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Why so much tension? Haha people need to get along more in this thread methinks.

Jimmy Fury wrote

Don't care what they did in DA2 the "We recorded it only because it was easier and faster and it was never our intention to ever make anyone bisexual" is absolute BS.
If it was a couple of lines maybe, but multiple scenes worth of dialogue?
No. I absolutely can not process in what reality more work, and more expensive work, is easier or faster.

Either
it's BS or Gaider flat out lied about how expensive and time consuming
voice work is when he was explaining why we might not see s/s content in
a game.


The dialogue exists. See the videos underneath. If they had the dialogue anyways, the only reason they'd cancel it was if they didn't think it was a good idea. Can't see any other reason for that.

Female Shep and Ashley

Man Shep and Kaidan

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Ah nevermind. Believe what you want. BW doesn't need me to defend them. 

Modifié par Ryzaki, 28 juillet 2011 - 06:05 .


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If this 'Vigilante' character is a human female that ends up being modelled after her voice actor, i'd have to cry if she's not s/s.

I would prefer Ashley but if a new character looks like that...I don't care, she's hot :wub:

(I really want a human though, especially if the boys are getting one like Vega maybe. So i'd be happy with Ashley, Jack, Miranda or a new human. Since we already have an alien.)

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Ryzaki wrote...

I wonder what will be the betrayal triggers for the LIs. Will it be the same as if they and Shep were only friends/acquaintances? 


I doubt it will get much more than a line or two of dialog between Shepard and the LI, and maybe between the former LI and the current one. Unless there's the option to try to have it both ways, which could be painfully bad given the current state of the universe.

Liara brings it up in LotSB (if played after the Suicide Mission), and the letters from the VS seem to indicate that the VS considers the relationship over, unless Shepard stays single and makes up in ME3, I suppose.

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@demonic_cookie: I don't understand your question.

KawaiiKatie: "You'd like to take away what little distinction there is between playing
male and female Shepard and make them completely identical except for
pronouns?"

Yes. A world where men and women are treated equally is in my opinion better than a world where they're treated differently. But there will always be Harkins out there, so, for the sake of realism, let's put one or two jerks in the game... as long as you have the option to crush them immediately, of course. I like what they did in ME1&2, except for romances. Make romances like the rest of the game, and that'll be perfect for me. When different treatment is unnecessary, yes, I do think "different" means "bad". I don't think it's bad when it's necessary. For example, swimming pools should have special access for the disabled. That's necessary, so it isn't bad. Gay romances on the other hand don't need special treatment. Love is love regardless of sex. To me, anyway.

"I don't know why the homosexual romances between Kaidan and manShep
would be "shorter" or somehow less satisfying that the heterosexual
romance between Kaidan and femShep. "


That was an example so you could see things from the perspective of a player who don't like his/her sex-assigned romance as much as the other one. That's why I said "what if you find...?"

"Kaidan flirts with female Shepard in Mass Effect 1 after she saves him from the Prothean Beacon."

He didn't do it in your game. Why do you care so much about what he did in my house, my game? I don't care what he did in yours. Heck I don't even care if he's alive or dead in other people's houses. What matters to me is who Kaidan is in my game.

"Male Shepard and Kaidan were robbed of certain plot-points granted to
female Shepard and Kaidan, even if she never chose to start a
relationship with him. Even if female Shepard only talks to Kaidan, he
still makes casual passes as her and expresses an interest in her,
something he never does with male Shepard."


I convinced Garrus that C-Sec wasn't that bad, other people convinced him otherwise and helped him kill Dr. Saleon. Different people had different relationships with Garrus in ME1. And some people didn't even bother recruiting him, so Shepard doesn't know him. So what? Should we have three different Garruses now? When you reencounter him in ME2, if you acted renegade with him in ME1 and then you say "let's kick some ass", he says "glad to see you haven't changed". If you didn't recruit him, Shepard says "Garrus...Vakarian?" with a surprised voice. There, acknowledgment. The game remembers what happened in ME1. I don't know what "exploration" are you talking about, frankly, or why it deserves more than what I've just described.

"Kaidan will be (or should be) aware of how he treated female Shepard as
distinct from male Shepard in ME1, his romance with them in ME3 should also be distinct."


