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Merrill. Despite what people want to believe, she's not an idiot. She's very astute and sometimes poses philosophical questions.

One being her question to Marethari, "And who am I?", which brings to mind the work of Soren Kierkegaard. He was a Danish philosopher that posed similar questions and gave statements regarding selfhood and individuality.

Another instance being where she consoles Hawke after Leandra's death. She tells Hawke that Leandra could be with the Maker or with Falon'Din, and no one really knows the truth on the matter regarding any divine being.

I don't know if that could be called philosophical, but it's certainly smart.

Never mind how well versed in the arcane she is.

Now, I'll certainly admit we don't see enough of smart Merrill. But it's not like we don't see it at all. That's why if we get more DAII DLC -- something I highly doubt though -- I hope they include banter and dialogue with Merrill that shows her smart side more in areas outside of -- but not excluding -- the arcane.

I love silly Merrill, but I think we do need more smart Merrill to be evident.

Oh, and I also romanced Anders for my one FemHawke many months ago. Never again will I rival Anders and be pro-mage. He acted as if I was anti-mage when really I was just anti-Anders.

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The Ethereal Writer Redux wrote...

Merrill. Despite what people want to believe, she's not an idiot. She's very astute and sometimes poses philosophical questions.

One being her question to Marethari, "And who am I?", which brings to mind the work of Soren Kierkegaard. He was a Danish philosopher that posed similar questions and gave statements regarding selfhood and individuality.

Another instance being where she consoles Hawke after Leandra's death. She tells Hawke that Leandra could be with the Maker or with Falon'Din, and no one really knows the truth on the matter regarding any divine being.

I don't know if that could be called philosophical, but it's certainly smart.

Never mind how well versed in the arcane she is.

Now, I'll certainly admit we don't see enough of smart Merrill. But it's not like we don't see it at all. That's why if we get more DAII DLC -- something I highly doubt though -- I hope they include banter and dialogue with Merrill that shows her smart side more in areas outside of -- but not excluding -- the arcane.

I love silly Merrill, but I think we do need more smart Merrill to be evident.

Oh, and I also romanced Anders for my one FemHawke many months ago. Never again will I rival Anders and be pro-mage. He acted as if I was anti-mage when really I was just anti-Anders.


I'll have to try the Merril romance. I've never thought of her as stupid, but she is very rash. 

I agree that it is really annoying that Anders assumes you are anti-mage even if you are pro-mage. But I expect he is like this because he is crazy. Especially in Act 3. 

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Kavatica wrote...

:D<3


You're a lovely person, seriously.  My last post came across as totally douchey =/

Anyway, I did end up romancing Fenris with my power-hungry mage, at one point.  He is very interesting character, and it was interesting to see how he reacted to a mage who could be responsible with a lot of power.  I also respect that he never moves in with Hawke in order to retain his independence.  That was pretty awesome.  Broody is a bit too much for me, possibly because I am that way myself.

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My canon Hawke(My avatar) romanced Isabela. I enjoyed her character quite a lot. She's so hilarious, and it's even more funnier if you play as a sarcastic Hawke.

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Kavatica wrote...

I'll have to try the Merril romance. I've never thought of her as stupid, but she is very rash. 


I've never seen her acting rash in the game. Rash means she acted hastily, but there isn't a moment in-game where she acted hastily.

All in all though, the romance is definitely worth it. I can understand how people may have a tough time romancing her because they view her more as the adorable sister type then the romanceable type, but the Friendship romance is very endearing.

I personally detest the Rivalry path, as it makes her feel like she can't trust anyone as a result.

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NovinhaShepard wrote...

Kavatica wrote...

:D<3


You're a lovely person, seriously.  My last post came across as totally douchey =/

Anyway, I did end up romancing Fenris with my power-hungry mage, at one point.  He is very interesting character, and it was interesting to see how he reacted to a mage who could be responsible with a lot of power.  I also respect that he never moves in with Hawke in order to retain his independence.  That was pretty awesome.  Broody is a bit too much for me, possibly because I am that way myself.




It wasn't douchey. It was funny (and true). Fen has a whole Twilight thing going on. I think David Gaider even said that. Personally, I preferred the romances in DAO. I think my first playthrough I was actually really annoyed because I didn't want to romance anyone. But Fenris grew on me. 

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The Ethereal Writer Redux wrote...

Kavatica wrote...

I'll have to try the Merril romance. I've never thought of her as stupid, but she is very rash. 


