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[Dariuszp]

Oh And try not to get drunk My friend set me up with someone. Evening end fast because girl drink too much (hope that not because of me ). I literaly drop here at her house (she got poroblems even with standing) and since then - I never see here again (hope i wont). Acting busy all the time  

Be yourself. If you act and make yourself someone else - i till show after time. And then someone will realise that you are not the same person. Be yourself and you will find someone. Just got out and talk to people.

PS: 3 reasons why person is alone:

1. I'm tu busy with my work, i dont have time.
2. I didn't find right person
3. I'm mage lvl 80

Modifié par Dariuszp, 02 juin 2011 - 10:37 .

[Milana_Saros]

Dariuszp wrote...

3. I'm mage lvl 80

The lvl cap is 85 now.

[chunkyman]

mrcrusty wrote...

chunkyman wrote...

I've never understood the "be yourself" argument. It works great if you're actually cool and interesting, but some people aren't appealing in the slightest if they act like who they really are. I would buy a sweet car and memorize funny jokes. Love is overrated, just find a chick with low standards.

I'm in the same boat as you OP, and I think what you might need to consider is shifting priorities. Forget about finding the "right" girl, just find a tolerable gold digger.

Sounds like your ideal woman is a hooker.

It is. Imagine women like they're cars and horses. Hookers are cars and regular girls are horses. With a horse, you have to feed it and take care of it and be nice to it, whether you're getting to ride it or not. With a car, you can ignore it until you decide you need a ride, with it only requiring you to buy some gas. 

[robotface]

The best answer to your question would get me banned from the forums.

[Gotholhorakh]

mgs00 wrote...

I'm a nerd with low confidence who never had a girlfriend before and never had a friend who was a girl although I have talked and got along with them in places like school or work but I never really had a close relationship with any female outside of my family.  If I went out on a date with a beautiful girl how can I make her laugh and keep her entertained so she won't be bored and have this akward silence which could f*** up my confidence even more?  Btw, I'm almost 30.

Whatever you do, don't just be yourself - that's a lie put about by alpha males so nice guys finish last.

The best thing I'd say is to spend more social time with women in non-sexual, non-dating contexts for a few months as social warm-up.

Speaking to women is going to go a lot better when you're not nervous about it, when you can think of things to say that are funny, etc. Your confidence, tact, sense of humour, and general awesomeness around women can all be developed by this.

Also, gourds. If there's one thing women love, it's gourds, believe me.

[sympathy4saren]

What you need to do is BE YOURSELF. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER compromise who you are as a person for a girl. Be yourself, just don't suck up to them or try to flatter them with kindness. Be yourself. I'm a nice guy, super easy to get along with, but I don't suck up to girls. Be confident in who you are, man. And work on that confidence. Find the girls that are worth getting to know and the ones who aren't. Some girls are cool, laid back, intelligent and funny, some are super snobby, dumb, yet very attractive. I can't stand girls who are stuck up or conceited.

Be who you are, they way you are with your best friend. Be that person to them. Don't give into the temptation to enact a self-perceived you that you feel a girl want. Just be you. Go up to girls and say "Hey, I'm (........), how's it going?

If they are worth getting to know, you can at least communicate. Any person who's not a snobby will at least respond politely

[KenKenpachi]

Volus Warlord wrote...

KenKenpachi wrote...

Money

Good answer.

With women, it is hard to go wrong with copious amounts of money. They're absurdly shallow about such matters..

lol was mainly kidding. Though I have seen alot of women that vain. Be it money or sex. So yeah with enough cash you can find a woman who will smack your ass and call you martha, or dress up like a horse and let you piggie back ride her. Though in the end you have to question if its worth it....though such people thankfully have few friends who mainly hate them really, so should one of your plans go nuts and she "dies" no one will notice.

Not that I would know such things as burying hookers in Vegas nor have I ever known a man named big Tony. << >>

On the other hand OP try pain.

Somewhere there is always someone that will laugh at you falling down a flight of stairs, and someone who will take pitty on you. So there you go a threesome in a hospital F- Yeah!.

Modifié par KenKenpachi, 03 juin 2011 - 01:19 .

