Bundalings wrote...
Agreed, even if he is the only gay guy for Shep in the game, the fact that he was married is a very good thing. Well, it is sad that his husband died, but still. I hope the character is otherwise compelling and likable.
Funny thing, they even mention that Steve and Robert lived in New York. I thought that was pretty topical.
From everything I've read of them, Bioware's writers are a pretty liberal bunch. Not a cabal of culture warriors, per se, but definitely sympathetic to causes like feminism and lgbt rights.
If I had to take a guess, giving the player an NPC who is not only indispensable, but gay and formerly married, is a bit of an 'up yours' to the people who complain so loudly about everything that isn't straight as an arrow.
Or it might just be overkill. No gay/lesbian references for two games? Sure, chuck in a gay-married gay shuttle pilot who happens to be exclusively gay. Did we mention he's gay? Because, y'know, that's important.
Re: marriage in the Alliance generally.
Karpyshyn and Walters (along with the other writers, particularly those pre-ME) established the Systems Alliance as something of a liberal paradise. It tends to be far more egaltarian, rule-of-law-based and cosmopolitan than many of the nations it left behind back on Earth. I would've said they made it into a space-Canada, but I'm from Australia and I know pretty much nothing about Canada.
We see things like freedom of religion (and freedom from religion) are encoded in Alliance regs. Shepard can't tell Ashley to stop believing in whatever she believes in, but neither is there any overt religiosity in much of the dialogue.
(Although, strangely, Mac seems to pepper his writing with 'Goodamnit' and 'Oh, God!', even in the ME3 script, if I'm reading it correctly)
Clearly the Alliance allows same-sex marriage, and although the games would never go into it, I wouldn't be surprised if other areas like adoption were similarly enlightened.