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[Dominus]

Besides better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

After enough experience, I've found this to be untrue. It's better to have loved when they truly loved you in return. From the sound of the text messages and the way you've described it, you're the rebound/backup - that is an unhealthy position. It's a position I've also been in too, and it's never worked.

You need to take Steel Moon's advice: Don't be so readily available - leave the lure out and see if you get a bite. If you don't, then you know what the answer is. Dating/Romantic advice is never 100%, because every individual relationship is different. But I can already get the feeling that you need to change your tactics, or it will not end well. Good luck, casanova. <3

-DV.

Modifié par DominusVita, 03 avril 2011 - 04:34 .

[Noir201]

Give her space like Ducky, Ivy and Luna said. This has happened to me in the past and giving her space is the best thing. Pushing it will only hurt her and yourself.

[v_ware]

Had a dream that he would tell me he hated me and couldnt stand me then
tell me April fools and that he loved me and wanted me back. But I knew
when I woke up it was just a dream. Why am I being tormented by this.
Why is it I have a rich patient loving guy ready for me to be with him
but I choose to stay in love with you even though your not here and wont
give me the time of day?? Why??

That's just borderline evil.

She posts that on her wall for the world to see while you are dating her? I'dd have a talk with her. Or leave her be for a while. Your pick.

Modifié par v_ware, 03 avril 2011 - 04:42 .

[Dominus]

As I said, give her some space but be the good guy.

Make sure to stick to paragon choices. Don't do anything if a renegade interrupt pops up if you're giving her a hug, or something. That would be bad.

[Shirosaki17]

DuckSoup wrote...
I think it's unfair to say it's 'evil' but yeah, she probably should have talked to OP about it before posting for all to see. 

Yeah I think evil would be, I don't know like calling yourself "Ducksoup" or something and then putting pics of cute, baby ducks in your avatar probably shortly after killing and eating them. But that's just me.

Modifié par Shirosaki17, 03 avril 2011 - 05:25 .

[Dominus]

She cannot help her nature - DuckSoup must feed...

Modifié par DominusVita, 03 avril 2011 - 05:27 .

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

ok so here's something interesting, i found a message from her back in janurary, she was still with her ex then. it was about her trying to hooking me up with her best friend that lives with her. i told her about the other day and just asking her bout it while we were texting each other the convo went like this:

Me: hey did you read that message I was talking bout the one from january?

Her : 

Me: i found it funny cus you were trying to hook me up with her but i think fate had other things in mind

Her:   me too lol

Me:  

Her: 

I can already tell this will end poorly.

[CodeMyster]

DominusVita wrote...

As I said, give her some space but be the good guy.

Make sure to stick to paragon choices. Don't do anything if a renegade interrupt pops up if you're giving her a hug, or something. That would be bad.

lmao

[Gaius Octavian]

*Poof* 

Modifié par Gaius Octavian, 04 avril 2011 - 05:48 .

[CodeMyster]

Gaius Octavian wrote...

*Poof* 

Holy crap it worked lmao

[Dangerfoot]

Yikes, I wouldn't go out of your way to make this girl happy, honestly. The beginning of a relationship always feels pretty awesome. But eventually you have some fights, one of you becomes the "jerk" (you) and then she'll start noticing other guys that make her laugh or whatever. I'm not saying that she'll never grow out of it, but she sounds like a window shopper with a victim complex right now. So just approach this with caution, please.

[Blood-Lord Thanatos]

Dangerfoot wrote...

Yikes, I wouldn't go out of your way to make this girl happy, honestly. The beginning of a relationship always feels pretty awesome. But eventually you have some fights, one of you becomes the "jerk" (you) and then she'll start noticing other guys that make her laugh or whatever. I'm not saying that she'll never grow out of it, but she sounds like a window shopper with a victim complex right now. So just approach this with caution, please.

This is not good. Not good at all. Dangerfoot speaketh the truth my son. He is a wise old sage.

[Mad-Max90]

Sounds like you have 99 problems and they're all ****es, I feel bad for you son

[Milana_Saros]

Thought I'd never post in this type of threads again but here goes...firstly: stop obsessing over it. I know it sounds simple but I also know that it totally is not but there is NOTHING you can do. Seriously. Posting this stuff on a public forum (especially her Facebook updates) is probably not the smartest idea around either. I hate being so harsh but honestly: trying to find yourself something to occupy your thoughts is the best thing you can do for yourself right now. Go out with friends, go out for a walk, play some computer games. Anything.

If there's anything I've learned in my own personal life then it's that if someone really likes you then he DOES want to be with you. Distance doesn't matter. Past doesn't matter. Things aren't always that simple, true, but if she is still wondering after an ex...do you really want to go there? At least, go there right now?

The Facebook update strikes me as horribly over dramatic. Either she is just quoting some movie / song whatever stuff or then she is really torn and melodramatic right now. It won't solve itself if you keep pushing it. I was a mess after my first love dumped me and it took years to get my head straight.Ofc there was some other even more severe crap going on but still, I had a very hard time with keeping my feelings in check. That's not a time to engage in a relationship.

So as I said, just let time pass by. Perhaps, keep your eyes and ears open for other girls too. It sounds vicious but keeping you hanging on if she is longing for an ex is equally vicious.

[CodeMyster]

well it seems things are taking a turn for the better. She's finally starting to see that her break up with her ex was for the best. me and her both feel everything that happened, happened for a reason. she's was sick this past week, so the last time i saw her was bout 12 days ago but she feeling better now misses me and wants to see me so tomorrow were going to go have breakfast before she goes to her class.

[Volus Warlord]

CodeMyster wrote...

well it seems things are taking a turn for the better. She's finally starting to see that her break up with her ex was for the best. me and her both feel everything that happened, happened for a reason. she's was sick this past week, so the last time i saw her was bout 12 days ago but she feeling better now misses me and wants to see me so tomorrow were going to go have breakfast before she goes to her class.

I'll bet you she'll be nailing her ex within a month.

[CodeMyster]

Volus Warlord wrote...

CodeMyster wrote...

well it seems things are taking a turn for the better. She's finally starting to see that her break up with her ex was for the best. me and her both feel everything that happened, happened for a reason. she's was sick this past week, so the last time i saw her was bout 12 days ago but she feeling better now misses me and wants to see me so tomorrow were going to go have breakfast before she goes to her class.

I'll bet you she'll be nailing her ex within a month.

#1 F you lol #2 He's not even in the same area code, he's off at college miles away

[MajorStranger]

dude you're the rebound guy. I'll give you two months max.

[CodeMyster]

I'll prove you wrong

[MajorStranger]

There's three main kind of guys girls date:

The right guy: He's loving, caring and could actually make a good husband one day.

The wrong guy: He's a jerk, hurt her (physically or mentally) but she can't help but love him. She either:
1) go back to another wrong guy.
2) go to the rebound guy.

The rebound guy: He's the right guy, but at the wrong time. He shows the girl what the right guy is, but she'll dump him eventually to either:
1) go back to the wrong guy.
2) Switch to the right guy.


Sorry dude but chances are slim to work. But hey that's not all bad. She might even thank you before her wedding day.

[CodeMyster]

and who made you the expert? like others have told me on here, just cus it may have been the case for you are others doesnt mean its the same case for me.