ChaplainTappman wrote...
This is especially so in a thread dedicated to a character that, thus far, we've only been able to romance as mShep.
Well, yes. That's exactly my point. The Ashley thread assumes that Shepard is male, because most people who are into Ashley are into romancing Ashley and play mostly male Shepards. If you go to the Kaidan or Garrus thread, you'll notice the same thing; they largely assume Shepard is female, because they largely play female Shepards. (I imagine it's a bit chicken-and-egg whether they like that character and romance enough to be a thread regular because they play that gender or play that gender in order to access that character and romance; doesn't really matter either way).
However, if you go to the DA2 forums and hang out on the Merrill thread, or the Anders thread, they play every which Hawke. Some of their Hawkes are dudes, some of their Hawkes are ladies, it doesn't break down by thread in the least.
Because people tend to be fannish in ways as close to game canon as possible, and in DA2 a Merrillmance or Andersmance is every bit as canon with either gender. So fans of those characters are likely to consider Hawke every bit as canon in either gender.
As someone who sees both characters as female due to my own play history, the DA2 threads feel a lot more welcoming to me. They're talking about the same game I played. The Ashley thread generally isn't; they're talking about some Sheploo guy I've never met. It's like if this thread were half about s/s romance in the ME series, and half about characters from Fatal Frame. How interested in the conversation would you be if people were always talking about a bunch of names that meant nothing to you and posting pictures of characters you'd never played?