[slimgrin]

This thread is like the blind leading the blind.

[KenKenpachi]

slimgrin wrote...

This thread is like the blind leading the blind.

PFFFFFFFFFFT

I prefer to think of my postings as

"sabotage" thank you very much.

Chaos for the sake of it. So not so much as the blind leading the blind, as the mad leading the blind into a shark tank and giggling.

[Volus Warlord]

sympathy4saren wrote...

What you need to do is BE YOURSELF. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER compromise who you are as a person for a girl. Be yourself, just don't suck up to them or try to flatter them with kindness. Be yourself. I'm a nice guy, super easy to get along with, but I don't suck up to girls. Be confident in who you are, man. And work on that confidence. Find the girls that are worth getting to know and the ones who aren't. Some girls are cool, laid back, intelligent and funny, some are super snobby, dumb, yet very attractive. I can't stand girls who are stuck up or conceited.

Be who you are, they way you are with your best friend. Be that person to them. Don't give into the temptation to enact a self-perceived you that you feel a girl want. Just be you. Go up to girls and say "Hey, I'm (........), how's it going?

If they are worth getting to know, you can at least communicate. Any person who's not a snobby will at least respond politely

Hahaha...

Every woman who doesn't sell it will demand you change something about yourself. They do not want a purposeful, intellectually stimulating relationship, they want a willful slave that will help finance their ruthless indulgences. No one will like EVERYTHING about you. Something must give. The woman demands sacrifice! Blood or forget about it! The sacrifice might be your favorite hobby. It might be friends you've known your entire life. It could be your hopes and dreams. It could be your career. It might be your life savings. Or it could be any combination thereof and more:).

Eventually, she will drain you of any strength you have had. At that point, she will either leave you or simply stay with you because she does not feel she can acquire a new host for her vampirism, and may often remind you about what you should have done and could have been.

Just go with whatever you feel is the least of the evils.

[TJPags]

Did anyone mention tying her to a chair and tickling her with a feather yet?

No?

Try that.

[Shirosaki17]

Milana_Saros wrote...

Dariuszp wrote...

3. I'm mage lvl 80

The lvl cap is 85 now.

You're such a nerd. 

[Milana_Saros]

Shirosaki17 wrote...

Milana_Saros wrote...

Dariuszp wrote...

3. I'm mage lvl 80

The lvl cap is 85 now.

You're such a nerd. 

Nah. Couldn't stand playing the new expansion for more than a few weeks before quitting. Then I gave it another shot and quit again. The game is ****. And it's not that hard to miss the information on it since the banners, advertisements, video clips, leveling guide advertisements etc. are pretty much in every goddamn web page you go to <_<

I'm glad they at least removed the TV ads around here....I wonder how much they had to pay Ozzy?

Volus Warlord wrote...

Every woman who doesn't sell it will demand you change something about yourself.

I know you are just trolling but this comment is actually pretty interesting in the sense that this does happen a lot. Coming from both genders. I've seen it in my friends rather often and now, more recently, in my own brother. He has changed so much that it honestly is very hard for me to love him anymore. Mostly I just want to hit him in the face and yell "Who the **** are you?!"

Changing who you are, even a tiny bit...sounds like a very high price to pay just to "nail" someone pretty and funny. There's plenty of pretty and funny around this world, don't understand why someone would focus on worshipping just one.

Modifié par Milana_Saros, 03 juin 2011 - 07:45 .

[KenKenpachi]

Milana_Saros wrote...
I know you are just trolling but this comment is actually pretty interesting in the sense that this does happen a lot. Coming from both genders. I've seen it in my friends rather often and now, more recently, in my own brother. He has changed so much that it honestly is very hard for me to love him anymore. Mostly I just want to hit him in the face and yell "Who the **** are you?!"

Changing who you are, even a tiny bit...sounds like a very high price to pay just to "nail" someone pretty and funny. There's plenty of pretty and funny around this world, don't understand why someone would focus on worshipping just one.

