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[Aeowyn]

Naughty Bear wrote...

Skinny or fat, glasses, nerdy, very very small eyes, know Karate or any other martial art and bad English. TV shows and movies really don't help either (Hangover Asian guy Chow, the Asian reporter on Family guy, Asian kid on American dad), i could carry on if you want.

Jet Li and Jackie are badass and everything but it still does not help the stereotype of an Asians (knowing Kung Fu).

But i generally think its the Asian features of the Asian male that puts the women off. When i was younger i fit the stereotype very well, skinny, don't know martial arts, glasses and nerdy. Now that i am older i workout, don't wear glasses, still nerdy i guess and  i am not fat. I am self-conscience when i look in the mirror.

Lucky bastard.

I have to say, if people don't date you because they have some sick stereotype in their head they don't deserve to date you anyway. Work on your confidence, and don't define yourself by your origins.

[Naughty Bear]

Society is run by appearence, if your good looking you get what you want, money helps as well. Maybe i am good looking to girls or maybe i am not but the Caucasian male with blonde hair and blue eyes will always get the girl.

Modifié par Naughty Bear, 23 juin 2011 - 02:56 .

[KenKenpachi]

Naughty Bear wrote...

Society is run by appearence, if your good looking you get what you want, money helps as well. Maybe i am good looking to girls or maybe i am not but the Caucasian male with blonde hair and blue eyes will always get the girl.

Thats bull**** son, fed by the media and general society and you know what, how many of those people who copy that **** are happy? 2, 3...5? out of 100? I've seen alot of those people who live that way and 55% if not more of them end up having misserable meaningless lives, divoriced or the spouce is cheating. You have some self esteem issues thats for sure. And no woman thats worth her salt will want a guy who looks moopy or down on himself.

**** as to the Blonde hair blue eyes crap, thats a sign of recesive genetics. Not a good thing by and large. Also Such people make up an extremly small percent of the population. Most people on this planet would have more in common looks wise with you, than an SS poster boy. You also may be going after the wrong girls, some people just in there words "prefer there own kind." And honestly in your case and anyones case, arn't worth the salt they are made of. But such people now by and large won't say such to your face. Why I don't mind my region, you can tell whos in the KKK black Panthers or La Raza just by talking to em. Still don't like them but least you know what knife is at your throat and not behind closed doors.

Modifié par KenKenpachi, 23 juin 2011 - 03:05 .

[Fizzeler]

What I can say is women look for people they enjoy to spend time with (never been in a relationship myself), most of the time these guys are decent gents who enjoy the others company.

As a "nice/good guy" myself and coming from advice I heard from friends and others confidence is the key for both the girl who can't get the guy she wants or vice-versa

Unfortunately I lack enough confidence to act through on my crushes

[Chuvvy]

Because our genetic make up still thinks we're out in the jungle fighting off lions and tigers and stuff like that. It doesn't realize that those things aren't problems. So women flock to the biggest toughest guy for protection because he can hunt and kill. Just genetics. Everything we do goes back to little lizard brainstem.

[KenKenpachi]

Slidell505 wrote...

Because our genetic make up still thinks we're out in the jungle fighting off lions and tigers and stuff like that. It doesn't realize that those things aren't problems. So women flock to the biggest toughest guy for protection because he can hunt and kill. Just genetics. Everything we do goes back to little lizard brainstem.

But very easily could head that way, and for much of the non western world, things we take for granted arnt a given. Nor is our own system stable and unending. So I wouldn't say its fully useless. Humans rather are puny and weak and only have an illusion of greatness.

[Chuvvy]

KenKenpachi wrote...

Slidell505 wrote...

Because our genetic make up still thinks we're out in the jungle fighting off lions and tigers and stuff like that. It doesn't realize that those things aren't problems. So women flock to the biggest toughest guy for protection because he can hunt and kill. Just genetics. Everything we do goes back to little lizard brainstem.

But very easily could head that way, and for much of the non western world, things we take for granted arnt a given. Nor is our own system stable and unending. So I wouldn't say its fully useless. Humans rather are puny and weak and only have an illusion of greatness.

I have a bit on that. Still trying to work out the kinks.

[KenKenpachi]

Slidell505 wrote...

KenKenpachi wrote...

Slidell505 wrote...

Because our genetic make up still thinks we're out in the jungle fighting off lions and tigers and stuff like that. It doesn't realize that those things aren't problems. So women flock to the biggest toughest guy for protection because he can hunt and kill. Just genetics. Everything we do goes back to little lizard brainstem.

But very easily could head that way, and for much of the non western world, things we take for granted arnt a given. Nor is our own system stable and unending. So I wouldn't say its fully useless. Humans rather are puny and weak and only have an illusion of greatness.

I have a bit on that. Still trying to work out the kinks.

You know whats sad I totally re-read my message in the voice of Harby....

My god I'm a reaper!

[Naughty Bear]

Fizzeler wrote...

What I can say is women look for people they enjoy to spend time with (never been in a relationship myself), most of the time these guys are decent gents who enjoy the others company.

As a "nice/good guy" myself and coming from advice I heard from friends and others confidence is the key for both the girl who can't get the guy she wants or vice-versa

Unfortunately I lack enough confidence to act through on my crushes

Thats me all over. Confidence to act and confidence in myself. I had a crush who looked like an angel, she was single as well and i had a chance but never acted. She has a boyfriend and is pregnant. She proberly does not know i even exist, it's easy being a pessimist, its like a 6th sense, you can predict and be right knowing disappointment is about to happen.

[Silverfox4]

Jerks have confidence. And if you haven't notice, most women like to be treated a little bad once in a while for self security. Most nice guys are shyer and boring. I am a nice guy and I realize i am a bore compared to most jerks.

