I'm late to the discussion again because I sleep while you guys play. (Earth being round and all.)
My hopes for the romance content and pacing is a mix of both previous games. I'd like the romance to take its time, but I'd like more interaction of the different kinds of steps. Initiative flirt, flirt, confirmation, first kiss, sexeh time, more snogging, sucking face, declaration of love and/or relationship status.
With that goes the personal quest, but I'd also like another type of personal quest that sets either BFF or OTL. So double the interaction content right there. I would also like to be able to interact with my followers whenever I want, like we could in DAO.
I would like the pacing to differ depending on who you are romancing. In DAO it made sense that you could jump into the sack with Zevran ASAP, but had to woo Leliana and Alistair longer.
Another thing is initiative. I loved that the PC wasn't the one that took the initiative in DA2 with Anders or Isabela. But I understand that they won't do that again. Still, I'd like for something similar by making just an innocent first move an LI that has the fitting personality can then drive the flirting and be the one who seduced you.
I adored the set up with Alistair, where he would go after you, being driven crazy if you didn't ask him to bed first.