May not be for that alone, some do it to be part of a group, hire pay grade, "In" or to please another for same pleasure and reconition in return. Most people are better suited as being fallowers and sheep, and it is rare to find someone where the "Be yourself" is actully useful. I've dated plenty of girls and had things go south on me as I wouldn't budge who I was, or in the end attempted such and hated it, and them and just left it. Well untill my current lady, we both act as we are and have been happy 5 years now, funny thing is among some here I catch flak over her, being shes asian, though nothing serrious, most people know me well enough to leave it be. Point is being yourself does work, but you better be happy just waiting. And the personalities don't even have to match so much as core asspects. I actully find being with someone too much alike is the same as being with a rival, goes baddly.

And alot of people just don't want to wait. I think it has alot to do with the superfical ways of the current society. I mean you have to have this, or be this, and match that. In the end no one knows who they are for the most, and seek comfort in conforming to the wills of another. And as an end result for the most never will be happy. And get used to it Milana, it may happen to you, or if not you, its a given that the bulk of who you know will. Only the most stubborn, singleminded, or strong willed never change. Though we all change to an extent, some more than others. Though among most of my friends that I had in High School and the like, and people I knew figure maybe 60 people? I've seen only two.

That haven't changed both of them funny enough were rough necks like me and work in the pawn shop, and generally all three of us are in the same boat in terms of how others see us. One guy has lost his damn mind, another got killed for sleeping with another mans wife, funny enough he was down the road of a promising artist but threw it away for drugs. And yet one more very prideful dude I was good friends with, is terrified of me for some unknown reason, and well I have no respect for now as he sold nearly everything he owned to fuel his of all things Magik card game addiction.

I'm sure if you look back even you've changed. I for one am not as risk taking as I used to be, Nor do I burn things as often as I did growing up.

[Volus Warlord]

Milana_Saros wrote...

Volus Warlord wrote...

Every woman who doesn't sell it will demand you change something about yourself.

I know you are just trolling but this comment is actually pretty interesting in the sense that this does happen a lot. Coming from both genders. I've seen it in my friends rather often and now, more recently, in my own brother. He has changed so much that it honestly is very hard for me to love him anymore. Mostly I just want to hit him in the face and yell "Who the **** are you?!"

Changing who you are, even a tiny bit...sounds like a very high price to pay just to "nail" someone pretty and funny. There's plenty of pretty and funny around this world, don't understand why someone would focus on worshipping just one.

The best trolling involves pieces of authenticity, just as the best deception involves pieces of truth. And I kinda went to town there, lol.

The belief that nothing about you should change is kinda bogus imho. Where would such a belief be rooted? To me, it seems more arrogance and pride than anything. Sorry, nobody's perfect-but even so, you shoud proactively better yourself. Bettering yourself may involve changing:o.

What gets me is the whole stereotypical love- "I'm perfect the way I am, you're perfect the way you are, we are just falling over in love all the time." Such ruthless idealism is a huge pitfall-if you try to abide by it, you will end up confused and disappointed. It's simply not realistic or practical.

If you can get through the good without straying apart, and get through the bad without tearing each other apart, you're good;). That alone would put you far above countless so-called couples.   If you think they are gonna love every single little thing about, good luck!

Oh yes, and if your brother is pissing you off just hit him very very hard. If you're lucky it'll shake him to his senses. It often takes calamity to break someone's complancency, and it sounds like that's what your brother is.  I can't say any of my family has changed to the point where they are unrecognizable, but a few might be going there. Probably me more than any other. 

[KenKenpachi]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Milana_Saros wrote...

Volus Warlord wrote...

Every woman who doesn't sell it will demand you change something about yourself.

I know you are just trolling but this comment is actually pretty interesting in the sense that this does happen a lot. Coming from both genders. I've seen it in my friends rather often and now, more recently, in my own brother. He has changed so much that it honestly is very hard for me to love him anymore. Mostly I just want to hit him in the face and yell "Who the **** are you?!"

Changing who you are, even a tiny bit...sounds like a very high price to pay just to "nail" someone pretty and funny. There's plenty of pretty and funny around this world, don't understand why someone would focus on worshipping just one.

The best trolling involves pieces of authenticity, just as the best deception involves pieces of truth. And I kinda went to town there, lol.