[Naughty Bear]

I am fine with friends and my confidence is great, but with girls my confidence sinks like a rock.

[Naughty Bear]

Aeowyn wrote...

Naughty Bear wrote...

Skinny or fat, glasses, nerdy, very very small eyes, know Karate or any other martial art and bad English. TV shows and movies really don't help either (Hangover Asian guy Chow, the Asian reporter on Family guy, Asian kid on American dad), i could carry on if you want.

Jet Li and Jackie are badass and everything but it still does not help the stereotype of an Asians (knowing Kung Fu).

But i generally think its the Asian features of the Asian male that puts the women off. When i was younger i fit the stereotype very well, skinny, don't know martial arts, glasses and nerdy. Now that i am older i workout, don't wear glasses, still nerdy i guess and  i am not fat. I am self-conscience when i look in the mirror.

Lucky bastard.

I have to say, if people don't date you because they have some sick stereotype in their head they don't deserve to date you anyway. Work on your confidence, and don't define yourself by your origins.

I guess this is quite comforting, who knows what the future has for me.

[naughty99]

Naughty Bear wrote...


There is my reason for why i think dating sucks and why i have one night stands.

so you don't "date" but you have "one night stands"? isn't that the same thing? sounds like your love life is just fine, I wouldn't worry about it.

and I know some mixed couples with asian men and white women, go for it.

[In Exile]

OP:

2 things.


1) It depends on what you consider a jerk. There were people that think I'm a jerk, because I don't believe commitment works, i.e. I don't think relationships last-long term, and when I'm with someone, I think they should take care of themself and make their own decisions.

Which turns into: "You mean, he said he doesn't think you guys could stay toghether if you were long-distance!? What a jerk!" or "He broke up with you because you didn't have any career plans after graduation? What a jerk!"

Keep in mind, not tolerating people's BS also could get someone filed as a jerk.

2) "Jerks" tend to be confident and know what they want. There are guys that are actual douchebags, but they don't tend to stay in relationships. In fact, they don't really want to be in a relationship to start.

If you like a girl, go for it. Tell her. If she's with someone, tell her anyway. She'll either not want to be friends with you (and why would you want to pine away after a friend?) or she'll rethink her relationship if she wasn't happy in it to start.

Modifié par In Exile, 23 juin 2011 - 04:19 .

[Naughty Bear]

naughty99 wrote...

Naughty Bear wrote...


There is my reason for why i think dating sucks and why i have one night stands.

so you don't "date" but you have "one night stands"? isn't that the same thing? sounds like your love life is just fine, I wouldn't worry about it.

and I know some mixed couples with asian men and white women, go for it.

No strings attached, no contact and no feelings for each other. We both want one thing. Sex, we both got what we wanted and we go our seperate ways, it can be awkward at times but i feel silly doing all the love stuff, it sounds cheesy to me and i can't be serious about it without making a inappropriate comments. I can not be serious when i have to be serious.

Modifié par Naughty Bear, 23 juin 2011 - 04:20 .

[In Exile]

Naughty Bear wrote...

As a  mixed race Asian guy (half Thai here), would girls be even interested in Asian guys? I saw a Asian guy and a white women as a couple, honestly i was really really surprised it is so rare to find a couple like that.

I always thought white girls are put off Asians because of there features and a high chance their child will look like Jackie Chan (a stereotype and i am insulting myself here as a joke).

Who actually thinks looks are important but personality is more important? Lets all be honest here, appearence comes first for all of us, especially me and but who would look pass the physical appearence actually date a Asian girl/boy for their personality?

Depends what country you're in, IMO. The more multicultural, the less it matters. A friend of mine was half asian (chinese) and I don't think there was a night were he wasn't out and doing well for himself (having fun, at least; hooking up is all fluke, when you get down to it).

[Pups_of_war_76]

:/

No.

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

I'm a middle eastern good looking guy,not white, (7.9/10 !), almost tall with brown eyes and I don't know if European girls like me or not!!!
But, as I can see the matter of awesomeness rules the world, a little confidence and acquaintance is enough for me to start a relationship with a nice girl, but I'm too busy with my grand project

[Addai]

I married a nice guy and wouldn't have it any other way.

[Wentletrap]

Naughty Bear wrote...

As a  mixed race Asian guy (half Thai here), would girls be even interested in Asian guys? I saw a Asian guy and a white women as a couple, honestly i was really really surprised it is so rare to find a couple like that.

I'm 100% Thai,but born and raised in the US. 

Growing up I did see more White guy + Asian girl couples than the reverse, and it did affect my confidence for a while.   I used to wonder why Asian women found White guys more attractive. 

But then I realized, it works both ways.   I always found non-Asian women more attractive, growing up, - and over all , I've had more relationships and romantic success with non-Asian women.   (until I met my Vietnamese wife, that is ). 

If I had to do it all over again, I'd simply be more confident.  Walk tall, pretend you're the only guy in the room.  And make eye contact with her, and treat her as if she's the only girl in the world.

[Lucky Thirteen]

This thread. I can not believe it exists. The ideas are racist and sexist to men and women alike.

I'm a white as a girl can be (Irish/German/British) and I nearly married a Chinese guy, who was the most wonderful, kindest person to me. He took my crap for nearly 2 years, asked me to marry him, and then finally dumped me when he realized he could do better. Why he held on that long, I'll never know and I should have learned to change myself much sooner.

[Druss99]

Its alot like Chewbacca, he is a 7ft tall Wookie from Kashyyyk so why would he want to live on Endor with a bunch of 3ft tall Ewoks. It doesn't make sense...does it?