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[CodeMyster]

Ok  so things are still going good with me and the girl I talked bout in my last thread, been taking things slow. She's been sick tho so I haven't seen her since last Thurday but we still text each other.

So she posted something on her  facebook yesterday, really dont know what to think of it.

Had a dream that he would tell me he hated me and couldnt stand me then
tell me April fools and that he loved me and wanted me back. But I knew
when I woke up it was just a dream. Why am I being tormented by this.
Why is it I have a rich patient loving guy ready for me to be with him
but I choose to stay in love with you even though your not here and wont
give me the time of day?? Why??

[MajorStranger]

Sorry mate but I think you'll only be the rebound guy.

[Godak]

CodeMyster wrote...

I haven't seen her since last Thurday 

Oh, the humanity...

CodeMyster wrote...

but we still text each other.

Have you ever thought that maybe, just MAYBE you're getting way too hung up on this girl? That's not how relationships (or love, for that matter) work. No, that's called an obsession.

[CodeMyster]

I can't help how I feel

[Druss99]

Godak wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

I haven't seen her since last Thurday 

Oh, the humanity...

CodeMyster wrote...

but we still text each other.

Have you ever thought that maybe, just MAYBE you're getting way too hung up on this girl? That's not how relationships (or love, for that matter) work. No, that's called an obsession.

Relax he's only young.

Sorry OP but it sounds like she is still hung up on her ex. If you stick around I think your going to get dumped on royally. Even if you do stay with her are you going to be comfortable with always thinking she wanted to be with the other guy?

[johnbonhamatron]

Druss99 wrote...

Sorry OP but it sounds like she is still
hung up on her ex. If you stick around I think your going to get dumped
on royally. Even if you do stay with her are you going to be comfortable
with always thinking she wanted to be with the other guy?

More or less precisely what I was thinking. My honest opinion, OP?

Walk away.

Modifié par johnbonhamatron, 03 avril 2011 - 12:46 .

[Volus Warlord]

Your best option is to demand to get laid. lol.........

[CodeMyster]

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

This is just setting up a "Stella" (How I met your mother) situation...

You go so far out of your way for this girl, you get to the point where you are about to take the next step together, and then she leaves you for her ex for no logical reason whatsoever.

Ditch her. At the best she leave you a husk of bitterness and resentment.

[Steel Moon]

Maybe someone recommended this in your other thread, but perhaps you shouldn't make yourself so available to her. Don't get completely tied up in what's going on with her. Keep pursuing your other interests, whatever they may be.
In my experience, girls are usually more interested in guys that have their own things going on and aren't quite so easily attainable. It almost sounds like she's just keeping you on the hook in case things with her ex don't turn out the way she'd like. So really I don't think you should stop everything and just wait for her. There's no telling how long it may take her to sort through things.
If things do work out in your favor in the end then that's great! But if she winds up back with the ex, you may find yourself really regretting that you may have missed out on other prospects.

[MajorStranger]

CodeMyster wrote...

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

Great guy don't get the girl. that's a fact.

Jerk, douchebag, anti-hero, guys with a dark past and @-holes steal the girl from the good guy.

I have this friend, she's a girl. I've liked her for almost as long as I knew her, when she broke up with her boyfriend of two years (which she was with before I knew her) I was there for her. so nice, so comforting, so funny. Being the nice guy I am I didn't tried to hit on her (Nice guy don't take advantage of heartbroken girl). She then met another guy, then broke up again. Over the 18 months I've known her she's had 6 boyfriends, each one as Jerk as the previous one. Never has she even though that if I cared so much about her, that I was there for her it was because I cared for her more than just as friend. I've given up two months ago and stopped seeing her as much as before. Yesterday she broke up with her last boyfriend, He even made her  give away her cat because he's allegic to it. Two months and he made her give away her cat!!!

[Sparrow44]

I echo what others have said, better for you to make the first move yourself and move on before she makes the decision for you (which is a much more painful solution for you either way).

You'll feel better about it in the long run trust me.

[KenKenpachi]

Godak wrote...
Have you ever thought that maybe, just MAYBE you're getting way too hung up on this girl? That's not how relationships (or love, for that matter) work. No, that's called an obsession.

Hey now even hitmen need to make a living **** like this makes up 50% of there work I'ld wager.

But yeah...I'ld say stick with her if you want, but if she leaves you don't be surprised or bummed out.....


Call 1-800-I-Kill4U

<< >>

[Volus Warlord]

MajorStranger wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

Great guy don't get the girl. that's a fact.

Jerk, douchebag, anti-hero, guys with a dark past and @-holes steal the girl from the good guy.

I have this friend, she's a girl. I've liked her for almost as long as I knew her, when she broke up with her boyfriend of two years (which she was with before I knew her) I was there for her. so nice, so comforting, so funny. Being the nice guy I am I didn't tried to hit on her (Nice guy don't take advantage of heartbroken girl). She then met another guy, then broke up again. Over the 18 months I've known her she's had 6 boyfriends, each one as Jerk as the previous one. Never has she even though that if I cared so much about her, that I was there for her it was because I cared for her more than just as friend. I've given up two months ago and stopped seeing her as much as before. Yesterday she broke up with her last boyfriend, He even made her  give away her cat because he's allegic to it. Two months and he made her give away her cat!!!

