tmp7704 wrote...
I can buy the morality aspect, although that's obviously not something that's universal -- falling for the "bad boy/girl" is common enough and the person will often reason to themselves they're doing that to "save/change" the object of their affection.
Well, I mean not just being the 'bad' boy/girl, but doing some pretty nasty things like killing Conner/convincing the werewolves to kill the elves, saving the Anvil so you can enslave souls and make golems, etc...these are order of magnitudes larger than just being a bit roguish and commiting theft. However, Leliana will still romance someone who does these things in game....someone who thinks it's okay to kill another for their own benefit. Then there's Morrigan (even though it makes no sense that she'd romance
anyone given her upbringing and attitudes towards people in general) who will go with the boring/noble/good guy that's trying to change her.
tmp7704 wrote...
On the other hand having (and especially expressing) a racial preference is an easy way to get branded as racist, bigot and/or a narrowminded person, nothing else. Even though yes, there was a time when that racism was a social norm (and the change the society has experienced since then proves that it was pretty much just a social construct)
Even today, there are people who won't date outside their own race, for various reasons. In Thedas, we see that dwarf/human and dwarf/elf pairings are really really rare and human/elf ones are taboo.
tmp7704 wrote...
I think the difference here would be, while there can be individuals with strong preferences in areas other than gender, having preferences this strong isn't common, which makes a situation in the game where there's no individual with such strong preferences easier to accept.
How can you assume that it's not common to have strong preferences such as these amongst people in Thedas? Because the LIs don't show them? I can turn that around and say that's b/c BW wanted to 'pander' to fans and allow them to romance any human with an elf/dwarf and romance Leliana/Alistair with a completely evil characer. I can say it's just a 'gameplay feature' that 'ruins the narrative' b/c it's so unrealistic. You can say the same thing about them as people do about the DA2 LIs with gender. Then I can say, "well, since the 4 LIs in DA2 were bisexual (and 2 in Origins) then it must mean that bisexuality is a lot more common in Thedas than it is in our world."
tmp7704 wrote...
Or you can look at it this way -- if the characters in the game lack such strong racial preferences etc, it can be easily seen as display of their open mindedness and whatnot. On the other hand our sexual orientation is supposed to be largely out of our own control, so having one or another doesn't speak anything about possible qualities of that person's mind.
People, in general, aren't all that openminded when it comes to taboo romances (i.e., read this thread

). You are selling the social influences on romantic preference short....these influences may even be stronger than biology.