MegaBadExample wrote...
Ashley and my Shepard have so much in common, that I can't see him with anybody else because of that "matching baggage". There's gonna be times when they're both moody/emotional as hell because of losing their squads, and they understand.
Indeed.
See, the reason why I think Ash & Shepard have a really healthy relationship (in meaning of: unbreakable) is: it comes with more layers. They're not just a "matching set" - they're more than that.
Layers of relationshipEvery normal relationship may (or may not) start on a friendship level. You like a person and at some point, the mutual interest grow into more. You come together - bam: friendship turns into love.
Sometimes that friendship-stage is missing - you find a person you're interested in, you talk to him or her, realize s/he is interesting to talk to, you have a couple of dates and if everything works out, you and that person end as a couple.
Two standard ways.
Well, in case of Ashley and Shepard it's quite different.
They met each other under dire circumstances: Shepard had just lost a man under his command and is about to stumble in an amazing but horrifying adventure that's going to change his life and the entire galaxy's fate. Of course, he doesn't know it yet. Ashley just had lost her entire unit and is one of few survivors of the colony - she feels guilty of losing her unit - survivor's guilt.
After accepting her as part of the crew, she and Shepard are comrades. As a good captain he tries to keep up the good mood and tells to his crew frequently. And at some point, comradeship evolves into friendship. Well, technically that's wrong: both paths exist at the same time, so they're comrades AND friends.
Friendship slowly turns into close friendship with the lingering feeling of "something deeper" - that's the point when Ash shares some of her secrets and up to the locker scene (if you avoided the confrontation with Liara!) That's the point when their comradeship and friendship got extented to romantic love.
At this point, THREE different layers are keeping them together: comradeship, friendship and love. Which is unique - under normal circumstances, at least one of those layers gets replaced by another one. But in case of our favorite couple, they continue to exist.
I think I also sensed a fourth layer, but that one is hard to prove since it never happens in the game. That's the one where headcanon comes in play: Ashley and Shepard are soulmates.
SoulmatesIt's not too unusual to see two lovers who're also soulmates. Those relationships don't die that easily, if they die, you can expect a lot of damage done. And to kill such relationship, one has to do a big mistake, like cheating on the partner.
Ash & Shepard are such soulmates. It's nearly purely headcanon since we see only a very limited portion of this part of their relationship. ME3 fails in this field - it simply shows nothing - but ME1 had some hints. Like Ashley showing up in the moment when Shepard was beaten (locker scene). On a lesser extend, their similar mindset (both are loyal soldiers 'though Shepard's loyalty is NOT the same like Ashley's) proves it as well.
In a way, one partner knows what the other desires and vice versa. Ashley shows up when Shepard needs her most (ME3 fails here: the Fall of Thessia was his darkest hour and yet he had to comfort Liara and does not receive ANY comfort from Ash). As I said, in ME1 it was the locker scene. Spending the night before Ilos with him is another proof (or gameplay mechanics, if you want that). In ME2, she put some sense in his mind (just in case the player has forgotten who Shepard truly is) and in ME3 - well, at least BW didn't mess up the romantic climax scene.
Whew.
So much text and so little new.