In your game, Femshep doesn't exist. Kaidan can't possibly know her, let alone treat her in any way.

I don't know why respecting the existing difference between Kaidan's
relationship with male Shepard and female Shepard is at the player's
"expense."


Really? I have explained it. It's because there will be people who will like better the romance reserved for the other sex, and that's lame. Have a good romance for everyone, that way people won't feel excluded. We had it with the ME1 Liaramance.

"And, yes, homosexual and heterosexual couples are inherently different.
I know that I would certainly enter a relationship with a woman very differently than I would with a man."


That's not an explanation, it's just an assertion.

"You may not feel that way...but I'm sure that Kaidan does."

Maybe that's the problem. That you are making Kaidan think what you think. You know, kinda like the people who say Kaidan is hetero so please can we not have s/s Kaidance in ME3. I'm not doing that. My point doesn't rest on what Kaidan would think or do, but on off-game reasons, that is, players and equality. By the way, Kaidan flirted only with Femshep because the game made the Kaidan romance available only to Femshep. You don't know what he would have done had the romance been available to both, as it will probably be in ME3. The game didn't allow Kaidan to say anything of that sort to Manshep, that's all. That prohibition doesn't shape his personality to the point of making him a different person. I wrote an example addressing how that difference could be implemented just in one sentence, because to me the point of the romance is who the lovers are and how their personalities connect. You ignored the example.

"For him to act like his flirtations with femShep in ME1 never happened would be a detriment to his character"

You didn't comment on my example of acknowledgment. What do you think about the difference in that sentence I wrote for you? It's strange that you're arguing against "acting like his ME1 flirtation with femshep never happened", because I took the effort to give you an specific example to acknowledge that past history, and you have simply ignored it for no reason. Please, don't argue against points nobody has made, and don't pretend like you're responding to me when you address such imaginary points. Not nice.

Modifié par Nyoka, 28 juillet 2011 - 12:02 .


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BrandNewMan wrote...

In my personal opinion, a Kaidan romance will always feel disingenuous. Neither him nor Ashley were intended to be bisexual, according to Bioware themselves

Disingenuous? Did you actually read what you quoted? They decided not to implement the romances because a) the lazy copy + paste job from opposite-sex romances obviously didn't fit in same-sex context and as writers they clearly realized gay romances would have to be rewritten which would take time and B) they didn't want to devote time to create new cut-scenes. Gay romances were deemed not important enough (because of the size of the gay community) and thus they decided not to work on them and rewrite opposite-sex romances to fit into same-sex content and create new cut-scenes. Had the gay community was not a minority, they would've done it. In the end, if it wasn't for the time constraints, Ashley and Kaidan would've been available for gay romance since ME1. So I ask you, what actually is disingenuous here? The fact that they may be available for s/s romance in ME3 even though they weren't in ME1 OR perhaps the fact they weren't available for s/s romance in ME1 in the first place solely because of the marketing reasons, because gay romances considered not worthy enough bothering as not the majority of target customers would play them?

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I'm curious. What's so obviously unfitting about this?

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Nyoka wrote...

I'm curious. What's so obviously unfitting about this?

It's not that the entire thing doesn't fit, but these are some moments. I don't know enough about FemShep/Ash to comment, but there's for example Kaidan's line before having sex with Shep when he says "Please Commander, you're making me blush...!". That's not really something I would expect him to say in male-male context. I would expect something like "Ohh stop it Shepard...! :)". And of course there are lines just plain don't work without translation. When FemShep says to Kaidan "Well well well you're a romantic! Did you sign up for The Dream Alenko?" He responds by saying he read alot of books about heroes proving themselves of the women they loved. Obviously, in the context of FemShep/Kaidan, Kaidan bring it up because he wants to hint on this romantic vision for him and his woman he's interested in - FemShep. It's a rather obvious flirt line "I wanna prove yourself worthy of you FemShep, just like heroes in cheesy old sci-fi novels! :)". Would he bring up the same example of his romantic nature when talking to ManShep? No. Because ManShep's not a woman, the analogy with old-school greek-story-archetype sci-fi books doesn't work here the way it does with FemShep. These are the little but important things that make some lines just not work in male-male context. I'm sure Ash/ManShep also have similar lines that depend heavily on gender, or are just typical for man-woman pairing/flirting and wouldn't really seem right in female-female context.