I've never seen her acting rash in the game. Rash means she acted hastily, but there isn't a moment in-game where she acted hastily.

All in all though, the romance is definitely worth it. I can understand how people may have a tough time romancing her because they view her more as the adorable sister type then the romanceable type, but the Friendship romance is very endearing.

I personally detest the Rivalry path, as it makes her feel like she can't trust anyone as a result.


She runs around casting blood magic willy-nilly the first time she meets Hawke. I think that's why I see her as rash...she doesn't appear to be thinking her actions through too much. I'm not saying she is stupid, but she doesn't appear to weigh the consequences of her actions before she makes them. I find this frustrating...and it makes it hard for me to feel sorry for her. I like her, I do. But I find that half the time when she is sad and weepy in the game I just want to say "Well, what did you expect would happen?" Maybe this is why I end up thinking of her as a little sister. She lives in this little fantasy world where she refuses to face reality. It's endearing and frustrating all at the same time.

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Kavatica wrote...

She runs around casting blood magic willy-nilly the first time she meets Hawke.


If you mean the barrier, the way I saw it blood magic was the only way that barrier could be taken down. Risky yes to do it in front of strangers, but ultimately necessary for them to move forward and fulfill their obligation towards Flemeth.

And I wouldn't say she didn't weigh the consequences of those actions. We don't know what was going through her head when she was about to perform such an action. She could've been very apprehensive about doing so, but knew she had to.

Of course, that's only how I saw it. It may be that blood magic wasn't the only means of taking the barrier down, but then this is never elaborated on. And I'm sure if there was another method to take it down, she would've done so instead of using blood magic.

If you mean all throughout the trek up the mountain, she doesn't cast blood magic until the aforementioned barrier. Up until that point, she's using normal magic. Mostly bolts from her staff IIRC.


I think that's why I see her as rash...she doesn't appear to be thinking her actions through too much. I'm not saying she is stupid, but she doesn't appear to weigh the consequences of her actions before she makes them. I find this frustrating...and it makes it hard for me to feel sorry for her. I like her, I do. But I find that half the time when she is sad and weepy in the game I just want to say "Well, what did you expect would happen?" Maybe this is why I end up thinking of her as a little sister. She lives in this little fantasy world where she refuses to face reality. It's endearing and frustrating all at the same time.



All of her emotions are completely logical though. When she's "weepy", it's not without sufficient reason. Pol was more afraid of her then he was of a crazed Varterral that had already killed 3 members of the clan.

It'd be no different then a person running away from you and into the lion's den -- that ate a few people already -- because they see you as a greater threat, based on a pack of lies someone told them about you. How would that make you feel, to know that you are anathema to a bunch of people based on lies? The most likely reactions you'd have are those of anger and sorrow.

She's only upset when things she could never have predicted happen and have such horrifying consequences that anyone would be upset by them. Pol running into the arms of a Varterral because he's more afraid of her isn't something she could've known would happen. Marethari setting the demon that was trapped for centuries and would continue to be trapped isn't something she could've seen happening. Her emotions are entirely logical.

She weighed the consequences of her actions just fine IMO. Because they were her choices to make, and thus she should suffer the consequences. No one else.

If I drive drunk -- hopefully I never will -- then the consequences are mine to bear. Not my mother's. Not my sibling's. Not my friends'. They're mine.

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Isabella on my male. Fenris on my female.

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So far:

Female Rogue - Anders (friend)
Female Mage - Fenris (friend)

Planned:

Male Warrior - Anders (rival) > this will be my only Pro-Templar character (for the achievements), so I might as well go full throttle and rival Anders, since it's the only way I'll ever get to try it out
Female Mage - Anders (friend) > to get rid of the bad vibes I'll undoubtedly be left with from the previous character

I can't stand Isabela, Merrill or Sebastian, so I've no inclination to romance either of them. And while I do genuinely like Fenris, Anders still makes the most sense to me.

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Female Mage: I romanced Anders. I liked him until he killed all those people in the Chantry. :C

Male Rouge: Merrill was my romance and I enjoyed her cute personality. The whole demon worshiping, blood mage is a bit of a turnoff though....

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The Ethereal Writer Redux wrote...

Kavatica wrote...

She runs around casting blood magic willy-nilly the first time she meets Hawke.


If you mean the barrier, the way I saw it blood magic was the only way that barrier could be taken down. Risky yes to do it in front of strangers, but ultimately necessary for them to move forward and fulfill their obligation towards Flemeth.

