disuade any of what kept me out of trouble during my school career.

The above phrase that I posted was said after I used verbal communication and "the stare" (more like the one below [sorry couldn't find a real repesentation that really showed the look better) to avoid fighting and the phrases' true purpose was to confuse the iddots long enough for me to walk on to class. It is true it inspired one or two bullies to make me a target to be pummeled-yet they never could. For to this day I study: Tai-sabaki or as I prerfer: "The Art of Evasion" which allowed me to be light on my feet and easily avoid their attacks. I also made myself less of a target by hitting my forhead against walls, lockers, desks, ect. And then showing no emotion of pain what-so-ever (only did this after two doctors said my skull was twice as thick as the average persons' skull) on purpose. One of my Trekie friends' often said I acted like a real life Vulcan.

Durring the course of my school career I had those two derogatory statement made towards me daily in highschool.

My responses were these exactly:
Gay response: "Of course I'm happy. (Yes that's the 50's & 60's meaning of the word!)
Nerd response: "Thankyou and I am proud of it!"
Oh and thanks for favoriting my quote.

Modifié par phoenixofthunder, 03 avril 2011 - 03:41 .

[The Potty 1]

I should point out that I suggested you build muscle and start contact fighting, not to actually fight your bully, but to look and walk like someone people would rather not bully. The best case scenario is for the bullying to quietly stop without you noticing.