Modifié par IsaacShep, 28 juillet 2011 - 12:45 .


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So men don't blush. Okay... I guess. If you think like that.

The other thing is here (0:55). He says it in a matter-of-factly way. I have read a lot of books where the hero goes to "space" to prove himself worthy of the woman he loves, too. They're called chivalric romances. Kaidan doesn't bring it up because he wants to flirt with Femshep, he brings it up because he has just been asked if he is a romantic. And he says basically well, I used to read a lot of romantic books back in the day, so maybe I was a romantic, but I thought about after brain camp. He is simply responding to the question about him being a romantic. You're projecting into the game something that isn't there.

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They blush, but will they tell it to another man "Please you're making me blush ihihi". Not so sure. But that's my opinion, for me that line doesn't work in male-male context. As for the the books, it's obvious he said about 'proving worthy of a woman he loves' specifically to hint something to FemShep. He even makes a distinctive pause after that "or... you know... for Justice" realizing he may have been a bit too obvious. Yes, he responds about being a romantic. But the way he paraphrases and his tone when talking about 'proving worthy of a woman he loves' makes it rather clear to me he was flirting with FemShep.

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IsaacShep wrote...

"Please you're making me blush ihihi".

Whoa, a gay man perpetuating sexist stereotypes. That's pretty dissappointing.

I still think you're projecting something that isn't there, but let's grant the second one for the sake of the argument and take a step back. You're saying they're not fundamentally unfitting because you acknowledged there was nothing wrong with the video I linked. However, there are a few "moments" here and there that would need a change. Excellent, you made my original point for me. There's no need for inherently different romances; just polish those little details. We disagree on what specifically would need polishing, like this sentence about Kaidan reading novels meaning he's surreptitiously insinuating something; but we agree on the general point. The differences between hetero romances and gay romances are moments. It's not that the entire thing doesn't fit, indeed. :)

Modifié par Nyoka, 28 juillet 2011 - 01:36 .


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Nyoka wrote...

IsaacShep wrote...

"Please you're making me blush ihihi".

Whoa, a gay man perpetuating sexist stereotypes. That's pretty dissappointing.

Lul what, I was talking how the original line with FemShep sounds like. Think you're trying to find something to jump at that isn't there.

Nyoka wrote...

I still think you're projecting something that isn't there, but let's grant the second one for the sake of the argument and take a step back. You're saying they're not fundamentally unfitting because you acknowledged there was nothing wrong with the video I linked. However, there are a few "moments" here and there that would need a change. Excellent, you made my original point for me. There's no need for inherently different romances; just polish those little details. We disagree on what specifically would need polishing, like this sentence about Kaidan reading novels meaning he's surreptitiously insinuating something; but we agree on the general point. The differences between hetero romances and gay romances are moments. It's not that the entire thing doesn't fit, indeed. :)

Of course it's not that the entire thing doesn't fit, but parts don't IMO and something as small as the 'proving worthy of a woman he loves' comment is actually rather significant.

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Right. And how does she sound like, exactly? Where did you get that mocking "ihihi" from? And why exactly wouldn't a man tell another man that he is making him blush? Just because *you* wouldn't say it?

"Of course it's not that the entire thing doesn't fit"

Great, now tell that to KawaiiKatie. She disagrees with you.

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About Blushing Kaidan. He would say it in a joking context I think.

About blushing men. Thats just not the case. I make my boyfriend blush ALL the time by doing and saying stupidly embarrasingly soppy things.

The comment Kaidan makes about loving women and being a romantic however; IsaacShep is correct. It doesnt really fit the context of a MalShep/Kaidan romance. He was clearly flirting/confessing his developing feelings to FemShep by saying it.

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IsaacShep wrote...

Disingenuous? Did you actually read what you quoted? They decided not to implement the romances because a) the lazy copy + paste job from opposite-sex romances obviously didn't fit in same-sex context and as writers they clearly realized gay romances would have to be rewritten which would take time and B) they didn't want to devote time to create new cut-scenes. Gay romances were deemed not important enough (because of the size of the gay community) and thus they decided not to work on them and rewrite opposite-sex romances to fit into same-sex content and create new cut-scenes. Had the gay community was not a minority, they would've done it. In the end, if it wasn't for the time constraints, Ashley and Kaidan would've been available for gay romance since ME1. So I ask you, what actually is disingenuous here? The fact that they may be available for s/s romance in ME3 even though they weren't in ME1 OR perhaps the fact they weren't available for s/s romance in ME1 in the first place solely because of the marketing reasons, because gay romances considered not worthy enough bothering as not the majority of target customers would play them?