And I wouldn't say she didn't weigh the consequences of those actions. We don't know what was going through her head when she was about to perform such an action. She could've been very apprehensive about doing so, but knew she had to.

Of course, that's only how I saw it. It may be that blood magic wasn't the only means of taking the barrier down, but then this is never elaborated on. And I'm sure if there was another method to take it down, she would've done so instead of using blood magic.

If you mean all throughout the trek up the mountain, she doesn't cast blood magic until the aforementioned barrier. Up until that point, she's using normal magic. Mostly bolts from her staff IIRC.


I think that's why I see her as rash...she doesn't appear to be thinking her actions through too much. I'm not saying she is stupid, but she doesn't appear to weigh the consequences of her actions before she makes them. I find this frustrating...and it makes it hard for me to feel sorry for her. I like her, I do. But I find that half the time when she is sad and weepy in the game I just want to say "Well, what did you expect would happen?" Maybe this is why I end up thinking of her as a little sister. She lives in this little fantasy world where she refuses to face reality. It's endearing and frustrating all at the same time.



All of her emotions are completely logical though. When she's "weepy", it's not without sufficient reason. Pol was more afraid of her then he was of a crazed Varterral that had already killed 3 members of the clan.

It'd be no different then a person running away from you and into the lion's den -- that ate a few people already -- because they see you as a greater threat, based on a pack of lies someone told them about you. How would that make you feel, to know that you are anathema to a bunch of people based on lies? The most likely reactions you'd have are those of anger and sorrow.

She's only upset when things she could never have predicted happen and have such horrifying consequences that anyone would be upset by them. Pol running into the arms of a Varterral because he's more afraid of her isn't something she could've known would happen. Marethari setting the demon that was trapped for centuries and would continue to be trapped isn't something she could've seen happening. Her emotions are entirely logical.

She weighed the consequences of her actions just fine IMO. Because they were her choices to make, and thus she should suffer the consequences. No one else.

If I drive drunk -- hopefully I never will -- then the consequences are mine to bear. Not my mother's. Not my sibling's. Not my friends'. They're mine.


Yes Pol overreacted. But I still believe that the clan was justified in treating Merrill bad. She has been told since birth what it means to be a Keeper and the dangers that come with it. Yet she lies to Anders about "spirits being people like us". What a crock of &%#!. Her people know how dangerous demons are. Working with a demon to make a mirror work is not productive for her people in the HERE AND NOW. I mean she wasn't even that aware of her other Eleves in the Alienage because she was working on that stupid mirror. Merrill is a stubborn prideful fool who should have ignored the demon the moment it talked to her. I really liked it when Anders told her off about how she doesn't know Spirits, she knows DEMONS. Innately evil creatures that should be ignored the moment they start talking to you :(

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I have five playthroughs. The first one I had a Fenris rivalmance with a mage, and I really liked it. I romanced Isabela twice (once as a friend and once as a rival) and also liked it. I think the friendship path makes for the better romance, but if I'm playing a character who isn't romancing her then rivalry is the way to go because it helps her to become a better person and think about the consequences of her actions. I rivalmanced Anders twice, once as a templar-supporting mage and one as a mage who could care less about the political situation and just wants to look out for her family. The former ended up getting Anders to side with the templars, which made me feel horrible. The latter ended up siding with the mages and ran away with him, which left a sour taste in my mouth (there's no option to confront him about what he did? really, Bioware?) I keep telling myself that I'll eventually do a Friendship romance with him, but I find the rivalry path to be so much more entertaining (and I adore the final conversation you have with Justice).

I can never bring myself to romance Merrill, though. She feels too much like a little sister. Maybe one day.

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Who do I romance?
None.

I did try to direct Hawke to flirt Merril but it never develops into romance relationship due to one way interaction.Every time I was free from quest, she ( and every other companions ) never wants to talk more than what is already been said. But when I was about to complete the main quest, she would sent mail or journal entries requesting to meet Hawke. By that time, it always too late, I no longer have the agency to talk to her and I will not turn back. As soon as I completed the expedition, it's become obvious Hawke will not be able to romance anyone.Not that I care since romance option is useless to me when I do not have the emotion or focus to sufficiently play Hawke's role ( due to how the story and PC's interaction been done in DA 2 ).