The belief that nothing about you should change is kinda bogus imho. Where would such a belief be rooted? To me, it seems more arrogance and pride than anything. Sorry, nobody's perfect-but even so, you shoud proactively better yourself. Bettering yourself may involve changing:o.

What gets me is the whole stereotypical love- "I'm perfect the way I am, you're perfect the way you are, we are just falling over in love all the time." Such ruthless idealism is a huge pitfall-if you try to abide by it, you will end up confused and disappointed. It's simply not realistic or practical.

If you can get through the good without straying apart, and get through the bad without tearing each other apart, you're good;). That alone would put you far above countless so-called couples.   If you think they are gonna love every single little thing about, good luck!

Oh yes, and if your brother is pissing you off just hit him very very hard. If you're lucky it'll shake him to his senses. It often takes calamity to break someone's complancency, and it sounds like that's what your brother is.  I can't say any of my family has changed to the point where they are unrecognizable, but a few might be going there. Probably me more than any other. 

Pft hitting my sister never helped to be fair shes older and a raving mad feminist, she just comes back with more of the same.

And to the love think felt a need to chime in again. I'm in agreement, there is no neverending castle with the prince and princess living happily ever after. I find its better not to just ask whats the best thing you love about said person, but whats the worst things about them, and that they can do, that you can live with. Hell I'm not an easy person to deal with given my nature, and my wife given cultural shock and living in a small community can be a bit dense, but we each have our own character traits that can go around that.

Its like my sister and her current ex, they used to be climbing all over each other going "I love you! no I love you!" and now? The fact in 3 years its turned to "Ex" is a good sign that lust lasts. Thats why I always say look at the bad when it comes to that. If you find your love has a nasty laugh or habits, well you can change them and break them to where they are a husk, or you'll hate them sooner or later.

[Milana_Saros]

Volus Warlord wrote...

Sorry, nobody's perfect-but even so, you shoud proactively better yourself.

Rooting traits that might hurt a relationship like say - going to the bar every damn weekend and get ****** wasted - is plain common sense. That's not what I'm talking about.

"I'm perfect the way I am, you're perfect the way you are, we are just falling over in love all the time." Such ruthless idealism is a huge pitfall-if you try to abide by it, you will end up confused and disappointed. It's simply not realistic or practical.

Do I really seem the type of person who believes in that BS? That still wasn't my point.

If you think they are gonna love every single little thing about, good luck!

I don't think anyone would be that stupid. Aside from 14 year old teenagers who shouldn't even be dating yet to begin with.

Oh yes, and if your brother is pissing you off just hit him very very hard.

Oh yeah sure...just because he had made the choice to turn himself and his life to what it is now, it gives me the right to result in domestic violence. No thanks. It's his choice. I don't approve of it as I don't approve people sucking up to people they are "attracted" to in general. But it's something they have to learn. Or maybe they don't. Maybe they can live happily for the rest of their lives in their little charade.

Or maybe they'll just start sleeping around, "searching for their true self" and eventually destroying a 30 year old marriage like my father did *shrug*

My initial point was that trying to please someone by doing stuff you don't really like or pretending to like stuff you never liked is not healthy. It's so easy to fall into that rut and eventually stop realizing when you're being manipulated. It sorta happened to me with my ex. I actually believed that there's something wrong with me and not a single fault was in him. Later I've come to discover that I have the right to be emotional, sensitive and somewhat of a hermit. I also have the right to mourn bad stuff happening in my life. I don't have to hide it or "root it out" just so I won't "burden my boyfriend".

[Volus Warlord]

Milana_Saros wrote...
Oh yeah sure...just because he had made the choice to turn himself and his life to what it is now, it gives me the right to result in domestic violence. No thanks. It's his choice. I don't approve of it as I don't approve people sucking up to people they are "attracted" to in general. But it's something they have to learn. Or maybe they don't. Maybe they can live happily for the rest of their lives in their little charade.

Or maybe they'll just start sleeping around, "searching for their true self" and eventually destroying a 30 year old marriage like my father did *shrug*

My initial point was that trying to please someone by doing stuff you don't really like or pretending to like stuff you never liked is not healthy. It's so easy to fall into that rut and eventually stop realizing when you're being manipulated. It sorta happened to me with my ex. I actually believed that there's something wrong with me and not a single fault was in him. Later I've come to discover that I have the right to be emotional, sensitive and somewhat of a hermit. I also have the right to mourn bad stuff happening in my life. I don't have to hide it or "root it out" just so I won't "burden my boyfriend".