There were two decisions not to make them bisexual. First when initially writing the characters, and second when they saw they had the opportunity to change it. It would be disingenuous because it would go against the initial creative decision to make them straight. It wasn't until the game was well into development that they decided that it wasn't worth it financially.

Regardless, I wouldn't take a huge issue with it in ME3, especially if it's written well. Make it feel like a natural evolution of their characters and it won't be a big deal.

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IsaacShep wrote...
but there's for example Kaidan's line before having sex with Shep when he says "Please Commander, you're making me blush...!".

What dialogue choices lead to that line?

Because I've watched like 8 different videos of the Kaidan sex scene (all with femshep) and I haven't seen him say that. I even double checked that all of the dialogue options were being picked and still no blushing...

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Jimmy Fury wrote...

IsaacShep wrote...
but there's for example Kaidan's line before having sex with Shep when he says "Please Commander, you're making me blush...!".

What dialogue choices lead to that line?

Because I've watched like 8 different videos of the Kaidan sex scene (all with femshep) and I haven't seen him say that. I even double checked that all of the dialogue options were being picked and still no blushing...


I don't remember it either, trying to find it in the maleShep videos now... 

Edit: Here we go:

clicky!

It's actually from the fourth and final romance conversation (so before Ilos).

Modifié par ElitePinecone, 28 juillet 2011 - 05:15 .


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ElitePinecone wrote...
I don't remember it either, trying to find it in the maleShep videos now... 

Edit: Here we go:

clicky!

It's actually from the fourth and final romance conversation (so before Ilos).

Ah ok. Got confused when you said it was right before they had sex.

I actually wanted to see if the giggle you added was there and... no. It's not. So yeah I have to go with the others on that line. It works fine in a m/m context.

Please correct me if I'm wrong but I almost get the impression that you'd want to Kaidan to be the dominant half of the relationship...

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Jimmy Fury wrote...

ElitePinecone wrote...
I don't remember it either, trying to find it in the maleShep videos now... 

Edit: Here we go:

clicky!

It's actually from the fourth and final romance conversation (so before Ilos).

Ah ok. Got confused when you said it was right before they had sex.

I actually wanted to see if the giggle you added was there and... no. It's not. So yeah I have to go with the others on that line. It works fine in a m/m context.

Please correct me if I'm wrong but I almost get the impression that you'd want to Kaidan to be the dominant half of the relationship...


Well, the "ihihi" I'm sure was an exaggeration that was trying to get across the almost-giggly way his tone sounded.

Also, where exactly did you pull the "You'd want Kaiden to be the dominant half of the relationship" from?  I feel like that's an unnecessary perpetuation of sterotypes.  :mellow:

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BrandNewMan wrote...

There were two decisions not to make them bisexual. First when initially writing the characters, and second when they saw they had the opportunity to change it. It would be disingenuous because it would go against the initial creative decision to make them straight. It wasn't until the game was well into development that they decided that it wasn't worth it financially.

Initial creative decision? Against their vision of the characters? Remind us what was the ultimate reason they were not available for s/s romances? You've said it yourself. It was because they've considered it not worthy financially. It doesn't matter if bisexuality wasn't part of their characters from the beginning. Characters evolve during developement process all the time. Eventually, the idea of bisexuality appeared and it wasn't abandoned because of creative vision. They were deemed compatible with bisexuality. The idea was abandoned because making it work was considered not worthy enough financially. Purely marketing/economics reasons.

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IsaacShep wrote...

BrandNewMan wrote...

There were two decisions not to make them bisexual. First when initially writing the characters, and second when they saw they had the opportunity to change it. It would be disingenuous because it would go against the initial creative decision to make them straight. It wasn't until the game was well into development that they decided that it wasn't worth it financially.