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Female warrior- slept with Isabella, flitered with Tallis, but romanced Merrill
Male mage- I plan on romancing Isabella, but haven't got that far yet

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Merrill and no one else. The best character in the game!

Fenris: to much hate!
Anders: to much of everything! Also thinks his heart hasn't room enough for yet another one!
Isabella: what for? Chlamlydia is not my kind of hobby! Nice gift wrap otherwise an empty shell.
Sebastian: a complete joke - the bad kind! So I rather cry my self to sleep alone!
Tallis: Why? One hour gaming so she is a no go... Not time enough to get to know her...

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But...Princes are sexy. So Sebastian :o)
Sure you can end up Viscount of Kirkwall, but why no take over Starkhaven too?

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 I've romanced everyone except for Merril and liked Isabela's the best. 

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I can't remember if I posted in this thread or if it was another one in the past, oh well, too many posts to go through anyway.

I've always friendmanced Anders, I've wanted him since Awakening.

As for my pro-templar mage Hawke (Just for the bloody achievement!) I can't decide between Isabela or Fenris, both will more than likely be friendmanced. Probably Isabela since she's so funny.

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Poshible wrote...

But...Princes are sexy. So Sebastian :o)
Sure you can end up Viscount of Kirkwall, but why no take over Starkhaven too?


I wouldn't not live in either city anyway - you can keep both of them!

Sexy?? Okay - perhaps bacause he want to touch Bianca's cocking ring?

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@The Ethereal Writer Redux - I know you support Merrill and go the friendship path but do you actually support her use of blood magic or do you know what she is doing is playing with fire and just don't want to come down on her because she needs support (basically you feel she will react badly to "tough love")?

I have not finished the game but I will romance Merrill. But it will be a rival romance. I have to be tough on her blood magic use because I feel it is just wrong. Everywhere in the Dragon Age universe where blood magic is discussed/shown, it is ALWAYS negative. No grey area, it always leads to disaster. Bioware has made it clear that going down that path is never good. Even Morrigan frowns on blood magic. She's too smart to know only fools make deals with demons.

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..."Princes are sexy" is the god awful line FemHawke uses on him when trying to get him to go back to Starkhaven.

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Poshible wrote...

..."Princes are sexy" is the god awful line FemHawke uses on him when trying to get him to go back to Starkhaven.


Wy bother let him rott in the chantry if that is what he wants - That is sexy regardless his status!

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first time Anders until i killed him, and on my second playthrough it was Fenris and shall romance him in the future again. always! ;)

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keesio74 wrote...

@The Ethereal Writer Redux - I know you support Merrill and go the friendship path but do you actually support her use of blood magic or do you know what she is doing is playing with fire and just don't want to come down on her because she needs support (basically you feel she will react badly to "tough love")?

I have not finished the game but I will romance Merrill. But it will be a rival romance. I have to be tough on her blood magic use because I feel it is just wrong. Everywhere in the Dragon Age universe where blood magic is discussed/shown, it is ALWAYS negative. No grey area, it always leads to disaster. Bioware has made it clear that going down that path is never good. Even Morrigan frowns on blood magic. She's too smart to know only fools make deals with demons.


I support her use of blood magic, as she's shown that she stays away from the darker aspects which leads to the repercussions. And in retrospect, maybe some of what you said. Hearing about how he should do some "tough love" -- from my Hawkes' point of view -- may just cause the harm that he doesn't want to happen.

She only uses her blood to power her spells and no one else's. She thinks that using anyone else's blood -- willing or not -- is ghastly. She finds raising the dead to be ghastly as well.

She's shown herself to be a capable master of the arcane and she plays it safe against demons, trying to trick them before she's tricked herself. Rivalry, A.K.A "tough love" -- the equivalent of emotional abuse -- may cause her to become an Abomination.

I realize it doesn't happen, but from a roleplaying perspective it might and telling Merrill she doesn't know what she's doing -- when she shows a few times that she can outwit demons and proclaims her hatred of the horrific uses of blood magic -- and that everyone's hatred of her is justified will lead to emotional damage, which increases the odds of her becoming an Abomination.

But it's mostly supporting blood magic, rather then going "Being tough on her might just be worse for her, so let's friend her". The latter is merely a secondary aspect -- and a small one at that -- for why my Hawkes Friend her.

And not necessarily. Not every blood mage has had something negative happen to them. At least, not in relation to their use of blood magic.

Malcolm Hawke used blood magic to help bind Corypheus for another 30 years. Granted, he forswore ever doing it again so long as he lived, but nothing bad came of his use of it there.

