I don't have a problem with blonde femShep.
Let me repeat: I don't have a problem with blonde femShep. Stereotyping blondes, debasing blondes, sexualizing blondes is emblematic of a patriarchal society and speaks to the way in which gender binaries affix themselves and manifest as fact. Yes, blonde women are stereotyped something awful and are caricatured and yes, it stinks. But– I resent the terms being thrown about without context. Bigotry? Lumping all of the darkhaired Shepards into one category against the blonde femShep? Um no. It's making me pretty uncomfortable.
Check your privilege.Why? Because blonde, brunette, redhead, doesn't matter. The default is still white. The OP was speaking to the kneejerk reaction of the populace to pick "caucasian" as the default face, the ideal marketable face of femShep. Yes, blondes are a rarity in the Mass Effect world, but there is no shortage of female blonde superheroines depicted in mainstream imagery. From Buffy (and maker knows I LOVE Buffy), to Veronica Mars to Supergirl to Olivia Dunham, we get to see blonde women, strong women, white women save the day.
OP, I get what you're saying. I was routing for number 4 and number 6. I was hoping that the sort of socialization that leads to these sorts of choices could be overcome, but I also know that the way cultural ideals inculcate and resonate within our consciousness is subtle and that sometimes we don't even realize that we have internalized them. That's why I will keep my canon femShep, Genvieve Shepard who is part French and part Kenyan fighting the good fight. Saya Shepard, who is a mix of African-American and Japanese-American will also have her time winning against the Reapers, and of course, I can't forget Ellery Shepard (another one of mine) who is black Canadian as she will also have her opportunity to give Harbinger the boot and be a hero as well Those women are my versions of femShep.
They won't be in the marketing of the game and they won't seen by anyone except me either, but that does not negate their existence. This also doesn't mean that I can't support a blonde femShep because femShep is
FINALLY getting her due. The way I see is that it's a start. And it's encouraging that we can have these sort of dialogues, especially civil ones.