That is .. not what I was going after at all.  Forget I said anything. You win.

[KenKenpachi]

Wow someone sounds pretty damn bitter. If you have an issue heres a tissue. << >>

Take care now, bye bye then.

[Milana_Saros]

Volus Warlord wrote...

That is .. not what I was going after at all.  Forget I said anything. You win.

*shrug*

Maybe I just lack the ability to read your posts when I'm tired. The thing I actually managed to fathom from your post is that you seemed to misunderstand me as if I think that you shouldn't change a thing about yourself. That's obviously not true. What I was talking about was pleasing someone just to have someone. It shouldn't be like that.

And hitting one's brother...sorry, I just can't read it any other way. Tired or not. Mind you I had to look up 2 words from the dictionary in the latter sentence. Doubt my brother cares what happens to anyone in his family...he seems to be cuddled into the adopted idea that his family sucks now cos' we're not rich and shiny like his girs' family.

Maybe he manages to keep it up as I said or then he ends up in "self-searching" like my father did.

KenKenpachi wrote...

Wow someone sounds pretty damn bitter. If you have an issue heres a tissue. << >>

Take care now, bye bye then.

Puhleese. Don't be so over-dramatic.

Modifié par Milana_Saros, 03 juin 2011 - 07:40 .

[ianmcdonald]

Keep girls entertained? I don't know ... learn to juggle or something.

Don't worry about being funny all the time, just be easy to talk to and be around. If you force funny, you'll come off like a weirdo or a ******.

Like someone already said, just be yourself. If they can't accept you as you are, they're not worth your time.

[KenKenpachi]

Milana_Saros wrote...

Volus Warlord wrote...

That is .. not what I was going after at all.  Forget I said anything. You win.

*shrug*

Maybe I just lack the ability to read your posts when I'm tired. The thing I actually managed to fathom from your post is that you seemed to misunderstand me as if I think that you shouldn't change a thing about yourself. That's obviously not true. What I was talking about was pleasing someone just to have someone. It shouldn't be like that.

And hitting one's brother...sorry, I just can't read it any other way. Tired or not. Mind you I had to look up 2 words from the dictionary in the latter sentence. Doubt my brother cares what happens to anyone in his family...he seems to be cuddled into the adopted idea that his family sucks now cos' we're not rich and shiny like his girs' family.

Maybe he manages to keep it up as I said or then he ends up in "self-searching" like my father did.

KenKenpachi wrote...

Wow someone sounds pretty damn bitter. If you have an issue heres a tissue. << >>

Take care now, bye bye then.

Puhleese. Don't be so over-dramatic.

It was a joke, though you do sound like there is a story.  Never seen Austin Powers I take it?

[Milana_Saros]

KenKenpachi wrote...

It was a joke, though you do sound like there is a story.  Never seen Austin Powers I take it?

Ahhhh, I fail at joke spotting without smilies

Austin Powers? Actually reminded me of Ace Ventura.

I guess there is a story but meh...don't feel the need to dwell on it. My dad had fallen into a rut, I guess he found family life boring. Mum tried to tell him to get back to his hobbies since all he did was drink beer during the weekends. Later it came out that he had been cheating on mum with numerous women for 8 years and since he, deep inside, really is a good guy he couldn't handle it and messed it all up by falling in love with someone. It was painful but it was a long time ago. But dad still drinks beer all weekends...guess he is still in that same rut even if he changed woman.

I could be bitter and run around screaming that all men are slime balls who will eventually either dump you or cheat on you but cba. I just try to stay as who I am and keep a hold of my own things and hobbies, whatever makes me happy. And I give the same "priviledge" to my fiancé. Some couples find it odd that we spend so much time apart doing our own things but honestly, I could never handle a relationship like any other anymore.

And now I'm wondering why I couldn't just write this yeasterday instead of being snarky and sarcastic. I'm horrible when I'm tired