Here, if you want I can publicly make you her hero.

All I demand is a mere $10,000.00

[CodeMyster]

I have no illusions, I know things may never work out, but I'll try my d**nest to make it so. If it don't then there is plenty of other fish in the sea.

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

I have no illusions, I know things may never work out, but I'll try my d**nest to make it so. If it don't then there is plenty of other fish in the sea.

The catch is that other fish will be caught on other people's hooks during your time of over-focusing, spare the few that are so screwed up that they got tossed into the ocean.

[KenKenpachi]

Volus Warlord wrote...

MajorStranger wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

Great guy don't get the girl. that's a fact.

Jerk, douchebag, anti-hero, guys with a dark past and @-holes steal the girl from the good guy.

I have this friend, she's a girl. I've liked her for almost as long as I knew her, when she broke up with her boyfriend of two years (which she was with before I knew her) I was there for her. so nice, so comforting, so funny. Being the nice guy I am I didn't tried to hit on her (Nice guy don't take advantage of heartbroken girl). She then met another guy, then broke up again. Over the 18 months I've known her she's had 6 boyfriends, each one as Jerk as the previous one. Never has she even though that if I cared so much about her, that I was there for her it was because I cared for her more than just as friend. I've given up two months ago and stopped seeing her as much as before. Yesterday she broke up with her last boyfriend, He even made her  give away her cat because he's allegic to it. Two months and he made her give away her cat!!!

Here, if you want I can publicly make you her hero.

All I demand is a mere $10,000.00

Dress up in a ski mask, kidnap her, then let him "beat" you and save her?

Why I bring this up?  I offered to do the same for a friend of mine.

[Volus Warlord]

KenKenpachi wrote...

Volus Warlord wrote...

MajorStranger wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

She really does care for me and she thinks I'm a great guy. I brighten her day just by texting her and she always says how she misses me. And I realize she needs time, it just sucks.

Great guy don't get the girl. that's a fact.

Jerk, douchebag, anti-hero, guys with a dark past and @-holes steal the girl from the good guy.

I have this friend, she's a girl. I've liked her for almost as long as I knew her, when she broke up with her boyfriend of two years (which she was with before I knew her) I was there for her. so nice, so comforting, so funny. Being the nice guy I am I didn't tried to hit on her (Nice guy don't take advantage of heartbroken girl). She then met another guy, then broke up again. Over the 18 months I've known her she's had 6 boyfriends, each one as Jerk as the previous one. Never has she even though that if I cared so much about her, that I was there for her it was because I cared for her more than just as friend. I've given up two months ago and stopped seeing her as much as before. Yesterday she broke up with her last boyfriend, He even made her  give away her cat because he's allegic to it. Two months and he made her give away her cat!!!

Here, if you want I can publicly make you her hero.

All I demand is a mere $10,000.00

Dress up in a ski mask, kidnap her, then let him "beat" you and save her?

Why I bring this up?  I offered to do the same for a friend of mine.

That sir is hilarious. Though it sounds as if you didn't follow through. Weak!

No, I was thinking something more along the lines of dressing up in a ski mask, beating her ex senseless, then the whole fake kidnap shabang.

[KenKenpachi]

Lol yeah he never wanted to pay...that being said he thought it was a brilliant idea. Then again he's asked me to kidnap women as well, and to steal dracula's powers from his castle, in exchange I get to be death, so I tend to just ignore his requests. Your idea sounds good though provided you don't bring a baseball bat to a gun fight.

Modifié par KenKenpachi, 03 avril 2011 - 01:51 .

[Shirosaki17]

Fiddles_stix wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

I can't help how I feel

Neither can she

Just give it a little time

You really think a girl could get over a guy while being with another guy like this? You think she'll get over the exbf and suddenly appreciate him and love him?

@OP out of curiousity, does she mean rich in the money way, or is she talking about something else?

Modifié par Shirosaki17, 03 avril 2011 - 01:54 .

[CodeMyster]

rich in some other way cus 1. im not rich lol and 2. she doesnt care bout money, but yeah mom thought the same thing lol

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

rich in some other way cus 1. im not rich lol and 2. she doesnt care bout money, but yeah mom thought the same thing lol

1.) Is the ex rich?

2.) Deep down inside, she cares a whole lot about money.

[Shirosaki17]

CodeMyster wrote...

rich in some other way cus 1. im not rich lol and 2. she doesnt care bout money, but yeah mom thought the same thing lol

Women say that, but that doesn't mean it's true. If you don't have money then I guess it doesn't matter. But for example if you were rich or she thought you were and she used "rich" to describe you then yeah it does matter to her even if she said it doesn't.

Modifié par Shirosaki17, 03 avril 2011 - 02:11 .

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

I can't help how I feel

Yes you can.

The answer: Indifference. Tell her you do not care.

Then she may express whether or not she cares about you rather than using you as a grief dummy.