I may not have any right to foist any advice on you without knowing you, but since you put it out here, here goes. I figured I'd answer this seriously, just in case you're truly being serious.ForumPortal wrote...
I've known her for maybe 3 years and we're good friends, but the feeling of love isn't mutual. I'm too stubborn to let her slip away, and determined to win her. I sincerely don't want anyone but her. Sometimes i'll have a dream where we're happy together and when I wake up i punch the wall. There's actually a hole in it.
I just don't know what to do
You need to ask yourself a couple of questions: can you handle just being friends? and would you begrudge her any happiness outside of anything you could provide?
I'll figure, for the sake of discussion here, that you grew to love this girl over the course of 3 years - that, hopefully, you've gotten to talking and sharing things, and aside from physical constraints of location, have pretty much done what people usually do - chat, share, discuss, emote, etc and come to have a mutual respect and affection for one another. If that's the case, you're already a lucky guy/girl.
Have you told her how you feel? Is that where the notion of it not being mutual comes from, or are you basing that on some sort of subtle signal? If you haven't done the former, do so. But make sure you can handle blatant rejection. The thing is, if you know someone who you care deeply for, that person's happines should supercede your personal desires. Not to say that you can't want something deeper and more involved, but if you truly love her, you'll want her to be happy. If she does reject you, be her friend - be the best d*mn friend you can be because that may be incredibly important to her. And sure, it will suck, and sure, it will hurt to not have everything that you want, but this goes back to the wanting her to be happy thing.
You can take all of this with a grain of salt, because I'm not really good at advice. But I figure this - if you love her, tell her. If she needs you to be her friend, do so because you love her.
Whatever the case, good luck. Just try not to punch any more walls. They're a pain to repair.
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Haven't heard that one in a while.
