I've been reading over the last 15 or so pages since I made a post in here and I have to say, I am glad to see so much Garrus love! I thought I was a bit weird for thinking Garrus was a hot and wishing Shepard would speak of some "other" topics to him during their many convos in ME2. Also ME1 when I replayed it. It's kind of the reaction I had after playing DA:O for the first time and discovering "OK, the gays love Alistair, it is not just me"
I don't remember much about when my Kaidan died, but I wish I'd have realised that the 2 decisions at that point meant that he OR Ashley died. I couldn't stand Ashley, even though my Shepard ended up with her. I was just curious to see how the whole "romance" thing played out because I have never played a (non-Japanese) game with that sort of content before. Besides, I thought it was established that only the alien-lesbian-loving geeks/15 year olds were being catered to in Mass Effect and that they would not have Male romances. It never even entered my mind that it would happen in OTHER games like DA:O! That shocked me frankly. My Shepard ended up with Jack in the second game, I really liked how it played. Then again, I am a sucker for the sad/tortured/can only be healed by love type. Could be why I love Anders (and of course, that gorgeous Alistair, for different reasons) so much.
During my as yet unfinished second playthrough of ME1 (started in May), Shepard was a total arse to Ashley, the memories of her in ME2 were still strong

I am also making sure Kaidan does not die this time. I really liked Kaidan's character, I still think he would have been perfect for M-Shepard in the first game. I am looking forward to re-playing ME2 again with my new save, I guess I'll have to use the second save for ME3 so Kaidan can return.
Thank you again BioWare, you guys are awesome. I wish I had discovered that prior to 2009. I'm making up for it now though.