Initial creative decision? Against their vision of the characters? Remind us what was the ultimate reason they were not available for s/s romances? You've said it yourself. It was because they've considered it not worthy financially. It doesn't matter if bisexuality wasn't part of their characters from the beginning. Characters evolve during developement process all the time. Eventually, the idea of bisexuality appeared and it wasn't abandoned because of creative vision. They were deemed compatible with bisexuality. The idea was abandoned because making it work was considered not worthy enough financially. Purely marketing/economics reasons.


Characters typically don't significantly evolve after all the writing, voice acting, and cutscenes are completed. They're well established by that point.

And just because they considered the possibility of making them bisexual, doesn't mean they considered it a valid option that they wanted to pursue. It was a brief discussion of "can we do this? should we?" and while time and money gave them a negative answer, there isn't anything that indicated they wanted to go that route even if it WAS possible.

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Markun120 wrote...

Jimmy Fury wrote...

ElitePinecone wrote...
I don't remember it either, trying to find it in the maleShep videos now... 

Edit: Here we go:

clicky!

It's actually from the fourth and final romance conversation (so before Ilos).

Ah ok. Got confused when you said it was right before they had sex.

I actually wanted to see if the giggle you added was there and... no. It's not. So yeah I have to go with the others on that line. It works fine in a m/m context.

Please correct me if I'm wrong but I almost get the impression that you'd want to Kaidan to be the dominant half of the relationship...

Well, the "ihihi" I'm sure was an exaggeration that was trying to get across the almost-giggly way his tone sounded.

Also, where exactly did you pull the "You'd want Kaiden to be the dominant half of the relationship" from?  I feel like that's an unnecessary perpetuation of sterotypes.  :mellow:

I said they were free to correct me if the idea was incorrect. Although I did think I was replying to Isaac... too many people with Kaidan avatars.
But to clarify, the "ihihi" itself is what made me think of that.
Adding that suggests, to me because I read into things way too much, that Isaac saw the blushing line as sheepish. Sheepishness is indicative of a less dominant personality. I don't mean sexually dominant I mean personality. Alpha versus Beta.
To that end the claim that a sheepish line is somehow not befitting of Kaidan if and only if Kaidan is in a relationship with a male, suggests the perception that in such a relationship Isaac either wants or believes Kaidan should be a more dominant personality.
But I would remind you, again, that I said it was meerly my impression and quite likely incorrect. I tend to read too deeply into things, especially when we're discussing the  so called "inherent differences" between gay and straight relationships.
Sadly what made me excell in my psych classes isn't very helpful in social situations... :?

Modifié par Jimmy Fury, 28 juillet 2011 - 08:33 .


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@the discussion on the 'dominant' character - no, I didn't even think about Kaidan needing a more dominant character. To me blushing line was just a bit too sugary in the male-male context. Guys tend to be more a bit more direct & less hmmm... "sweet/romantic-talk" with each other. Like when Kaidan talks to ManShep about Liara for example, he says it bluntly to that she's "easy on the eyes". He doesn't say that to FemShep, instead he says "seems like a sweet/nice girl".

BrandNewMan wrote...

Characters typically don't significantly evolve after all the writing, voice acting, and cutscenes are completed. They're well established by that point.

And it seems BioWare writers understand bisexuality wasn't really anything that was incompatible with what they've already written for the characters.

BrandNewMan wrote...

And just because they considered the possibility of making them bisexual, doesn't mean they considered it a valid option that they wanted to pursue. It was a brief discussion of "can we do this? should we?" and while time and money gave them a negative answer, there isn't anything that indicated they wanted to go that route even if it WAS possible.

And the answer to "can we do this? should we?" was "no because it would take resources/time for something that won't give lots of financial benefit due to small numbers of gay players". The answer wasn't "nah, Kaidan and Ashley are incompatible with bisexuality".

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Both the story and the fictional characters are rarely "pre-defined", they develop over time to suit their purpose, which, in this case, is to entertain the player. Did the writers intend for Tali and Garrus to be romanceable from "the start"? - Very unlikely, but who cares? The characters became very popular and BioWare listened to the fans.

Assuming the writers are heterosexual men, it's unlikely they were thinking about a bi-sexual Kaiden from "conception".  But there is absolutely no reason why the character couldn't realistically be portrayed as bisexual, for the game to be more fun for more people.

Modifié par Arik7, 28 juillet 2011 - 10:25 .


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