Just make sure she's the right one. Trust me when I say you don't wanna fall in with the wrong one.
Does the silence pop up from being nervous and your brain locking up? Or is it because you two lack similarity?
Hard questions to answer for yourself, but it'd do you a world of good to try.
And if all else fails, I guess breaking her kneecaps and decking her in the face should do the trick. Works every time....sorta.
I need some girl advice. How do I make girls laugh and keep them entertained?
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#102
Posté 07 juin 2011 - 05:27
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I would say that the answer to your question depends on the context.
Talking to somebody of the opposite sex and trying to get them interested in you, if you are at a club with a stranger, is a very different thing to trying to pick up a workmate at work, or one of your old friends at your house, or somebody on a blind date.
Different social situations call for different approaches.
There isn't really a simple answer to the question though. Dozens of books have been written (for men and women) on the topic.
Generally speaking, if you are looking for something long term and meaningful, I would say that being yourself is the best way to go. Controlling your nerves is also a large factor. I've borne witness to plenty of guys and girls that lose their voice completely when confronted with a member of the opposite sex. Mentally, try to just treat it like an (almost) normal conversation - rather than making it into a huge deal.
Give them some prompts to talk about themselves, but make sure you get to say a bit about yourself as well. Interesting things are good, but not if they are wildly out of context (e.g. don't randomly blurt out 'So I had a nasty type of cancer 5 years ago' or similar). This is particularly true of things which you might regard as being particularly impressive about yourself that you want them to know. Try to gently steer the conversation in a direction that will allow you to state such things (e.g. ask them what they do for a living if you want to tell them what you do for a living), rather than just stating 'I'm a lawyer/doctor and I earn more than $150k p.a.' Going a little further down that branch, if you have an excessively complicated job, it's well worth having thought of an easy way to explain it and make it sound less boring than it is.
Well, that's a lot more than I'd intended to write. I hope that helps somewhat.
Talking to somebody of the opposite sex and trying to get them interested in you, if you are at a club with a stranger, is a very different thing to trying to pick up a workmate at work, or one of your old friends at your house, or somebody on a blind date.
Different social situations call for different approaches.
There isn't really a simple answer to the question though. Dozens of books have been written (for men and women) on the topic.
Generally speaking, if you are looking for something long term and meaningful, I would say that being yourself is the best way to go. Controlling your nerves is also a large factor. I've borne witness to plenty of guys and girls that lose their voice completely when confronted with a member of the opposite sex. Mentally, try to just treat it like an (almost) normal conversation - rather than making it into a huge deal.
Give them some prompts to talk about themselves, but make sure you get to say a bit about yourself as well. Interesting things are good, but not if they are wildly out of context (e.g. don't randomly blurt out 'So I had a nasty type of cancer 5 years ago' or similar). This is particularly true of things which you might regard as being particularly impressive about yourself that you want them to know. Try to gently steer the conversation in a direction that will allow you to state such things (e.g. ask them what they do for a living if you want to tell them what you do for a living), rather than just stating 'I'm a lawyer/doctor and I earn more than $150k p.a.' Going a little further down that branch, if you have an excessively complicated job, it's well worth having thought of an easy way to explain it and make it sound less boring than it is.
Well, that's a lot more than I'd intended to write. I hope that helps somewhat.
#103
Posté 07 juin 2011 - 05:43
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just be yourself and toss in some jokes
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Posté 07 juin 2011 - 06:41
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oh man .... that is just whoa
just follow neppakyo's advice looks like he has same experience as you
just follow neppakyo's advice looks like he has same experience as you