Jowan has had ill fortune fall on him, but that's not due to his blood magic. Well, not entirely. What happened in Redcliffe had nothing to do with his being a mage, save for why he did what he did. But any non-mage could've poisoned Eamon just as easily as Jowan did, and the events would've been the same. Additionally, Jowan -- if set loose from Redcliffe's dungeons and told to never return -- becomes a guardian to refugees from the Blight, defending them.

Morrigan even used blood magic once. The Dark Ritual. She says that it can be called such. Whether it truly is is a matter of interpretation, but she was fine to do such a thing. So logically, if it was a form of blood magic she didn't mind doing it.

The Joining -- both the Warden one and the Reaver one -- is a form of blood magic. Blood magic has helped to defeat the Darkspawn several times over. Without blood magic, the Wardens wouldn't exist.

I don't even know if one can consider Merrill to be a true blood mage, given that she only uses it two times -- before she met Hawke to amplify her healing powers that she was taught by Marethari, and to open a barrier when Hawke meets her.

One can easily set her tactics to make her never perform any blood magic.

Of course, this is all because we're never told or shown that she uses blood magic in the interim years, so that's why I think of it as such.

Additionally, the demon Merrill was dealing with was trapped in a demonic Buddha statue for centuries and would continue to be trapped for more centuries unless it was freed by a powerful spell -- which Merrill makes clear to an aggressive Hawke she has no intention of doing.

I will never rival Merrill because it makes it so that she can't trust anyone in the world, save for herself (her Rivalry bonus description). And that borders on emotional abuse, if it isn't such a thing. As I said, emotionally abusing her makes her trust no one and may lead to demons possessing her.

In the end, blood magic is merely a tool, same as any other type of magic. Is it prone to abuse? Yes. More so then other schools? Yea. But it all depends on the mage, not the magic itself. Merrill doesn't abuse the school of blood magic in her life, nor does she show any inclination to want to do so. She knows what she's doing, despite what people think.

So telling her she's wrong, that the people that hate her are justified in their hatred of her, and that she doesn't know what she's doing will do more harm then good in the long run, IMO.

I had another thing I wanted to say, but I forgot it

Now I remember! I wanted to say that all of the bad things that happen to Merrill can be traced back to the stigma against blood magic and Marethari specifically, rather then blood magic itself.



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Yes Pol overreacted. But I still believe that the clan was justified in treating Merrill bad. She has been told since birth what it means to be a Keeper and the dangers that come with it. Yet she lies to Anders about "spirits being people like us". What a crock of &%#!. Her people know how dangerous demons are. Working with a demon to make a mirror work is not productive for her people in the HERE AND NOW. I mean she wasn't even that aware of her other Eleves in the Alienage because she was working on that stupid mirror. Merrill is a stubborn prideful fool who should have ignored the demon the moment it talked to her. I really liked it when Anders told her off about how she doesn't know Spirits, she knows DEMONS. Innately evil creatures that should be ignored the moment they start talking to you Image IPB


Sorry, but you're wrong.

When she says that there's no such thing as a safe spirit, she classifies all denizens of the Fade as what they should be classified as: spirits. The lowercase 's' signifies all denizens, while a capital 'S' signifies the safer denizens like Valor and Faith.

Safer, not safe. They are still dangerous.

Merrill uses the lowercase form of spirits when she talks about the Fade's denizens. She doesn't call Demons "Spirits". She calls them "spirits".

Gaider -- and an in-game codex author -- have said that all denizens of the Fade are spirits.

Typically, we misuse the term "spirit" to refer only to the benign, or at least less malevolent, creatures of the Fade, but in truth, all the denizens of the realm beyond the Veil are spirits.

--From Beyond the Veil: Spirits and Demons, by Enchanter Mirdromel.


And Merrill's not wrong on the fact that the spirits of the Fade are like humanity. Humanity has its good eggs and its bad eggs. She even adds to her statement that it's a more-or-less type of scenario, and not a perfect comparison.

The difference -- and Merrill is aware of this -- is that the denizens of the Fade are not complex creatures. They focus on one facet of a person's persona and embody it fully, be it dark or light. But in the end, they're similar to humanity.

Similar, but not the same.

Again, good eggs and bad eggs. Of a different sort and on a different scale, but the comparison -- albeit not a perfect one, which again Merrill recognizes -- is valid.

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